2007-08-14 08:54:27 · 22 answers · asked by Terry 7 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
I assumed these were fairly straight forward questions and many of the questions start immediately start spinning sex.
Here's a hint....wait until you're about 70 and you'll know how selfishly silly some of the answers sound.
2007-08-14 09:25:04 · update #1
Your right.
My husband went through a year of daily chemo...Sex wasn't top on our list.. But it was a sweet year, in our marriage. Precious and dear.
He is healed and we continue, but I never forget the year of love. In sickness and health...
2007-08-14 09:00:17 · answer #1 · answered by 2ndchhapteracts 5 · 5⤊ 0⤋
Sex began as a matter of making sure the herd continued.
Marriage began as a way to seal alliances.
The two only combined in the need of an heir to bridge the gap between the two families.
Marriage did not start out being about love, still isn't in some cultures.
A marriage based on love is only a partial marriage, you can love someone and still do bad things to them. Lasting marriages are about companionship, trust, security, and protection, love is just the icing on the cake
2007-08-14 10:24:39 · answer #2 · answered by Black Dragon 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
yes it is but I believe that sex is a very big part of that arrangement. It makes us close and leaves us openly exposed to someone else so that you become like the same flesh as the bible says.
Also the world is very wicked and fornication is everywhere and someone who doesn't have a marriage mate could be open to more temtation that someone who has someone to sleep with every night and sex when ever they want it.
We live in a wicked world and sex was a gift from God for the family arrangement. And it is a big part of most people's lives. If you are not satisfying your husbands desires find out why and what can you do to help him.
Or vice versa. We need open and honest communication between married couples. And I think men should be married the bible even says so. It was not good for Adam to continue alone.
1 Timothy 3;1-3 says a man should be a husband of one wife.
1 corinthians 7:1-3 because of the prevalence of fornication let each man have his own wife and then goes on to say to not be depriveing each other of sex. That was a bible command.
2007-08-14 09:05:19 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
Marriage should be about finding that one who understands you completely like no other individual could. It should be about finding your best friend and openly announcing that he/she is the one you want to spend the rest of your life with (and perhaps every life after that). Marriage is about the balancing of energies, the bond so strong that nothing could diminish it - not time - not emotion - not negative energy.
Unfortunately that is what marriage should be but because of how badly our society has deteriorated over the years it has been tarnished by the idea of sex. Now mind you, I enjoy sex just as much and sometimes more than the next person but marriage shouldn't be about sex or lust.
Trust me ... I've learned. I've lived. And in May I shall finally be handfasted to My Love. My best friend and counterpart. The one who balances me completely.
Bright Blessings!
2007-08-14 23:35:09 · answer #4 · answered by )0( Cricket Song 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Odd, isn't it? Sex can be had anytime. But a relationship? Friendship? How easily are they to acquire, achieve? There is an art to all three and all three must be heavily , and equally, concidered before a bond of marriage. And I think the years it takes to truly master all three is what teaches us the expansion of the seed of love that got us interested in the first place.
Just my opinion.
Blessed Be
2007-08-14 13:32:32 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because without sex, it IS rather difficult to develop a Love so great that it WILL "last a lifetime". Been There, Done That, for 25 yrs. Loved being married, to HER. Sex? I have yet to find better. We took those "Till Death Do Us Part" vows rather seriously; She's been dead for nearly a decade.
2007-08-14 09:03:52 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Marriage is both sex and a love so great it lasts a lifetime. My wife and I couldn't legally marry because of her foreign visa. So we made a promise to eachother that sex meant the marriage commitment. Today we are happily married with a newborn baby.
2007-08-14 09:13:44 · answer #7 · answered by wassupmang 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
As my husband and I put it Marriage is a union of two forgivers.
It can be minor things like the gross toothpaste tube to forgetting your spouses feelings. But marriage is much much more then sex. It is holding high reguards to your loved one, even when you are not feeling so loving towards them at the current time. It is going beyond your self.
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2007-08-14 09:01:20 · answer #8 · answered by Kathy H 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
some people equate marriage with sex because their religion doesn't allow to have sex unless it is with one's lawfully legal spouse. i suppose it was another control mechanism on people's personal choices.
however, after 20 years of partnership and lookin at my parents who've been together for nearly 55 years i see how it's the support, the love, the togetherness, the sittin at the bedside at the hospital when needed and celebrating special occasions when they occur that really matters.
i suppose the sex is lke the starter on the car... and the rest is the drive of your life.
2007-08-14 10:17:47 · answer #9 · answered by joe the man 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Marriage cures wanting sex! That just goes to show that Swedenborg's doctrine of the marriage of good and truth is really what is happening in the universe.
2007-08-14 09:06:44 · answer #10 · answered by Brief Boxer 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sex usually diminishes during a marriage. Love is questionable. I know a lot of people that have stayed together even though they weren't in love anymore. Nothing stays the same.
2007-08-14 08:59:19 · answer #11 · answered by Keltasia 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋