I think I know, but what do yo think she means?

Question

Last friday, i told my ex who I have remained friends with since we totally called everything quits that I sometimes wish we never would have dated so we could have remained the best friends we were b4 hand. I didn't feel we could ever go back to how we were b4 the relationship, which is what I want. Our friendship was incredible. She said she never regretted getting together, things happen for a reason, and only time will tell what it all means. I tried talking to her the next two nights and she wouldn't answer. Finally Sunday she asked if I regretted the relationship with her. I told her no, and explained again what I meant. She asked me how I felt and I told her she will always be my friend and big part of my life. She told me i was everything she was looking for in a person, but right now is not the time in her life. She said she misses us together from time to time and that she thinks of me more than friendship still at times. I want to know exactly what she is getting at?

sorry, I added this to singles/dating forum and friends by accident. I didn't know which to put it in LOL

Answer 1

I think she still have feelings for you aside from being bestfriends, and she was hurt when you told her that you regretted having more than just friendship. Most of the times, women falls inlove with their bestfriends because these are the person that knows your intimate secret and still accepts you. Most of us women only wanted to be loved and accepted and it really breaks our heart everytime we feel that we are rejected.

Answer 2

I think she is being pretty clear, but I can see you are having trouble processing it, maybe because it wasn't the answer you were hoping for?

She seems a bit more accepting of how things work, and is grateful for all you two have been through and all you have been together. She values your friendship, but she is not completely "over" the relationship in its most recent form: that of boyfriend and girlfriend. I think she (wisely) feels that she cannot go near the friendship until she is no longer ruminating about you in the boyfriend sense.

Leave her be. She knows how to contact you if and when she is ready to try and resume a friendship. And listen to what your friend had to say: You really cannot ever go back to things the way they were because the reality is that you two went to another level. You may have inadvertently hurt her feelings by saying you wish the two of you had never dated. You may be clear on what you meant, but maybe she wasn't the person you needed to share that with, and/or maybe your timing was all wrong for her. She's your friend. Be kind to her and let her finish healing.

For you, this is a lesson learned.

Answer 3

Give it time and space. Don't call her up so much. Let things settle down first. Then see where you both left off & try to pick it up from there slowly. Don't close any ends. Who knows that you might both find yourselves in a relationship with each other again.

If you both had a very strong friendship before, it will go back to where it was before. The old fashioned way of being firm friends first before you get into a relationship in this case will work.

Answer 4

It is hard to go back to being the friends you were before. But time can only tell where life takes you both. Sometimes you need the time away to realize what you had together and maybe you guys will end up back together and maybe not. But it will be hard to not think of the times you were together and to not see it as more than friends sometimes or even the reasons that you ever started dating and became more than friends. Sounds like she may see more in your future together.

Answer 5

Ya know... some of the best relationships go through these types of growth. That's what keeps some couples married their entire lives. Some people look over whats right in front of them. They look back years later and ask themselves...."Why did I let her go?" She may be feeling that way about you right now. Be completely clear with her what your intentions are. Stop and think of how you really feel about her. This might be it!

Answer 6

She probably means exactly what she told you. She sometimes likes you as more than a friend but she's not ready for anything yet. I was in the same position as her. You just need to be patient with her. If you want her back as a best friend, it will be tough, but its not impossible to get back to that point. I've done it.

Answer 7

I think shes still hopeful that you guys could get back together but she might not want to just come out and say it. She doesnt want to scare you away.

Its true that you can never get back what you had. You have to start over, but that doesnt mean it wont be as real as it was.

Answer 8

it sounds to me like she's telling you she still has feelings for you still as well as caring about your friendship. For whatever reason, this doesn't seem to be the right time for her to be with you, but maybe sometime in the future she might want to rekindle whatever you guys had. The question is... Are you willing to wait and see?

Answer 9

I think she's telling you there is a possibility of a future together, but she's not ready for it now. Don't put your life on hold waiting, but if it's something you'd like as well, time will tell. For now, be the best you can be for each other.

Answer 10

Means she still wants to be friends and possibly more. Nothing wrong with having an intimate relationship with your friend. More relationships would last longer if they married their best friend. Good luck, hope it works out.