How do you cope? **NAVY**?

Question

How do you cope when your fiancee is in the navy, and he just went onto deployment?

Just curious. It hurts so much cuz he's all the way across the country, literally, and I can't go see him.

Answer 1

you cope because you have to. different people cope different ways. don't put your life on hold just because he is deployed.

Answer 2

It is very hard when your fiancee is deployed. Especially, knowing that if something happened to him (injury, etc) you would not be the first one to know. If he is still in country, do you still get to talk to him often? When my fiancee (now husband) was deployed to Iraq I received one phone call every 1 1/2 months and several letters in between. You need to stay busy...focus on what you are doing...planning a wedding...school/work...family...friends etc. It is also helpful to send him care packages or letters or email (if he has access) whenever you feel necessary. Also, remember to feel lucky you have him and there are several other people going through the same thing. I know the Marine Corps have a website for parents, spouses, etc to be able to talk and share...maybe you can find out if the Navy has something like that. I wish you all the best! Good Luck!

Answer 3

You do it one day at a time. Try to stay busy with work or school or hobbies or children.

And build your own support network. You want that support network to include people close to you like friends and family as well as people from the military community like other wives and girlfriends.

His boat or ship should have a Family Readiness Group or FRG and some do let girlfriends/fiances join while others have a spouses only policy. I know our boat's ombudsman gets paperwork from each sailor whenever we deploy giving her the important contact people for everyone. Make sure your fiancee put you on his. Then if the command allows fiances to get involved you'll be contacted. We also maintain a web group to let our members from out of area know what's going on.

Also, you can search online for groups that support military wives. If you look up some of my other answers you'll even find links to some of the bigger groups.

Answer 4

while in an prolonged distance relationship that's extremely complicated somewhat on the taking off to be mutually. you're the two used to being mutually yet nevertheless doing issues on your very own time and schedule. perhaps this became something that she became thinking approximately until now yet wasn't confident and now you're mutually she desires to. If she is doing it for her independence, join a kin and trip yet no longer approximately you the two as a pair that's showing you that she is thinking your relationship. She has additionally informed you that she needs her very own very own room. additionally you're a boyfriend and which capacity you do no longer exist interior the eyes of the protection tension. in case you decide directly to visit the place she is stationed that's going to be out of your very own pocket, she would be able to be required to stay to tell the tale base in barracks or on the deliver and you will no longer have get entry to to base centers. on condition which you have been married could those issues be available to you. What you'll be able to desire to do is take a seat and communicate mutually approximately the place you notice your self some years from now. How committed are you each and every and each to the relationship. If mandatory and you decide directly to proceed then pass to counseling.

Answer 5

I know how you feel. I am in the Navy and my fiancee is in the Navy and he just transferred to another state and I am stuck without him. I hate every second of it. If you don't mind me asking, where is he deployed to? what does he do? is this his and/or your first deployment apart? It might help in me helping you feel better about it. Sometimes it helps having another female who understands.. You are always more than welcome to email me and we can talk, who knows maybe we can help eachother. I hae been deployed to the desert so I can help you however possible. Maybe I can even give you some resources and ideas that most ombudsman don't know... do you know your fiancee's command's ombudsman???

Answer 6

You survive. Ask any military wife.
I was deployed as follows for over 16 years of marriage while I was on active duty: 3 months to Japan while waiting the ok for my wife/son to join me (1969); 13 months in Antarctica (no mail for almost months...before email days)(1972 - 73); 12 months in the Middle East (mail took 10 - 14 days one way, no email)(1987-79); 6 months Indian Ocean @ Diego Garcia (mail 10 - 14 days one way) 1980; 6 months Mediterranean just before I retired (mail 10 - 14 days one day)(1985).
We've been married over 38 years and I retired in November of '85.

Answer 7

I know it's tough. My wife had quite a time coping when I was over a year in Vietnam. You will get through it though. Thanks for what you and your fiancee are doing for us.

Answer 8

well my son is in iraq dear you just have to get used to it and find yourself something to do like get involved with groups maybe a library club . where you read and go once a wk and discuss books. i wish you luck and i hope he is home soon .