use me, use me?

Question

so i've been talking to this guy who is going to my college via online for awhile. So we finally meet up and we hang out and end up making out. I didn't want to get anymore physical than that for now. But that was Sunday night and he hasn't really tried to talk to me since then...I saw him at a dance they had for the freshman and he was dancing with another girl and I just turned my back towards him because he knew that I had seen him. Now I'm getting the feeling that it's awkward. What do you think could be going on?

my problem is i don't like being around guys who date a bunch of girls. but i guess that's what college is all about. like i don't want a relationship but i do want something that won't make we have to worry about getting diseases because the guy is with a bunch of different girls.

How is that jealousy? I didn't want to dance while looking his way...actually I thought it's be really weird if I just danced his way so I turned around. You making it sound like I'm crazy or something.

Answer 1

Wow! Slow down, next time don't make out on the first date, wait until the second or third after you have a better sense of who you are with.

Stop being possessive with someone you just meet, remember don't make out on the first date and you won't have such an emotional attachment so early on.

And, go out with more guys so that you will be able to tell the good ones from the bad ones. And again, don't make out on the first date.

Answer 2

He is a young male, experiencing himself in college. By him not talking to you after your initial hang out, and dancing with another girl at the dance, shows a clear picture that he's probably not interested, even if for just a fling.

Also, regardless of if a guy (this applies to woman as well) dates around or not, do not trust ANYONE when it comes to diseases, STDs, viruses, etc. Just because someone looks the clean part, and acts the clean part, doesn't always mean they are clean. Regardless of who you are with, ALWAYS use protection.

Answer 3

Based on your response, I think that you should see exactly what this guy is after: physical pleasure. He hasn't really tried to take to you since the encounter and he did not acknowledge your presence when you saw him at the dance. I think you should decide what it is that you want and then be very clear to him what it is that you are interested in. If you really like him and believe that he feels the same way, talk to him. It may have been just as awkward for him as it was for you. But, I doubt it.

Answer 4

Nothing wrong with dating a lot in college. The problem comes when you start "making out" with all these dates.

Just date. Don't do anything to allow your companion think that's it's going to be something more.

Unfortunately, you played yourself when you made out with this guy. It sounds like he's through with you now because the chase is over and he conquered his quest and has moved on to the next prey.

It's not the end of the world, however. Learn from your mistakes and move on.

Concentrate on your studying and go out with guys who seem like they know how to treat a lady.

Answer 5

You can't have it both ways honey. Each you are the type of girl the lets a friendship develop and doesn't get involved quickly with a guy and therefore can accept that they can also be friends with other girls - but expect them to be faithful once you start being physical or you give out at the drop of a hat and the guy expects the same from others, and you live with it.

Answer 6

Umm, it was a DANCE, and you weren't there yet, so he danced with someone else. Big deal. You don't own him, and aren't even dating. All you did is meet once and make out.

If he hasn't talked to you since the make-out session, then he is not very interested in you. He probably thinks you are too easy, and get around, because you were so willing to make out before even having a real date. I'm not saying you ARE easy -- he just might think you are too easy because of what happened.

Now he also knows that you are a very jealous person, because you acted like that just because he was dancing with someone.

Think about all that happened, and how you reacted, and modify how you behave for the next guy you meet.

Answer 7

NO HUN IT'S NOT USE ME USE ME OK YOU TELL HIM THAT YOUR NOT HIS TYPE AND GO ON WITH YOUR LIFE . YOUR RIGHT THERE ARE A BUNCH OF DIFFERENT DISEASES OUT THERE AND U COULD CATCH SOMETHING FROM HIM BECAUSE HE GOES OUT WITH ALL THE LADIES THERE AND IS MAD AT U BECAUSE U DIDN'T GO ALL THE WAY WITH HIM LIKE THE OTHERS PROBABLY DID. GOOD FOR YOU KEEP UP THE GOOD WORK AND DON'T LET HIM BULLY YOU INTO HIS BED SO HE CAN SAY HE GOT YOU THERE AND MOVE ON TO THE NEXT ONE OK KEEP HIM AT A DISTANCE AND HE WILL SEE THAT YOUR NOT WORRIED ABOUT HIM GIVING YOU SOME KIND OF DISEASE. GOOD GIRL KEEP IT UP AT LEAST YOU KNEW WHEN TO STOP HIM BEFORE YOU CAUGHT SOMETHING.

Answer 8

he obvioulsy just wants to mess around, that is why everything was great until he found out u were not easy. just because everyone else is having casual sex doesn't mean that u have to compromise how u feel on the subject. u should just forget about him and focus on school. and if u meet someone worth ur wild then go for. good luck!

Answer 9

yes the guy use you!!!!!!!!he is a prayer ok,my advice to you is the next time you meet some-one don't be so easy.you need to have respect for yourself and whats between your legs because you were only a one night stand to him,never forget this learn from it and move on with your life,you're in college so focus on getting your degree the right guy will come along

Answer 10

while in college why not date different guys. getting to know people for who they are will open your eyes and lead you to someone who just might be the right guy.

there is no reason to have sex with every guy you like. you give that part of yourself away and before you know it they are looking to the next girl who will give it up to them.

do not fall into that category. respect yourself and you will be glad you did in the long run.