Help..Cancer!?

Question

My dad has cancer..help me..how do u deal with this?!

Answer 1

I lost my sister to pulmonary fibrosis in Jan.. and my Mom was diagnosed with non small cell lung cancer about 2 years ago.. so I had to deal with my sister being terminaly ill and my Mother having lung cancer at the same time...
At the time the Doc diagnosed my Mom he told her she had 3 months ( maybe ) to live.. We were all devasted.. I was losing everyone.. and honestly at first I lost it bad..then I had to become the strongone.. I was finaly able to talk my mom into seeing the oncologist.. she had given up.. stayed in bed 24 hours a day .. just waiting to die..
So I drug her kicking and screaming basicly to the Onc.. They did more testing etc.. and said they didn't see her dying like that.. that she might have 6 months or a year..
Sooo she decided to try Radiation.. and it WORKED..they also learned she was full of lung infection and ran heavy duty anti biotics..
Well she has been for 2 3 month follow ups and the cancer has shrunk drasticly.. you can barely see any sign of it on xrays now.. they changed her from 3 month follow up to a 6 month follow up which is next week.. ( eek ) But she is doing well.. she coughs a lot still and has trouble eating due to the burning in her esophagus ( Spelling wrong i'm sure)
But she is in remission.. she is now considered a cancer survivor..

So as others said.. it doesn't have to be a death sentence.. ALWAYS get a second opinion.. always!!

My Father who I am really not close to.. is also in remission from prostate cancer and is doing well..

It is hard to deal with, very stressful, very scarey.. I would sneak in both my mother and sisters rooms and see if they were breathing during the night.. layed awake many nights listening.. peeking in on them..
Even if it isn't imminent death you go through like a mourning.. anger.. saddness.. guilt etc.. its an emotional roller coaster that i'm really sorry you have to deal with..

I hope your father heals..feed him LOTS of greens it isn't a cure but it battles cancer.. also the oncologist told my mom that cancer feeds off sugar and cut back as far as you can on sugary foods, sodas etc..

Share your feelings.. let him know you are there andyou love him.. your going to have to be strong.. your daddy will spend his time worrying about you rather than fighting his battle.. and it is a battle..

Blessed Be
Moon

Answer 2

Cancer no matter what or where or how advanced or not it is , is a huge word and experience to deal with. There is no right or wrong way - i dont know how old you are, but there are good websites for teens/siblings etc dealing with parents/carers with cancer. You just be yourself, but you also need help to deal with all the emotions that you are experiencing, and will continue to. It is a rollercoaster for everyone - I am a recovering cancer patient, and what got me through alot of the down time was knowing that I had genuine support and love from my family and friends. Take care of yourself

Answer 3

my dad had cancer too, i feel your pain, but mate the only way to deal with it is one day at a time, or you will do your head in. If you go further than that you will stress so bad that it will not help you or your dad get better. I hope all works out for you.

Answer 4

My Dad passed away from lung cancer last September. He was sick for 3 months, he was very alert and we never left his side we kept him at home we watched a lot of ball games fishing shows hunting shows. My brother plays the guitar and sings he sang a lot of music to my dad. Just hang in there I'm 48 yrs old and it was the hardest thing I have ever been thru. But I love the man dearly and he is with me everyday . email me if you would like. Listen to what they said above me . Take 1 day at a time.

Answer 5

You haven't indicated your age, your father's age or the type of cancer and prognosis.

All these things will have an effect on how you deal with this.

Some forms of cancer can kill quickly, some can be virtually cured with correct treatment and some are slow growing and people can survive for many years even without treatment!

My mother was first diagnosed with breast cancer when I was only 11, she was treated and had 15 years of remission before it killed her when I was 27.

In this time she taught me to value people for the time you have with them, and live life to the full. I have been able to face my own cancer without fear, as have 3 of my siblings. Hopefully, this has also helped our children to cope. None of us dwell on death, any one of us could be killed in an accident tomorrow. Live for the time you have.

Your own personal beliefs will also affect how you cope at this time.

Answer 6

It is hard. I got Stage 4 lung cancer two and half years ago, so I know how difficult it is to the family members.

We don't know how old he is, and what kind of cancer he has. You may visit my blog which documents my experience in diagnosis and treatment of lung cancer. I also have some discussions about cancers in older people.
http://360.yahoo.com/taichang48

Answer 7

Well, what is the prognosis? was it caught early? get involved in some support group or something. i never had to deal with this....yet. so i dont have great advice, but that i think would be a good idea. cancer is not a death sentence!

Answer 8

You can be helpful by listening when he needs to talk.
It may not be as serious as you think.
Certain types of CA can have successful outcomes.
Take a deep breath and then get more information.
Positive thinking and prayers are good.

Answer 9

just have the best time you can with him while you still have him and dont think about it.

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im really sorry..

Answer 10

hopefully he will get healed.ill pray for this.also be there for him and love him.