only 13 but...?

Question

ok so i know some of you are going to be like "oh my gosh you only 13 go play with barbies" or something but if you were going to say that then please dont even answer. ok so heres my problem alot of people in my school have boyfriends and i really like a guy but ive never even had someone ask me out. i dont know but its just really frusterating sitting back and watching everyone be happy. anyone else can relate?

Answer 1

Then ask someone out.

Answer 2

I know it feels like the end of the world when it seems that everyone but you has a boyfriend. You sound like a pretty smart person. I don't think you should go play with barbies but I do think you should not be in such a hurry to grow up. Just hang out with friends in groups and have fun. Enjoy what you do have right now and eventually the rest will come along. At 13 even the most mature sometimes get into situations that are hard to get out of and could be life changing. Be a teenager and a young adult before being tied down with the responsibilities of a grown up.

Answer 3

OMG you only 13 go play with barbies... jk.

Yeah, sometimes when we look around and see others happy that is what we want, and that is normal. Just remember, though for most of those people this will end in heartache, and pain. Is that something that you want at such a young age, I mean when I was 13 I dated and got hurt and tried to kill myself, now I'm not saying that you'd do the same, but it caused me more problems than i needed.... although I did learn a lot of stuff that some people never learn.... but still ya know, i wouldn't recomend the same...

Answer 4

I felt that way when I was 13 until I realized that I was happier than all of them. I had lots of fun and spent more time being a kid and didn't have to deal with any of the drama. I wanted a guy to ask me out, but it never happened because we always became good friends. I'm married now with 4 kids and happier than ever. I married my first true boyfriend at 23, we met when I was 21. Just relax, it will happen when it's suppose to.

Answer 5

mmhmm. im thirteen too.

[barbies are for five year olds lol]

but anyway, i can totally relate. im one of those people who have a lot of really nice, funny, and pretty friends. and basically i would say im pretty nice and funny too, but i look kinda plain next to them. theyve all had boyfriends and have been going out since fifth/sixth grade and i was really jealous...

so jealous that when a kinda disgusting guy asked me out i was like sure, just so i could have a boyfriend.

do nottt make that mistake. it was horrible. embarrassing. it was like...ugh theres not even a word for it. -_-

heres the thing tho, all my friends that have boyfriends all the time never have one that they really fall in love with. its basically a really shallow relationship. and thats usually the case with people who date all the time.

basically, what im trying to say is that if you wait for a really long time until you get a boyfriend, when you do get that boyfriend it will be even more amazing. and if you're not especially beautiful, and plain (like meee) then if a guy asks you out thats pretty hot, you know he likes you for more than your looks.

you're definitely not alone. just hang in there, and he'll come. :]

Answer 6

Yeah, it sucks to feel left out. Well do something about it. Nobody in life is going to hand everything to you. Sometimes you have to grab things and bring them into your life.

So, get off "the bench" and go for it. Find a guy you like, ask him out on a date, to a party, or to a ballgame. Since you're inviting, you pay for the date, not him.

If that is too intimidating for you, ask him to join your friends and you to some event (party, bbq, hike, skydive, whatever) and see if he responds to it. If it's negative, move on to the next guy on your list. Eventually, you'll hook up with the right guy for you. Keep trying - we guys do!

Answer 7

Why are you basing your happiness on whether or not you have a boyfriend? That's a bad mind set to get into. There are going to be times in your life when you will be alone, and you have to learn how to make you happy and be comfortable being alone. If you continuously base your happiness on other people, you are going to be disappointed alot.

Answer 8

im 16. and i USED to could relate
i used to be the kid who would li that she ahd a bf in chico or something just to feel part of the crowd.
but then one of the guys from high school asked me out and i was able to rub it in other peoples faces (mean, huh?)
but anyways my point is you'll grow out of it
finding a bf is not an important thing
i would juts work on finding some guy friends, they'rw way better than boyfriends

Answer 9

You may need to look at yourself, and be honest with yourself.

Are you happy with just being you?
Or do you need to go out and be with somebody to feel good and happy about yourself.

Use this time to work on you. Do things to compliment yourself.
When people see the confidence that you have in yourself, it will draw them to you, or even away from you if they feel intimidated by your confidence.

Don't let anyone, any boy determine how you feel about yourself.

I wish you the best, and hold your head up!!

Answer 10

oh...i can relate...its very deppressing
honestly...just be your self!!!
dont try to change one bit for him
and i no its not like your going to marry him
its just to have fun
but you might fall really hard for him and get crushed
and thats not good
find a guy that you like...dont lead him on yet k!
just talk to him and dont be wierd just be normal and
be fun!
if you are to shy try getting hyper or something lol its worked for me
being hyper gets you out of you comfort zone
after you've talked to him once or twice
you will get comfortable and he will get comfortable
but still only keep it friendly
find out alot about him...if he starts acting like he likes you...start flirting but do not over due it...he might think you are wierd and intimidate him
keep a friendly flirt
if he flirts back...thats a good sign...he just might ask you out
but make sure he doesnt do this to every girl...thats a player
and trust me it will hurt you more then anything to get played!!!
if you see this tell him...sorry i dont like players....he would be like wat are you talking about im not a player and say yes you are i see you talking to girls all flirty and stuff all the time...dont mention yourself!!!...well im not a player...im not so sure about that yet....and turn away

well if you have anymore questions just email me...good luck and hope i helped!!

Answer 11

yeah definitely.

im 13 too
but the way too look at it is that people are dating but all they are doing is getting themselve hurt...
but dont be looking around for a boyfriend, just have fun and be yourself and sooner or later although may want sooner someone will come up and you'll be happy when it happens