My only daughter is getting married in September. She took me looking for a dress at Davids Bridal. She wants me to wear a long dress with no sleeves I really don't want to but I said if she absolutely wants me to wear it I will only buy it if I can get a jacket to go with it. I have no problem with it being long but it looks like a prom dress and I am almost 50 yrs old. I will probably will never wear it again. And I want to be comfortable that day, I love my daughter and want to make her wedding special just don't know if I should get this dress or not? What is your opinion?
2007-08-14 03:33:16 · 15 answers · asked by Dawn 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
I'm sure that your daughter wants you to look like a princess, too! See if you can get a shawl to wrap around yourself if you can't find a jacket.
If the dress is really that bad and you can't stand to wear it, just tell your daughter (nicely) that you don't feel comfortable in it. See if there are any other dresses out there that you could wear. Stores have wonderful MoB dresses that aren't prom dresses. =)
I found this one on David's Bridal... It has a jacket! http://www.davidsbridal.com/mother_of_bride_detail.jsp?stid=2964&prodgroup=59
2007-08-14 03:41:08 · answer #1 · answered by theewokprincess 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have a long sit-down talk with your daughter about it and find out why she wants you to wear that specific dress. You can base your decision on her answer. If it is just because she likes the dress, then maybe the two of you can talk it over and come to an agreement on some slight changes to the style. If it is because she wants you to fit in with the pictures, then you may be able to compromise with some changes, but not many I imagine. If it is because she thinks you look great in it, I would probably say to wear it. There are other possible reasons, but I am sure you are a woman with a good head on her shoulders and can make a good decision in the end. Just talk to her about it and voice your concerns.
If you concern lies in never wearing the dress again, you can always sell it after you are done with it unless you want to keep it for sentimental reasons.
Congrats to her on the wedding by the way.
2007-08-14 03:43:56 · answer #2 · answered by The Shadow 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think it's unreasonable for your daughter to ask you to wear a long dress, but the style should be something you're comfortable wearing. I would think that by looking around some more, you could find something you would both be happy with. I also don't think you should go into this with the idea that you would wear this dress again. Unless you go to fancy formals, you're not likely to wear again the type of dress that's suitable for a mother of the bride. Get the dress that's right for this ocassion. If it happens that you can wear it again, great, but don't let that be a factor in choosing it.
2007-08-14 03:47:09 · answer #3 · answered by Trivial One 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Your daughter should have taken YOUR thoughts into consideration! I would NEVER have asked my mom to wear something that she wasn't totally comfortable in and that she wasn't a big fan of. I'd consider talking to your daughter and saying that you dont think you'll be super comfy on her wedding day if you wear the dress she picked out, so you'd like to go shopping with her again and try on some more dresses (and you're bringing her along for her approval). While this is her special day, its yours too...your only daughter getting married! You should be comfortable and feel pretty too.
2007-08-14 03:39:14 · answer #4 · answered by its about time 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Find a dress that you feel comfortable in. My mom got a strapless bridesmaids dress and had the seamstress make her a 3/4 sleeve jacket. Oddly enough even with having to buy custom fabric and have the jacket made It was much cheaper then buying an almost identical MOB dress. Find something pretty that you are comfortable in. Compromise with your daughter tell her that you are going to choose the dress and she can choose the color.
2007-08-14 06:22:00 · answer #5 · answered by JM 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My opinion is that your daughter is being selfish and controlling on this. Sit her down, say you aren't comfortable in that dress, and you'll go out by yourself and find a dress that is both suitable for the occassion and comfortable for you to wear.
Your dress should compliment (but not be the same color) as the bridesmaid's dresses, and it should preferably be the same formality (don't wear a short skirt if everyone else is in long ones, and vice versa). Those are the only guidelines you should have.
2007-08-14 03:45:52 · answer #6 · answered by Pink Denial 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I absolutely do not think you should feel obligated to wear the dress if it makes you uncomfortable. That feeling will transfer over into the day and it is totally unfair to ask you to do that. There are so many classy choices out there that do not cost an arm and a leg. I was married at 41 and had attendents from the age of 30 to 52 in myw edding...I did an all MOB look for them as they were all sizes from 4 to 24...and I got the most compliments. I got them all from Chadwick's (wwwchadwicks.com) for $129 and some ladies hemmed them and made a suit out of them afterwards...so feel free to express yourself as you want int he dress...just be sure you compliment her clolors and do not class with the groom's mom. :-)
2007-08-14 03:45:08 · answer #7 · answered by Kimberly W 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Go to Bloomingdales, Macy's, Nordstrom, Lord and Taylor etc. and find a dress that is practical and that you will feel confortable wearing.
You are right, if you are spending more than $100 on a dress, let it be something that you can wear again. You don't need to wear a costume ar feel like the prom queen 32 years too late. You can wear something dressy, trendy, practical and age appropiate.
Good luck
2007-08-14 03:39:30 · answer #8 · answered by Blunt 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You should really get a dress that you feel comfortable in. If your daughter likes the color, just find a dress that matches but in your style. I'm sure your daughter just wants you to have a beautiful gown like she and her bridesmaids have, but if you feel awkward, don't get it. I'm sure your daughter will understand. You're mother of the bride! You earned the right to be spoiled on that day too, so get something you like!
2007-08-14 03:46:36 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
She really doesnt dictate what kind of dress for u to wear and it is ok for u to find something u feel is more comfortable and makes u look just as good as the dress she has picked out. I find it kind of odd with her wear it and shut up attitude and u need to tell her that u didnt tell her what type of wedding dress to wear so she shouldnt tell u what u have to wear especially since it makes u uncomfortable. but let her down gently and easily she is probably super stressed out...
2007-08-14 04:50:45 · answer #10 · answered by THE UK WILDCAT FAMILY 10 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋