Boys...do me a favor and answer this!?

Question

I know he hides secrets behind my back, nothing serious though.i know it from a reliable source, i can't tell my boyfriend about these secrets because he'll know that person who tell me stuff, it will just ruin everything between them..
well now,i don't mean to be a dramaqueen & i'm not usually like this, i tend to be more open-minded..

but this..It's really bothering me so much since we've been years together, and i thought we have all the trust for each other. It really breaks my heart knowing he's still capable of lying behind my back..

My Question is simple and not judging, Are all guys like this?
and should i still trust him & just how 'open-minded' should i be??


urgh..i'm in hell..please someone comfort me..i think i'm about to lose the last person i can really trust in this world.. lucky i still have my dog..hiks T_T

Answer 1

No, not all guys keep secrets. I am the most honest guy I know... If it's good news or bad news, I'm gonne be honest and tell you how it is. I've been brutally honest at times, but the saying goes: "The truth is like surgery: it hurts, but cures."

If he's lying to you, then I wouldn't trust him. You shouldn't have to play these games, wondering what's the truth and what's a lie. Soon, your inability to trust him it will become something serious... And it will threaten your relationship. Either tell him to come clean, or leave him behind.

But be careful, too: How reliable is your source? How do you know it isn't the liar?

Answer 2

No two people are alike, male or female. There is of course, a difference between exaggerating and lying. And the motive for lying also is indicative of how big a problem a person has with not being truthful. The bible says every man (and women) is a liar, and it of course encourages everyone to be totally honest. Developing trust in a relationship takes time, and being totally open and honest also takes time for both men and women. Only you can know yourself, what you want in your man and how far you are willing to go to develop a trusting relationship. Part of this process is talking about conflicting statements that others say and what each of you say. I would talk to him about it in a diplomatic way. Every good relationship grows with honesty and communication in all areas of life.