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Question

how would you feel if your son is dating a gold digger? most women my friends and i dated are gold diggers. we don"t know where they are coming from.

Answer 1

If my son was dating a golddigger I would not be a happy camper and would express my feelings until he dumped her.

Answer 2

I wonder what your definition of a gold digger is? To me it means a young, beautiful woman who is dating an older, unattractive man because he has a lot of money. It seems like a pretty fair trade in that situation, both people giving up something to get what they want. As long as both parties are aware and in agreement, I see no problem with it. If one party was being taken advantage of by the other, then that would be a problem. But it seems to me you are asking a different question than how a mother would feel about her son dating a gold digger. You seem to feel like you and your friends are beset with this type of woman right and left, and you want to know where they are coming from. If you are old, unattractive and rich, you might be looking in the worng place for a woman. Get out of the strip club and try looking elsewhere for a woman, perhaps at the local senior citizen's center or bingo parlor. I'm sure there would plenty of ladies there only looking for companionship, not expensive gifts.

Answer 3

Of course, you know where they're coming from. You saw them coming from just that very direction. And in the end, it doesn't matter. You had a choice to let them keep right on walking. Instead, you and your buddies pulled out your assets and said, "hey, little girl? want some candy?". So why are you feigning chagrin about dating "gold diggers"?

If you're attracted to a girl who spends a lot of time on self-maintenance and tend to provide for themselves all those little shiny, glossy and girly-smelling products that make them feel like a hot chick out to make the world take notice, then you're potentially dating a chick who's gonna want to be taken care in the same fashion she provides for herself, or better (usually better). Does that make her a "gold digger"? It depends on her and what she ultimately wants in a dude. You do the math.

If your son is emulating your past dating history, then well, it's not hard to see why. He's YOUR son; he's probably experienced and/or noticed your dating patterns--your kids do tend to do that, you know.

And interestingly enough, you don't indicate whether or not you think it's a "bad" thing that he's dating "gold diggers"--you're only asking how someone else would feel. You don't need to ask us how we'd feel about your son's dating life. Again, he's YOUR son. If it's a habit he won't get anything constructive from, give him the benefit of your expert advice.

But don't pretend you or he are victims of "gold diggers". Just like Donald Trump or any other man of means who likes attractive arm candy, you definitely know where they're coming from--and how they end up in your wallet. 'Cause chances are you were right alongside them, scoping them out, giving them every indication that you had what they wanted. Right, Big Daddy?

Answer 4

Well, to each his own. If you're dating a gold digger then that seems to be what you're into. Otherwise you'd date some chick that works at McDonalds, right? There are lots of women out there, all types. I have friends who are gold diggers and friends who aren't. If you're ok with it, why should anyone else judge?

Answer 5

Your son might know that already.You have to give him credit for being able to see that.Alot of guys that go out with gold diggers are attracted to people that are not at the same level as them.If he comes to you then listen it is part of the process of seeing your children grow up.
She might actually be very sexy and hott but that doesnt mean shes a gold digger.If she wanted money she wouldn't need to have a relationship with a guy.

Answer 6

How do you know they are gold diggers? I think it is extremely prejudiced of you to say that most women are. Is your son happy? Then who are you to interfere? Do you have proof that she is a gold digger? Did she tell you she was only in it for the cash?

Answer 7

By gold digger do you mean someone who ONLY dates you for your money?

There are some men and women who have standards set for their lives. They only want to have a relationship with someone who is successful. The level of success is determined by many different things. Many times based on how much profit one acquires.

There is nothing wrong with having standards. Most of us do not want to end up in a shack on the bad side of town. Nor do most women want to support a man. It is the mans job to provide a good home for his woman.

If the woman or man is dating someone who is successful because that is part of their own dream and they truly love the person I say there is nothing wrong with it. Standards are good.

If they are only after money.. then it's horribly wrong.

I would hate it if I thought my children were being used in that manner.

Answer 8

Then you are looking for the wrong kind of girl. You have to find the girl who doesn't care about jewelry and gifts. Find the girl who wants to go for long walks or cuddle while watching a movie. Those are the girls worth keeping.

Gold diggers are found at the mall. Go volunteer somewhere or get involved in other activities. You'll find the true girl there!

Answer 9

if my son was dating a gold digger, she'd be hard pressed to find a lot of gold! he has an upper middle class income and he's not donald trump!

i would expect that, if my son was seeing someone who just wanted material things all of the time, he would hopefully recognize it and end the relationship.

i always wanted to be a gold digger, never knew the proper approach.. or maybe i just don't have it in me???

take care.

Answer 10

Maybe its the kinda vibes you put out.
Men in wealthy, powerful position are targets for gold diggers, don't put your self out there in an arrogant way , by flashing your wealth around.
As for my son dating a gold digger.. I would casually tell him similarities I saw in his relationship with out being to obvious about putting her down. Many times a child will do the exact opposite of want you want them to do "just because they can".

Answer 11

My best friend once dated a girl like that. He was very oblivious to the fact that it was happening. It's kind of a "trend" for women to be like that now, which is a shame. It's kind of like they come out of nowhere, and most gold-diggers have mothers that are the same way.

So here's a tip : Meet a woman's mother before you marry her!