Please don't assume he's some psycho that's going to rape me. We've been talking for months now and have a pretty good connection. He's a great guy and we tell each other a lot-I think that in person things would be even better. We talked on the phone once as well. He lives an hour away but I don't know if he should come to my house or I go to his or we meet somewhere in between? Any ideas or people who've done this before?
2007-08-14 09:56:10 · 35 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Whatever you do, BRING A FRIEND(at least the first two times), and tell other people where you're going and what you're doing. It doesn't hurt to be safe.
That being said, just discuss with him what you both want. You can go to his place one time,and he can go to yours another. Unless there's someplace with fun things to do in the middle..Then go there
2007-08-14 10:00:51 · answer #1 · answered by A 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
How do you KNOW for sure that he's telling you the truth? You DON'T. Even though you've been talking for months, you have no proof that anything that he's told you is the truth. Look at my avator....I look like a blond headed white female, right? But, how do you really know that that's who I am? You don't. It's NEVER a good idea to have someone you don't know come to your house. If you're over 18 and insistant on meeting this person, only meet him in a VERY public place and STAY there. Don't leave with him or go elsewhere that's more private. Use some common sense and be safe.
2007-08-14 10:05:10 · answer #2 · answered by First Lady 7 · 0⤊ 2⤋
I've never done it, but a good friend of mine just met a guy on Hot or Not and they plan on getting married. I would recommend meeting somewhere not at each other's houses. Meet at a restaurant or bookstore. Also be sure to be honest with each other that you'll keep all doors open, just in case you happen to not be attracted to each other in person. Don't get your hopes up that he'll be perfect. Just be easy going and have a good time.
2007-08-14 10:04:11 · answer #3 · answered by LiveLoveLaugh 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I have met several people from online in person. Just to be safe, DON'T let him know where you live just yet. The first couple of meetings should be in a public place. Then after you are more aquainted, then let him see you at your place, if you are comfortable with that. I am not implying that he is anything less than honorable, But why take the chance. If it all works out OK, then it will take a natural course
2007-08-14 10:06:06 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
Well, meet somewhere that's out and open that has lots of ppl around like a mall or a park during the day. And when you go to meet him, bring a friend, "BUT" have that friend as a guardian angel sorta speak, DO NOT have them come in with you. #1 have him meet you somewhere outside and be late about 5-10mins. #2 then you have a friend drive by him to see if he is who he say he is. If he says he's athletic and drop dead gorgeous, and your friend drives by and sees some fat-***, there's your rescue. #3, have your friend stay close by from seeing distance to help you if you're in trouble, make like a "save me" sign or something. If all goes well, you should be safe to meet this guest of yours.
2007-08-14 10:04:02 · answer #5 · answered by Jack 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It depends on your age and how capable you are of putting a man in his place if needs be. If you're in any way insecure for any reason you should make sure you meet him in a public place but somewhere close to home with a mobile to contact your friends if you want them to come and get you. Just be sensible. There are some wierdos and liars out there, and unless you're an extremely good judge of character its always better to be safe than sorry.
2007-08-14 10:03:18 · answer #6 · answered by pamperpooch39 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Go to a public place. That's what I did when I met my guy in person the first time (we are still dating). Even though we had been talking a while, I think we were both more comfortable meeting somewhere other than our homes.
2007-08-14 09:59:53 · answer #7 · answered by Alli 4 · 6⤊ 0⤋
Even if you think he really is who he says, it's usually safer the first time you meet someone from online that you meet somewhere with a lot of people around. You might also want to consider taking a friend with you or something. Better safe than sorry you know.
2007-08-14 10:00:09 · answer #8 · answered by Cubs39 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Obviously your safety is of the utmost concern. A few things that I would do is:
Meet him at a public place (Starbucks, etc...)
Never go to their house or go to theirs!
Have your friend stationed in your public location you meet in
Anything else that can make you feel secure.
I hate to sound negative, but not everyone is not what they appear to be. However, there are some great guys out there! I meet some cool guys online. Unfortunately no love connections:(
Have fun!!
2007-08-14 10:04:56 · answer #9 · answered by Angela P 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I don't know either of you and I'm not one to judge anyone. I will give my advice. For the first meeting I would meet somewhere public- maybe for lunch or coffee. My sister met a guy on line and they met at the zoo..it was actually a really cool first date.
2007-08-14 10:04:15 · answer #10 · answered by Sara B 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋