I dated this guy in the military for a few months and we just stopped talking. We told each other how we really felt about each other on Valentine's Day 2004. Some months down the road, we stopped communicating. Then a year later, I find out that he's married! We hadn't talked in a while until the other day when he contacted me. He told me that he still loves me and thinks he married the wrong woman. Come to find out he married the girl he broke up with before he met me! He also said he thinks about me everyday and still has all of the pictures, letters, emails, and text messages from way back in 2004! Should I be flattered or tell him to go suck himself?
2007-08-14 11:37:20 · 7 answers · asked by happygrl2k4 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Let me also add that we NEVER had sex!!
2007-08-14 11:47:19 · update #1
You need to leave him alone! You are probobly not even the only one he has on the side. My ex-husband was in the military and met a girl and denied he was married and had a child just to get in her pants. He's a loser and it's imoral to mess with someone else's HUSBAND. It's good that you did not sleep with him he probobly has an STD or something. He just wants a fling with you. Let it go, your'e a pretty girl you can do better.
2007-08-16 14:42:09 · answer #1 · answered by mimi 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well to be honest with you I have a personal opinion about military men. As a military wife I know that most soldiers marry because of lack of companionship, In the military it appears that married soldiers get privileged treatment. I said that to say this. He could very well have married for the wrong reasons. But if it were not her, it would be you. The grass is always greener on the other side. Its always easy for men to say what they should have done when they are not in the position to do it. He has no loyalty to the woman he married. Don't fool yourself into believing he would have any loyalty to you. Why did you stop communicating. Did he ever have this girl out of his life. Too many unanswered questions. Just know if he is not loyal to her, he would not be loyal to you.
2007-08-14 18:52:32 · answer #2 · answered by TruDiva 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him to hit the road, what kind of arrogant SOB thinks that you would be patiently sitting around for him after he was so deceitful. Married! Hello! I think he is bored in his marriage and looked you up to put some spice in his life. He sounds like a lost cause and it would be best if you didn't play the "other women" for him. he isn't trying to flatter you..he is trying to boost his own ego. It is pure arrogance that he thinks you would allow him to play you for a fool...be strong..tell him that he needs to stop e-mailing you and go work things out with his wife...whatever the problems are!
2007-08-14 18:44:41 · answer #3 · answered by Dragonflyshan 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The only reason he wants you is because he does not have you. He made a commitment to that other women, even if he does actually still "love" you. The fact of the matter is that he is a man who does not know what he wants and will leave you extremely unsatisfied in the end. You cant rely on the guy to be the kind of man you need.
2007-08-14 18:44:07 · answer #4 · answered by blondee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he is married he has no business contacting you at all . tell him you should not be talking to him and hang up because his wife might find out and come gunning for you . good luck .
2007-08-14 18:42:58 · answer #5 · answered by Kate T. 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him that he is married and to holla at you when he isn't. Untill then dont talk to him.
2007-08-14 18:45:28 · answer #6 · answered by California Kush 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont mind him, he just wants to have an affair.
he thinks u r vulnerable and victim number 1..
dont b his accomplice...
his lookin for excitement..
dont be his roller coaster ride!
2007-08-14 18:42:18 · answer #7 · answered by prettyinpink i 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋