i have been at my job 7 months and it has been rough to say the least. no one was friendly to me from the get go and there were a couple of times when people were downright rude. i am generally a pretty friendly, nice person, so i didnt really understand it. i blamed it on the way i looked or the way i was acting. i started to become friendly with a couple of people i work with, but now i feel like they avoid me again. i will glance at them to say hi and some people will blatantly look away and i dont really understand it. i am fine with the 2 guys i work closely with but i feel everyone else is very judgemental of me. i dont even gossip and am nice to everyone. ive asked my boss if it's something im doing and he says im always very pleasant, so i dont really understand what to do. how do i turn this around?
2007-08-14 08:54:49 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Business & Finance ➔ Careers & Employment ➔ Other - Careers & Employment
Don't be afraid to ask them what the problem is! Worrying and guessing won't get you anywhere (but here). If they just turn out to be nasty people, then you should consider yourself lucky that they don't consider you "one of them".
It's hard working with jerks and if it makes your job to difficult, change jobs. It's not worth it to deal with this everyday. I know, I did it and I finally changed jobs and so wish I wouldn't have waited to do so!!!
2007-08-14 08:59:08 · answer #1 · answered by I, Sapient 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You never know what is in the mind of the individual...which is to say, you can't tell what they're thinking..They may be cruelly staring in your direction, and not even looking AT you! They may ignore your friendly "Hello!", because they were busy thinking about a sick child at home...they may walk past you and mumble something you take as a statement made to you, when they really just got chewed out by the boss. Ever stop and look in a mirror? Well, what we see isn't what others see....so, don't take someone else's bad day, as something you've done wrong....if someone passes, and doesn't acknowledge your "good morning!", say...."_____, Hey! I don't think you heard me, because you were so busy thinking about the meeting this morning...but, I just wanted to tell you have a great day!" Say it with a sincere smile...and if they can't acknowledge that, there's something wrong with them, and not you!
2007-08-14 09:02:56 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I work with all men they were that way at first now they look at me as one of the guys. Sometimes it takes time they may feel threatened or jealous. Really hard to say do the best you can and sooner or later they will accept you or you will find out why when they get comfortable with you.
2007-08-14 08:59:56 · answer #3 · answered by K T 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
must interact with the meanies, just ignore them and do your job. If you really want to know what's going on, start with the two guys that you are friendly with and ask them to honestly tell you what's going on. If they are not aware of any problems, ask them to discretely ask the meanies what's going on. If you are really miserable, find another job. Life is too precious to waste it on doing something you don't like.
2007-08-14 09:06:22 · answer #4 · answered by Suzy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't lose sight of what you're there for. You go there to earn a paycheck not to make friends. Don't be concerned that people don't like you. Do the best job that you can and collect your paycheck. Screw your coworkers. Don't feed into the negative atmosphere.
2007-08-14 09:03:16 · answer #5 · answered by sleepingliv 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I paintings with all men they have been intending to initiate with now they seem at me as between the main men. now and lower back it takes time they'll think threatened or jealous. somewhat confusing to show do the 1st-fee you would be waiting to and ultimately they'll obtain you or you will stumble on out why while they get comfortable with you.
2016-10-19 11:57:19 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If things get to out of hand go to the HR department! Harassment is ANY form of unwelcome behavior! Don't let some one bother you though. Walk away, ignore them, and just do your job! Good luck!
2007-08-14 08:58:27 · answer #7 · answered by THe T 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Talk with one of the employees with whom you were previously friendly. Tell them that you valued their friendship and would like to understand where things went wrong. Stop blaming yourself and enjoy those with whom you are friendly.
2007-08-14 09:00:24 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I know it's tough, but do your job, be yourself, continue being nice to everyone - and eventually some people will return the courtesy. Those who do not never will and are not worthy of your energy.
That's life. You can't please everybody, but you do seem to please your boss - so be true to yourself and don't lower yourself to the level of the people who feel they must be unkind.
Good luck and best wishes.
2007-08-14 08:59:15 · answer #9 · answered by venicefloridarealtor 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
people can be cruel and i know personally that people dont like people who are different.Where i work people dont generally talk to me because i stand erect.I think you should keep being nice and eventually theyll come around!
2007-08-14 09:07:19 · answer #10 · answered by redheaded-bombshell 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋