Hello !!!! I am here Ask me I can speak for myself Also in a shop (Yes i would like a bag for it Don`t talk over my head)
2007-08-14 03:18:19 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
If you are making fun about disabled people you should think again as it could very easily be you next you do not know what is round the corner. I am not in a wheelchair but have many friends who are. I am not speaking out for them Patronizing they can and do speak for themselves. You are all very nice people!
2007-08-14 05:22:32 · update #1
If you are making fun about disabled people you should think again as it could very easily be you next you do not know what is round the corner. I am not in a wheelchair but have many friends who are. I am not speaking out for them Patronizing they can and do speak for themselves. You are all very nice people!
2007-08-14 05:22:35 · update #2
It is quite rude to act as though another person who is present is not there.
2007-08-14 03:21:35 · answer #1 · answered by hopflower 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I get this, it's so annoying.
I can understand why some people are assuming you're disabled for this to be happening to you, but that's not always the case. I'm not disabled and this happens to me.
I could be in a queue in a shop talking to whoever I'm with, but we are both buying something, if the person I'm with goes first the people behind the counter assume I don't want anything because we're 'together' and they move on to do something else, serve someone else, or just chat to a workmate. I end up having to call them back, "hello, I'm here, I would like to buy something too"
really gets on my nerves when people do this, and I get it all the time.
2007-08-18 15:42:36 · answer #2 · answered by Limpy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi. I work part time with disabled people and part time with old people with Alzheimers. I completely agree with you. Sometimes, though, relatives visit and they talk to you (with the resident in the room) as though you are on your own. So i ALWAYS turn the conversation round to the person involved and address them. So, if I took you out I would never talk as if you weren't there - I would ask YOU. I respect YOUR opinion and YOUR wishes, not other people's.
2007-08-16 18:37:05 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I guess I would hate that. I don't have that problem though. Does this happen often to you? Is there a reason? Are you in a wheelchair? I heard this happens often to those in wheelchairs.
There is no reason for ignoring anyone; I just wonder why people are doing this to you.
2007-08-14 10:27:18 · answer #4 · answered by Patti C 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No human are right or wrong in your question. they just phrasing their believe and opinion. No matter what they say, ignore it or take it for your challenge. I am talking here base on my friend who are also disabled. He can live strongly and he is even smatter than me( he is a degree student now and i am still a diploma student). So how can you say about that?
2007-08-21 03:33:42 · answer #5 · answered by Mohd hadi 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My mum is in a wheelchair so i know what you mean , and its really annoying to me and to her when we are out shopping together.All i can say in the rude peoples defence is that they do it out of ignorance and embarrassment, coz they don't know how they should react towards a disabled person.They should be pitied and not condemned!Rise above it and make yourself noticed, don't allow rude ignorant people to drag you down to their level!!
2007-08-14 19:42:30 · answer #6 · answered by bevalou 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just ignorance. Amazes me they do not know what the dissablement is but they seem to automatically think the person deaf dumb and blind.
What goes round comes round
2007-08-20 11:09:22 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
yep, people think if you have a disability you are stupid and dont know how to talk to others, it also makes them nervous (i think its lack of understanding and education). i encountered the same thing when i took my friends blind sister out a few times, and she gave them a what for in the middle of the shop, needless to say, they will get used to it.
2007-08-14 10:23:57 · answer #8 · answered by katrinawllc 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I deliberately ignore the carer (not to total exclusion but put my questions to the person in the wheel chair etc). I too get annoyed when people answer for others as if they are not there. My mother does it to me.
2007-08-15 06:05:03 · answer #9 · answered by zakiit 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think perhaps you neglected to tell us something (?); perhaps you are the Invisible Man or something. People always ask questions like that directly to me. Do you have a caregiver helping you? If so, tell them to not answer for you, and request the person asking the question to ask it directly to you. For instance, "You'll have to ask him if he wants sugar", unless you are actually invisible, then chill out you have more serious problems.
2007-08-14 11:40:20 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes. The very thought of the phrase often keeps me awake at night.
2007-08-14 10:21:37 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋