We known each other for a 1 1/2 now and have been dating for 3 months. He said when he first met me he told himself he was going to marry me. We talk about everything like whats going to happen when we get older alot of personal stuff and he tells me what people say about us and and he says when we are around 20 he wants to get married but he stills wants to see what is out there is what he says,what does he mean by that? we have the same interest and he always tells me he loves me and and that I'm pretty and that I'm not afraid of working and getting dirty and I'm not needy, whiney we do everything together go to church, work at the farm. Hes so sweet and he would never hurt me and he always feels bad if If he needs something and I get it for him when he didn't even ask for it. He never makes me or forces me to do anything I don't want to. One thing though he doesn't introduce me as his girlfriend? I love him so much!!! How can I reassure him I feel the same way.
2007-08-14 04:32:54 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You're still very young and have no idea what a 'soul mate' is. Yeah, you like each other and may even love each other but you still have so much to learn about life. You can't make anyone love you or feel a certain way about you. Unfortunately (for you) most guys mature quite late in life about taking on a specific person as a "life mate"...that's a scary thing to most of us. So we have to be absolutely sure we make the right decision. And...how can we know that if we don't test the waters and meet more people? I'm afraid that you may be "the one" but he'll probably have more girlfriends before he realizes it. Be strong and know that it's not about you or that anything is wrong with you.
2007-08-14 04:37:28 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Honey, he sounds like a charmer, and you know if you have doubts now then that is a good sign that there is something amiss. Maybe you should casually say something like this the next time he talks about loving you and marriage, " I don't know if I will be ready to get married at the age of twenty, there is so much out there in the world I haven't seen yet and I think I would rather wait until I know for sure that you are the one for me." That should set him back on his heels, I think he is so use to you worshiping him he is to confident in you being his girl, he may need an eye opener that you are not needy emotionally.
2007-08-14 04:42:55 · answer #2 · answered by preshus 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let me give you a little bit of advice. By the time you're in your mid twenties, you're both going to be completely different people with different interests and different personalitites.
I wouldn't suggest to anyone to get married before they're 27. You need to be financially stable, and to have enough time to know who YOU are as people, what career paths you're going to take, etc. Getting married before 27 would only complicate things and probably lead to an early divorce.
If you love each other and really want to spend the rest of your lives together, then why the sense of urgency? You've got all your lives to be together. Slow down, take it easy, you'll be glad you did.
2007-08-14 04:38:45 · answer #3 · answered by Roland'sMommy 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I know this. I was in this relationship. I dated this guy I had known for two years and our relationship lasted two years from that point. I'm 16 now, and broke up 3 months ago. What I can tell you, is what I know, from experience. I learned a lot. And I know exactly how you feel, because I've felt that way. It's wonderful isn't it? You feel like, everything in the world is right, when you think of him you feel flooded by love and adoration, but you feel that awful fear of losing him. So here is what I learned, and what I know now.
Honest Communication is so important, always tell him what's on your mind with you two and be honest. Be friendly and polite when you tell him, but he needs to know so you can always work everything out.
Talk about the future, but don't plan it seriously. It's puts an unnecessary stress and pressure on the relationship, plan it when it's closer to happening.
Always take the relationship day by day, don't expect to plan to be with him forever, just love him like crazy and never take the relationship like granted. Day by day. This is so important.
Have fun. But have serious times as well. You need both.
Don't forget to take some you time, and hang out with just the girls too. This is really important too. I'm serious.
Don't ever change who you are or what you like to make him happy. ever.
Now on the more negative side, this is also something that's true.
You guys are young. You're still growing up. You're both going to change and go through changes. And you won't always change in the same way.
You have to do stuff for you, and make the plans you need to make. Go to the college you want to go to, take the career you want to take, and don't plan on settling down early. Or else you wake up one day in your life miserable, wondering what your life could have been like if you had planned what you wanted to do. And that is a relationship killer.
If it ends - you'll be okay. It's hard, it sucks, you want to cry, and scream. for awhile you just dont' care about a damn thing because you're so miserable. But 3 months later, depsite that I still love him...I'm doing great. I'm over it, what we had, because that no longer exists or ever could because of who we are now. I'm smiling, and living life to fullest...and I'm talking to new guys - guys who are like me! and it's wonderful. I'm happy. So I know you'll be okay. As everyone in that situation will be.
This isn't to say it can't last forever. Because it can, and it's happened. And hope for it! Love him, care for him, appreciate him and what you have. Take it day by day. And just tell him you love him! Let him know how you feel!
2007-08-14 04:55:26 · answer #4 · answered by ILY 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're not even 20 yet, you've only been dating for 3 months, and you're stressing marriage and soul mates? Relax a little. It sounds like you've got a good thing going so enjoy it. Don't stress about what it is not yet and what it might be when it is so good right now.
2007-08-14 04:41:32 · answer #5 · answered by Rob B 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
1. There is no such thing as soul mates, so don't come back here whining when you're 21 because it's not working out like you thought it would.
2. He's not introducing you as his girlfriend because you're not. He already told you he wants to "see what's out there." That means he's dating and sleeping with other women. Or at least he will if he finds anyone willing.
2007-08-14 04:37:05 · answer #6 · answered by janicajayne 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Love is kind and patient, never jealous, boastful, proud, or rude. Love isn't selfish or quick tempered. It doesn't keep a record of wrongs that others do. Love rejoices in the truth, but not in evil. Love is always supportive, loyal, hopeful, and trusting. Love never fails!
2007-08-14 04:35:31 · answer #7 · answered by kristy 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
IF THIS UNMARRIED One, AHEAD WITH YOUR RELATION, PEOPLE ASI DIFICILMENTE YOU ARE GOING TO RETURN TO FIND. IF IT LOVES TO YOU, YOU MUST REQUEST TO HIM THAT YOU ARE ITS FIANCÈE. IF NO, TO FORGET IT
2007-08-14 04:42:19 · answer #8 · answered by Hugo Z 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋