Ok get this one say you had some plans that were kinda up in the air with your boyfriend to go to this huge atv event that only happens 2 a year that you two have never been to! Some of the girls friends weren't going but some people that you two usually hang out with are going as couples that you see when you go to these kinds of events almost every month. Now your boyfriends other friends asks him him he would like to go with them, but no girls were allowed to go! So now I got pushed to the side and told I couldn't go! And if I did he would leave me, Do you think I had a reason to get mad? Or do you think that I should have just said go have a great time! And yes I did end up going... with other people that were there they invited me to go after hearing how he had told me I was not allowed to go! And yes my boyfriend did leave me do to this saying I was onl;y there to watch him....... mind you these type of events we always go to. Who is in the wrong????
2007-08-14 08:20:36 · 36 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
i can understand him going out with the guys but he has no place to tell you that you cant go. you are your own person and the only reason you probably wanted to watch him is because he was so set against you not going am i right? you dont want to be with someone like that anyways. was he up to no good?
2007-08-14 20:22:12 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Generally speaking, guys need more space in a relationship than girls. It sounds to me like you may have been a little suffocating based on the following:
1. You said you go to events similar to this one together frequently. What's the big deal if he goes to one alone? It's not like he never wants you along.
2. Right or wrong in the delivery, he made it clear he wanted some time alone with his friends. You went anyway. I would definitly feel like there was no trust and no chance for some personal space.
3. He told you if you followed him there he'd leave you. You did it anyway. He left, and your still hanging on to the issue. It sounds very clingy.
It doesn't matter who was wrong or who was right. It's over. Move on.
2007-08-14 08:31:24 · answer #2 · answered by seew 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that you did exactly what you had to do! He ditched you and was very unfair to throw you aside and go with his friends instead. Although this was something that was up in the air, it was something that you were going to do together. He acted very immature the moment he decided to go with his friends, and especially when he threatened to leave you if you went. He was very selfish to say that. He could've at least suggested that each of you go with each others friends (separately) and you could meet afterwards or even the next day... You acted VERY maturely and I’m happy that you made the decision to go with your friends. At least you found out what kind of boyfriend you had before he did anything worse to you. ALWAYS Take care of yourself the way you did. YOU GO GIRL!!
* BTW, people need to stop picking on this girl... She obviously needs your advice regarding relationship, not grammar. Let her teachers worry about that.....
2007-08-14 08:33:05 · answer #3 · answered by mariluv505 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let me get this straight- you told him you couldn't go, and if you did, he'd leave you? That's the first mistake. Were you telling the truth? Making a prediction, which might not have been true? Both? Your friend's friends were immature and testing him. I think he would have rather gone with you. He told you girls weren't allowed (not that they weren't) and asked you to go? That doesn't make sense. But I still think he would rather have done something wtih you. But reasoning aside, under your described circumstances, if true, he was the one whose wrong.
2007-08-14 08:28:55 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is defintiely in the wrong. There was an event that you two planned to go to together, that you BOTH would enjoy.. so who is he to tell you that YOU can't go?! He sounds like a real jerk!! And then he leaves you because you went to an event that you were wanting to attend?! He is immature and you are better off without him!!!!
2007-08-14 08:27:12 · answer #5 · answered by Chelley 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like this is an event you really enjoy, and he's a real jerk for trying to keep you from it. He's wrong, and good riddance to him. You should never let someone tell you that you can not go anyplace. They can say, "you can't go with me" or "I'd perfer you not go". But never "You can't go". It's a free country, girl. Go whereever you want and with whomever you want. You don't need him anyway. Sounds like you have many supportive friends and a full life without him!
2007-08-14 08:27:00 · answer #6 · answered by tushanna_m 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-19 11:56:51 · answer #7 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd say he is in the wrong, he should not have made plans with you if he didn't want to go with you however the thought of going as a group of couples is a lot less appealing as going with his mates so I can see y he would want to do that, he just could have been a bit more sensitve when telling you he wanted to go with his mates. you should have decided to go just you 2 and meet friends for a wee while while their.
2007-08-14 08:27:00 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
He's a idiot..
There had to be a reason he didn't want you to go.
If he had already planned to go with you in the first place then he should have never told them he was going to go with them instead.
Your better off without him if he wants to leave you for the that.
2007-08-14 08:26:27 · answer #9 · answered by cutensweet 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Frankly, he is in the wrong. Even if he changed the plans and was going with his guy friends instead, who is he to tell you where you can go? I think that is what is important here. You are not his child that he should be able to order around and tell what to do.
Since he broke up with you over you not doing what he told you to do, I would be grateful and tell him you are so glad you got to find out what kind of knuckle-dragging neanderthal he is rather than wasting your time and finding out later.
2007-08-14 08:24:30 · answer #10 · answered by Jennifer C 4 · 3⤊ 1⤋