im african american...and guys within my race find me very attractive..
however i remember when i was in middle school...i went to a school that didnt have alot of "black" people and was made up of caucasions and hispanics and i felt as if i didnt have a chance with any guys at all because of my race...
no matter how hard i tried the boys just didnt give me the time of day....
but i just graduated from a highschool that had alot of "black" guys and i had no problem hooking up wit them...
why was this?
2007-08-14 11:00:30 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
some people are really immature at a young age and dont accept others, but when they start to mature, its a another story. so basically, people around you matured and saw you in a different light than "that black girl" and as a normal girl
2007-08-14 11:05:44 · answer #1 · answered by steph 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
While the most simple explanation may be just what you already concluded( and I am not ruling out racial bias) ,I want to look at other factors before saying so.You described yourself as being attractive yet said it was within your race. How did you arrive at that particular conclusion?Is it possible that this is all in your mind.Have you dated a guy who was not African American; If not ,would you want to.The fact that you had no problem dating at your Alma Mater,while it may seem to validate your position, may have been been a case of "self-fulfilling "prophesy.I also would have liked to know what you meant when you wrote"no matter how hard I tried the boys just didn't give me the time of day".Maybe you were sending out the wrong signals or trying too hard .I suggest that you give some thought to all the issues I have raised. If you can not arrive at a logical explanation for the events that occurred, then you may be right that it was a situation based on racial bias.But I hope I am wrong.
2007-08-14 11:25:59 · answer #2 · answered by abbeycoolit 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
high school is the age of image, status, and self-consciousness. maybe a guy would get made fun of for dating a girl out of their race. maybe he didn't want to stick out.
did you grow up in a prejudiced area? maybe they weren't allowed to date black or felt that it was wrong.
maybe the guys you wanted to date were mostly attracted to girls of their own race.
2007-08-14 11:07:26 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
it's not because of your race. it has to do with immaturity. when guys are younger, they tend to look for girls that look like them. in other words, they like girls of their own race. as they get older, however, they learn that race is virtually inconsequential in a relationship. that's why you saw more success. that being said, there will always be some apprehension about dating outside of one's race, because it's something of a social taboo, regardless of whether or not it ought to be.
2007-08-14 11:06:45 · answer #4 · answered by begeeman13 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well i guess the chemistry probably didn't exist cos i see black ladies very attractive. girl don't get worried about it. just enjoy life with whoever is available and responsible. take care.
2007-08-14 11:08:13 · answer #5 · answered by Alexis A 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
because sadly our society is filled of prejudice and racism.....and it is handed down from generation to generation....and unless it is stopped by all it will continue to be this way until the end of the world
2007-08-14 11:05:31 · answer #6 · answered by Who Me 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i'm intimidated by asking out black girls. i don't know why. i find them attractive and everything. sorry i'm not sure why
2007-08-14 11:09:43 · answer #7 · answered by luckdragon888 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
depends where in the world you are... many racists won't look at you...
when you are older, guys won't care about the colour of your skin... :D
2007-08-14 11:06:15 · answer #8 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋