Should I put my daughter in a different school?

Question

My daughter is 7 years old. School is about to start and I'm considering switching schools. The reason is because last year she was being harrased everyday. To make a long story short, my daughter has never known her father or his family. But he has a niece that goes to the same school, and she was constantly saying mean things to my daughter, and telling her things that made her upset. Everyday I had to fight with my daughter to even get her to go to school cuz she was scared to go. My ex's family just keeps finding ways to harras us and my daughter gets scared. So should I transfer her to a different school so that she doesn't have to have any contact with this family, and actually be able to enjoy school?

Answer 1

This shouldn't even be asked. Without a doubt you need to get her out of that school and put her in another. It's not fait that she has to be going throught this, she's at an age where school is fun, and she should be enjoying her time there, not having a miserable time and not wanting to go. It's not fair for her, imagine what she might be going through, or what she's feeling. Give her a chance to have a better school year, and get her away as possible from those people, they are not worth it, and they are just causing unnecesarry pain, frustration, and possibly even traumas on your little girl. If I where you, I would even change cities.
Good luck with all this, make sure to tell your daughter how loved she is by the people around her, and that those people are not worth her time. God bless you both!
People suggest talking to the school staff, but I wouldn't waste my time, my mother had issues with my brother about being bothered, and not much was done, doing that will most likely make things a little worse, and your daughter will most likely get teased even more for telling them. I don't speak out of personal experiecen, because my children are still not going to school yet, but I speak from my mothers experience.

Answer 2

This kind of a tough question to answer-

On one hand I say no- it's eaching the child to run away from the problem instead of standing up to it and her rights to attend the school she wants to go to. On the other hand it would remove her from being harrassed. It should be the other way around! The one doing the teasing and all should be removed. Is the school aware of this problem? Here in AZ it would be considered bullying and schools dont put up with it. I would get the school admin involved and if they dont do anything I would go higher in the good chain. Sometimes it takes that if the principal doesnt do something. Also depending how the ex's family is involved harrassing file a police report where there can be no contact with you or your child. Why ex's have to be so darned stupid! There are reason's your ex is an ex family.., live with it and go on....Good luck dear! Hope it all works out with your little girl. Give her an extra hug from us all. If it were ok I would tell her to deck the other child, but that would only cause more problems...LOL

Answer 3

If the niece is not in your daughter's class, they should not have any contact whatsoever. You didn't mention talking with the school's administration- have they been any help on this? If you have tried getting the teachers and staff to work with you on this and nothing has been done, I would definitely consider switching schools. School should be a fun safe place- your little girl doesn't need to be involved in all this drama. Good luck!

Answer 4

Yes, I would move her out.

These formative years at school really set the tone for how well she'll cope with schooling in the future. Granted she may always do well even if you keep her in this school - but why not take the opportunity to put her somewhere where school will be a pleasure for her to be? I would make a huge difference to her as a person and possibly how well she does at school.

Answer 5

I think you should switch schools. And I wouldn't normally give that advice, I'm more the stand up to them kinda person. But she shouldn't have to be subjected to that kind of behavior. If you decide to keep her at the current school, you need to speak to the principal about what has been happening. You can request that they not be put into the same classrooms and things like that.

Answer 6

I would speak to administration in the school. They should be able to keep their contact to a minimum if at all. They should also know, in case the situation escalates. I wouldn't take her out. It is not her fault the other girl is allowed to harass her, and the other girl if anything should be kicked out or removed for harassment. She has a right to attend school in a safe, friendly, caring environment.

Answer 7

wow... this is a tough one... i think u could go both ways...

Bad: keeping her at the school she is now will allow her to keep her friends... and if u really want her to stay... i think u should really sit down and really talk about how u feel with your family...if this doesn't help, also keeping her there... she will continue to get harassed everyday!

Good: if u do make her transfer schools... she will make new friends and will not hopefully be scared to go to school anymore!

BOTH: i really think u should let her decide weather she wants to stay or leave... or talk to the Principal or something.
I HOPE I HELPED U! GOOD LUCK!!!!!!!!!!

Answer 8

I say "confident". I even have been a instructor for 25 years and that i will say that many of the time, teenager get into issue, it is through youngsters they're putting around with. a clean college can exchange this.

Answer 9

I would move her to another school if she were my daughter. The constant harassment from the other child is interfering with her education. Your daughters physical and emotional well being are important. If the move will help than move her.

Answer 10

Yes, send her to a different school. Or keep her home. Nobody should have to suffer through being mistreated, especially not a young child.