My mom is so unfair!! Help me!!?

Question

Well, I am trying to save up money for a cell phone, because my mom won't get me one. So she knew that I was. I started doing chores around the house, cleaning room, cleaning my bathroom, mom bathroom, doing dishes, cooking dinner, cleaning up after dinner, cleaning the living room, bringing in the trashcans. And I asked her how much I should get paid, and she said you wanted to get paid everyday? I was like maybe, how much in a week? She said 5dollars!! I was like I am 13, and I have only done one days work, but even if I did more it would still be 5 dollars!! I was like this is such a ripe off!!! I could go over to my grandmas house and clean one room and get that much!! How do I get her to up her amount? I think she just doesn't want me to get a cell at all. Please help me!

To all of you that say I can IM my friends or something, I can't I'm not allowed.
Things I am not allowed to do
No Myspace (or anything like that)
No IMing
If I have email, she has to read every message.
So, ya. I'm a bit limited. Also, if I'm talking on the home phone, she keeps the other home close by. I think she listens to convos. with me and my friends. Some that I don't want her to hear.

Answer 1

tell her to get you a pre paid.. maybe she'll feel better about it.

or, just wait it out until shes tired of saying no.

Answer 2

From a grandmother who has a thirteen yr old grandson, we worked out a deal where each chore has a set $ amount. Jobs done in the house that should be his (making his bed, cleaning his room etc.) are exempt because I believe he should be able to do some things around the house especially his own stuff and not get paid. But things like weeding, washing our cars, mowing the lawn etc should have a $ amount and he keeps a timesheet like a job would with his hours and what he did. He gets paid on Fridays like a job but he had to get a bank account and puts a percentage in the bank he can't touch and some to pay his cellphone bill. These days I believe a 13 yr old should have a cell phone as long as he shows responsibility and doesn't abuse it. Show your mom you have responsibility and draw up a similar plan and she'll see how you are growing up. I think she'll appreciate your maturity and initiative. Maybe you can have your grandmother help with the $ amounts.

Answer 3

Dispite what you think your mother is giving you the popular amount. I get the same allowence and I am your age. What you don't realize truly is your going about it the wrong way. Do your territory and tell your mother you think that this would be fair to work on the places that you have destroyed (your room and so on) and you should still be earning five dollars work with that for a few weeks then start doing bigger things like mowing the yard, cleaning her bathroom, sweeping the porch and you should be offered maybe eight dollars. But even then you will have to pay for your own cell phone bill which is really expensive and an uneccessary luxury. Your friends can talk to you through IM and school. BUT if you really have your heart set on this phone then your going to have to be patient save up you money for a year and when you buy a phone don't buy anything to flashy go for cheap so you can pay the bill and only talk after 7:00 thats when free minutes kick in. GL

Answer 4

First of all...I realize that this is something that you really really want and that it will make you super cool.
But, you are 13. You do not need a cell phone.
Second... even if you did save up the money, how do you plan on paying the bill every month?
Third... You should be doing your chores for free.

Maybe for now you should concentrate on building her trust by allowing IM and/or myspace... a little at a time and hopefully when you get a little older she will reconsider.

Answer 5

1. You don't need a cell phone at your age. You and your friends can use the regular phone.

2. You should be doing those chores for free. Everyone in a family has a responsibility to help the family succeed and you should not be expecting payment for doing your part.

3. Even if you save the money, it's up to your mom whether you get a phone or not, because you are too young to legally sign the contract for the phone, so your mom would have to sign it.

4. Perhaps you should pay your mom everyday for what she does for you. How much do you think you owe her for paying the bills, doing your laundry, grocery shopping, cooking your meals, babysitting you, taking messages for you, and driving you all over the place?

Answer 6

You shouldn't need payment for helping your mum to keep the house tidy, remember you also live there, if you are capable of helping then you should.
The reason your mum promised to pay you $5 per week is to motivate you in helping her around the house, you obviously didn't do this before you needed a cell phone!

After you have got your cell phone are you going to stop helping your mum?
That wouldn't be fair would it?
Your household is not an office where people are employed to clean up, so in my opinion you are getting well paid, $5 per week sounds fair to me $5 per day = $35 per week.
Think about it, your mum probably wont be able to afford that amount of money out of the house keeping that will leave her short.
Would your grandma pay you $5 per day for a whole week? I don't think so!

Personally I think you are the one being unfair to your mum.

Answer 7

Try to tell your mom that you are doing a lot of work and you are being more responsible and you think that it would be fair to get paid more. Go with the 5 dollars for right now and after a while fo you doing those same chores everyday or when it needs to be done then ask her if it can be raised. Myabe right now she thinks that you arent going to keep up with the chores and after a while of doing it that you will stop and not do them all. Show her she is wrong and prove to her that you can be responsible enough for a cell phone. Thats the best I can think of hun. Hope you it works out for you.

Answer 8

Help around the house, do dishes and clean your room!
What a fantastic daughter!! Getting even $5.00 a week for helping shows that your mom knows that you are doing more than your share!
Try saving all that you can, and babysit--or-- help someone clean (that you know well). You'll make it, and as soon as your mom realizes how much that cell phone means to you,
I think she might change her mind!

Answer 9

Getting a cell phone does not just involve the initial cost of purchase, there's monthly user fees. And the more friends you call, the higher the costs. Your mom is probably concerned with this ongoing cost, which can get very high. Maybe you should have a talk with your mom- make it clear that you're willing to seek work outside of the house (babysitting, yard work, etc.) in order to cover the costs of the phone. Maybe sign a contract with her stating that if you can't keep up payments for your phone, you'll give it up. Something like that. Good luck...

Answer 10

When I lived at home I did those types of chores all the time.

I had a monthly allowance of $20 (which would be even less than $5/week.

Some parents have the money to pay their children and others don't. You definitely have to consider your families financial situation in this equation (which is possibly difficult at 13).

Answer 11

As hard as this will be to hear, your mom isn't being unfair. You should not have done a whole bunch of chores and then demanded money. What you need to do is sit down with your mom BEFORE you do your chores and discuss what your mom will pay you to do. By the way, you should not be paid for cleaning your own room or your own bathroom, you should be doing that anyway.