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know some of u read about my cousin losing his bladder and bowel control in a car accident .i have a problem because every morning he wakes up and starts to cry because he had accident at night . u would think he would have got use to waking up with a wet diaper but he dosen't act like it . he's usely wakes up around 7:30 or 8:00 and starts to cry and i like to sleep till 9:00 . what can i do for him to get use to waking up with and accident. hes 23 years old and he dosn't have brain damage

to have patience u need sleep i love him with all my heart but once and a while i need a little sleep

anything i can do for him to get more sleep at night . please don't say ur selfesh or ur mean . i need help would u help me find a way for to get sleep

he all ready wears diapers

Answer 1

SLEEPING PILLS

Answer 2

If you want to sleep in, which personally 7:30 is already 2 hours later than when I get up, any way, I would wake him up some time around say 5:00 AM and have him to go the bathroom, then everyone go back to sleep. See if that helps and maybe he'll wake up dry then. Otherwise, just put yourself in his shoes, would you at your age enjoy waking up with a mess? I know I would probably cry everytime it happened to me. The elderly even after years of incontinence will start to cry, because it is so frustrating. Good luck.

Answer 3

Have you asked him what you can do? If he hasn't suffered brain damage the situation for him is obviously a serious dibilatating condition. If he wakes up at the same time everyday with soiled diapers it's my bet his accident just occurred. Why not try rearranging your sleeping habits and get up an hour earlier and avoid the embarrassment for him. I'm also assuming he's okay during his waking hours? Is he able to use the toilet at these times? Good luck.

Answer 4

If you need more sleep than he does, then try going to bed a little earlier. You'll get the extra sleep you need and be ready to face the day. I'm sorry your brother had the accident and I will certainly pray for him.

Have you spoken to your parents about your feelings? Can they help? Can you move to a different room or to the basement or upstairs? Do you share a room with him? Can he be rehabilitated to control his bowel and bladder?

I know these are a lot of questions, but I would hope some of them could be answered. Also...Ask GOD to help you get the sleep you need and to help your brother with his infirmity.

And darling...as hard as this is on you, I don't think of it as being mean...but put yourself in his place for just a couple of minutes and see if you can feel his despair. He doesn't mean to be a burden on you,,,he's just helpless right now and truly needs your patience and support.

I do commend you for being there for him. I pray that you will get the answer you seek and your brother will return to good health. God bless you and good luck.

Answer 5

Have you thought about the adult diapers? I know he might not like using them, but at least he will stay dry against his skin. All the other suggestions are good also about limiting his intake of fluids at night, and also keeping him up a little longer at night. But I would seriously look into the Depends Diapers or other brands for him to use at night. This way he wakes up feeling dry, and you get to sleep in a little longer.

Answer 6

I'm sorry you're going through this; him also. I commend you for your patience so far. I can imagine though that he's having problems emotionally being 23 and has accident's. Yes you need sleep so that you can show him love and patience, so I would suggest getting an alarm clock that goes off every 4-6 hours so that he can get up, use the bathroom, and not disturb you.

Hope that helps! God Bless you both!

Answer 7

you said he has no brain damage, but can he care for himself? if the answer is yes, then it's time to have a talk with him. when he has an accident, then it is time to get up and get cleaned up, not wake up the whole house. if he cannot clean himself, then make an agreement with him. (I know it's not nice to have to lay in a wet diaper, but I'm sure you can find some common ground.) tell him you will come in and check on him at a certain time, and if he needs cleaning, then you will help him. let's say, 8:30. I know you like sleeping till 9:00, but maybe you can compromise. if it will allow you to sleep and extra 30 mins to an hour, then it would probably be in your best interest to try to make this work. also, limit his intake at night. depending on what time he goes to bed, you might want to try having him not drink anything 2-3 hours before that. if he gets thirsty, he can have just enough to wet his whistle, but not a whole glass. if he doesn't have much in his system, he is not as likely to go as much.

my mom's ex moved in with us after he was kicked out of assisted living. he got to where he couldn't take care of himself, and we took him in. he was a stroke victim, and could no longer control himself. we had to do everything, including getting him in and out of the bed. he could have whatever he wanted to drink all day long, but at the end of the day, we limited his liquids. that way, when he woke up in the morning, he was not just absolutely soaked. there were a few times we had to change his sheets, but when we started limiting his intake, it didn't happen as much. if you start with two hours, he should go before he goes to bed. also, check on him right before you go to bed. that way, if he is wet, he doesn't have to lay in it all night long. good luck!

Answer 8

Can he change his own diaper? If yes, then set an alarm at 6 in the morning. If you can find an alarm where you can record a specialized message then record the words "bathroom break". when he wakes up have him go to the bathroom and change his own diaper. when hes done he'll go to bed and the whole time you'll be sleeping!

Answer 9

You need to change your schedule and go to bed earlier.
There are many things to help him sleep, but there is nothing that will help him accept the fact that he lost his control at night and help him deal with it, short of councelling, and I am sure that's already been done.
It's difficult to be an adult and need diapers, I don't care how old you are. It's degrading to any of us and something none of us will ever be willing to accept.

Love and patience and yes, a lack of sleep is all you have.

Answer 10

I would get to the heart of the matter-his crying. He is distraught and devastated. This is what needs to be addressed. Get him some one who can help him deal with the trauma he is experiencing. And find out what you can do as well to help him heal faster.

Is there a way to sleep in separate quarters? My naturalistic Doctor states that the best sleep for body rejuvenation is between 10pm-6am, so you need to go to bed by then to completely rejuvenate your body. 11-7 and 12-8 don't do it.

God bless you for your love and compassion and Patience. He is blessed to have you as a cousin.

Also, is there some one who can help you out so you can get some much needed rest?

One thing you can do is make a list of "what fills your tank" ie: bubble baths, talking to friends, sleep, going to lunch with friends, time in nature, God time, exercise, eating right etc. and be sure you get some of that in everyday.........this will help you with your patience.

sleep is mandatory. You can not help him with out taking care of yourself first. Talk to him and work it out.

good luck to you both!

Answer 11

Who gets to sleep until 9:00? Most people are at work or school then.