I met this guy. After several encounters and small chit chat I tell him I'm available. He gives me his number and tells me to call him when I get into his area. Twice I went to his town because I have friends who live there, and both times I called and said I was in town. It just so happened he would have something else going on but said he'd call me back and just never does. One night I called him, and explained that I really wanted to get to know him better and asked him if we connect on any level. He said he didn't know because he has not gotten the chance to hang out with me but was flattered by what I had to say. The conversation went very well, but I still have not gotten a call from him since. It's only been 4 days but I need to know. He said he didn't want a relationship and I told him that I didn't either. I told him just a casual thing and he agreed. I guess my big question is, do I make one last attempt or do I wait for him to make the next move??
2007-08-14 09:32:43 · 18 answers · asked by ALABLUEYES 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I would not sit around and wait but I would let him make the next move. You both have said you do not want a relationship and if you keep trying, I think he will think a relationship is exactly what you are looking for. Trust me I give great advice. In answer to your question, no I do not think he is into you just himself.
2007-08-14 09:50:16 · answer #1 · answered by saturn 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I deal with this same problem all the time. If I give my number, I don't get a call. If I get a number and call, I usually get told I'll get a call back(doesn't happen). Basically I think he was just trying to be nice without hurting your feelings, if he was interested he would have called you like he said he would. Don't let this discourage you. The best thing when you meet someone is to watch their eyes. People who honestly care will keep eye contact with you and stay focused on what you're saying. Try this after a quick chat, ask him a question on what you talked about. If he can't respond then he's not paying attention and probably doesn't care what you have to say.
2007-08-14 16:43:34 · answer #2 · answered by arsehole_adam 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The distance factor is probably an issue. Not to mention whatever else might be going on at the time. Sometimes guys also say what they think you want to hear as to avoid an argument or any kind of weird encounter from you. Sounds like he did that a little bit. But it also sounds like if he wants anything at all with you - it has to be on his terms...
2007-08-14 16:53:09 · answer #3 · answered by Challah back Girl... 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You could maybe start by becoming friends with him. I suggest that you make the next move, because us girls over think these situations and the guy is probably waiting for you to call, since you were the one to originally call him when you were in his area.
Wow, you're in a kinda confusing situation, but I wish you good luck! =)
2007-08-14 16:39:15 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
4 days if a guy is interested it would've been the next day. Sorry for your losses. If your not looking for anything serious then losing a guy you hardly know isn't that big of a loss. Hope it all works out
2007-08-14 16:41:42 · answer #5 · answered by skyler t 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You may be into him but personally from my own experience hes not into you... He might think your nice or good looking but hes busy doing his own thing and if he wanted to really get to know you and you made the initiative to go there and him respond poorly means hes not into you and if he was he would make the time!!!! He may think your nice but if he truly was into you he would have called!!! Sorry but he sounds flaky find a new boy toy :) good luck with your search!!!
2007-08-14 16:41:37 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You state that you don't want a relationship, but you come off kinda desperate and anxious. Don't fool yourself. By trying to play the friend roll, knowing you can't handle that and you want more. He is probably not that into you, he would have called by now.
2007-08-14 16:51:22 · answer #7 · answered by The Mrs. 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry to be blunt, but I don't think he's into you. He would have jumped at the chance to see you otherwise. Stop calling him. Repeated phone calls will not earn you any brownie points and you don't want to appear desperate in his eyes.
2007-08-14 16:41:26 · answer #8 · answered by sleepingliv 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is not into you. It sounds like you basically threw yourself at this guy and it sounds like he tried to politely deflect your advances. He also indirectly told you he wasn't interested in guy code. "I'm flattered".....that is very nice but I do not reciprocate........"I don't want a relationship"........I don't want to be with you.
You should move on. Even if he was interested at one point, you turned him off by being too aggressive. Men like to pursue women and they do not let themselves be caught by women.
2007-08-14 16:43:17 · answer #9 · answered by Red 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First he doesn't want you so you should not call him and forget about him.....He must have a girlfriend too that is why he is not there for you...Don't be such a stalker! you sound desperate.....if you speak about no relationship so what you want? only sex, he is not going to be just A friend.sorry
2007-08-14 16:40:47 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋