I've been dropping hints already that I don't want to be touched, but he still keeps on doing it.
is there any way I can make him stop without making a scene?
2007-08-14 08:25:41 · 13 answers · asked by The Asker 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
This guy is bothering you precisely because he suspects you won't make a scene, which means he can get away with it. It's time to show him just how wrong he is. Make a record of how long the problem's been going on and take it to your boss or HR. You might also want to ask some trusted coworkers for support: my guess is you're not the only one he's ever bothered, and they can help you make sure you're never left alone with him.
If he does catch you again before you're able to do all this, don't be afraid to stand up for yourself: tell him no, scream, slap him if you have to. Remember, he's the one being unprofessional; you're just acting in self-defense.
2007-08-14 08:51:45 · answer #1 · answered by MM 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, if you've already dropped "hints" and he hasn't stopped then you need to actually tell him if you haven't already. Just say,"Look I know you're into me but I don't feel that way about you. So please stop touching me." If he still doesn't stop then you should press charges? I don't know how he's touching you though so maybe pressing charges is too drastic, lol. You could get a restraining order? Maybe. But I do think he will stop if you tell him to, if not he's a weirdo! LOL.
2007-08-14 08:35:45 · answer #2 · answered by ღмσℓℓу 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I seiously wouldn't worry about making a scene if some nasty guy at work wont leave u alone. Just be forcefull. Next time he touches u say ,"Seriously would u stop that!" and dont smile or anything and just walk away. Thats NOT cool for him to do that and u could get him fired for it.
2007-08-14 08:34:45 · answer #3 · answered by Abby Jo 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Simply address him by his name, lets call him Todd. So you would say to him,"Todd, Im sorry but I am very uncomfortable with people invading my personal space. Its not you, its me. I guess I am just kind of weird and need to have my own space. Maybe its because I didnt have it growing up (or something like this).". Saying his name while speaking to him will make sure you have his attention. Then by explaining to him that its you and not him will allow him to not feel attacked. People feel attacked for the simplest things, even when they are not being attacked, but if you can get through to him without him feeling attacked chances are he will be much more receptive to you and less likely to become defensive. Which if he does then you can simply notice and ask him why he feels the need to be defensive. GOOD LUCK!!
2007-08-14 08:51:35 · answer #4 · answered by Amy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-10 05:34:04 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him kindly but bluntly that if he don't stop touching you that you will report him. If he still don't get the message, tell your supervisor in another room or office. If you do have to go to your supervisor, he will get the message because he will probably get suspended or lose his job.
2007-08-14 08:36:07 · answer #6 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
if hints aren't enough, tell him to stop touching you. if he still doesn't listen, then slap him in the face.
2007-08-14 08:34:50 · answer #7 · answered by princess aurora 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Miss Velvet,Clue your boss in , or take Karate lessons and after work one day way lay him !
2007-08-14 08:39:43 · answer #8 · answered by lonewolf 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him if he doesn't stop your going to file a sexual harassment claim.
2007-08-14 08:32:56 · answer #9 · answered by cutensweet 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell him you are going to file a sexual harassment suit on him.
2007-08-14 08:46:40 · answer #10 · answered by modeerhntr2 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋