how to handle a situation?

Question

well my best friend used to live next door to me and almost a year ago he had to leave because of problems with his father. but he left three sisters and one who he practically raised till she was 8 months old when he left but i see her outside running around with her sister and father and i cant help but hate them all. I dont understand how he goes through life everyday not regreating what he did, his son/my friend refuses to talk to him. i wanna scream at the father just because he took so much away from me and my friend, and my friends happier where he is now but we both hate being so far apart. and kills me having to still be near his family.

any advice on how to deal or get over hating the father?

Answer 1

Well I'm anything but honest so don't hate me for this!!!!

Your friend or you failed in a certain.... way? How do I put this.... you don't hate the father, your anger with him, but it would be bliss for the whole situation if you actual hated him (hate means feeling nothing, and I doubt serious that you feel NOTHING for this father, anger if anything, but something.) Ether way my point with that is to show you that, that anger is your mind telling you of two choices you've got. Ether you try and change the father or you try and change yourself. Now what you can do for yourself is to confront the father!!! Let him know your anger, your frustrations, you'll feel so much better at the least!!! It doesn't matter if it fixes anything, at the very least this man knows your mind, and thats a POWERFUL thing. See everytime he sees you, everytime he thinks about you, everytime he even tries to avoid it, he'll remember you and what you said! Talk about payback right!!!! But you not saying anything is not going to helping. Shoot he might see you and think theres that whore my son liked so much, or wow what a trick wonder if she'll help me cheat on my wife? See its your purpose to make him FEEL you, without that your sub-conicious is going to beat you up about that becasue your a better person then that!