I've been dating this girl for a little over a week now, and finally last night, i get the courage to kiss her as were at the beach, under the stars, watching the meteor shower, with a blanket and a bottle of white wine, and she doesn't give me any tounge, and im thinking "ok, shes 22, shes probably shy, doesn't want to fully kiss me yet" then i get a little tounge out of it, and she stops me and says "can i ask you a question?", and i say "uh oh, what?" and she says " i dont like french kissing, its a pet peeve, i think it feels awkward. Well, this really takes me aback, cause im a 25 yeart old man, who loves french kissing and a good make out sesssion and i think kissing is the most passionate part, and i cant date anyone who doesnt, but shes really cool, shes a great person otherwise, i just dont know what to do, how to break it off the right way, i mean, i even asked her if she would try french kissing with me, maybe im different, and she wouldnt. I cant move on like this, help!
2007-08-14 04:25:31 · 8 answers · asked by chrisj7682 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Wow, that's one of the most shallow things I've ever heard. If you would really think of breaking up with her over that, then it's a very shallow relationship.
2007-08-14 04:34:03 · answer #1 · answered by kate 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
okay, some people just aren't fond of french kissing. You know? It doesn't change who she is. And it's not like she said she hates everything else you guys can do. So you love french kissing, be creative and find other things as the relationship goes on that you love even more. I think breaking up with her just because she doesn't enjoy that type of kissing would be pretty shallow. I'm sure there's things that you don't like to do, that she loves to do. How would you feel is she broke up with you over something like that? If you try and pressure her into it, you'll just make her feel uncomfortable. And maybe as time goes on she'll grow to like it. You never know. But give her a chance, and don't break up with her over something silly and small in the scheme of things, especially if she's a great person.
2007-08-14 04:36:02 · answer #2 · answered by ILY 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I so want to say you are being shallow... but honestly, you really are not. You don't sound like you've been really serious about this girl, but still, if you really like something and she does not, especially when it comes to love and sex, then you are not compatible. I would simply tell her that. You don't feel the spark. You don't feel like you two are on the same wavelength. There is no chemistry. Then just let her go. You'll be doing BOTH of you a favor.
I'd feel differently if she was just shy or inexperienced or just not ready because you've only been together a week. But if she literally doesn't LIKE french kissing and you do, then I have to say that is probably a deal breaker. Who knows what she won't like when you two got more serious! Be a man and dump her before you get too attached. She isn't likely going to just suddenly like doing what you like.
2007-08-14 04:34:04 · answer #3 · answered by Mr. Taco 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well if she won't even try it with you, than I think she's being close minded and a bit inconsiderate. I think it's natural that you want to break it off with her. It's not being shallow. It may be more that the fact that you love french kissing; it may be that she's not giving you a chance to change her mind about french kissing.
2007-08-14 08:11:49 · answer #4 · answered by Audrey 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You sound shallow to me. You are ready to break up because she doesn't want to give you any tongue. I give her a thumbs up for not falling for your little seduction scene. You've only known her for a week. You must have it down pat. First week I get tongue-second week I get laid. Third week I get ???? I won't go any further-I think you get the meaning. She's to good for you. Find some other little tart that will put out. There are hundreds out there that will give you all you want. Move on!!!
2007-08-14 04:44:47 · answer #5 · answered by dee 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
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2016-10-10 05:11:22 · answer #6 · answered by fauntleroy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she's probably shy, try to convince her. she probably ahsn't met a good kisser yet. i love french kissing, oh my word
2007-08-14 04:35:47 · answer #7 · answered by babybear 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OK, you're in the majority, and she's a little crazy, but everybody has their thing. If you can't handle the no tongue part, you're probably best served moving on. She's 23, she knows what she likes and what she doesn't.
2007-08-14 04:32:15 · answer #8 · answered by Expat Mike 7 · 0⤊ 3⤋