okay so my husband and i got into an argument yesterday morning, well things got thrown..NOT at me intentenally but a chair hit me busted open my face and mouth and the cops were called by our neighbor..well the cops didnt belive my story and took him to jail. well hes supposed to get out today....or atleast thats what we hope. now since its demstic violence will he get out today or will he not? i said i didnt want to press charges but the police did anyways...this thing called AMYS LAW in ohio...but yeah! helpplease...do you guys think that in most cases they let them out the next day??
2007-08-14 03:16:27 · 10 answers · asked by Danielle 1 in Politics & Government ➔ Law Enforcement & Police
okay just so you guys no..he didnt purpusly hit me with the chair. he threw it and i just happened to come up from the side of the bed when he threw it and it hit me. we were just yelling. things never really get to violent.. i mean okay they were talking about im not supposed to be around him or im not allowed around him..what will happen if i make contact with him? how do i drop charges? and what will happen with our kids now that this is on his record?
2007-08-14 03:25:41 · update #1
i just looked at your previous question and let's look at the facts: he gets mad when you won't give him head, your great grandmother died and he said that you could not miss your first day of work so you could not go to the funeral, he does not want you talking to your mom, cps has already taken your children away once ( i am curious why), and you say "I feel like he's not worth all this but I have two kids with him and love him very much", now he throws a chair and hits you (not intentionally) and busted open your face and mouth. honey he is escalating. can't you see this. you have to think of your kids and what they think and feel when they see mommy's face and mouth busted open. when they ask what happened and where is daddy what do you tell them. if you don't care about your safety you have to care about the childrens safety. he may not physically hurt your children but this will affect them emotionally and mentally. if your kids were older and they came to you and told you the same thing was happening to them what would you say? children learn by example is this what you want your kids to learn? you need to get away from him. hope things work out for you. one more thing all your questions have been since june 25, 2007 that has got to tell you something. no matter what your husband says things will not get better and he will not change; at least not without counseling and anger management classes. i feel that while he does this you two need to be apart. you may want to seek some counseling for yourself to help you through this. best of luck.
2007-08-14 04:07:44 · answer #1 · answered by amanda t 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your husband took a chair to your head, and "busted open your face and mouth". It IS domestic violence, the state WILL prosecute without your assistance, and they probably WILL let him out tomorrow, even though they shouldn't.
Either the next time, or the time after that, both you and the system will take it a little more seriously.
2007-08-14 10:23:08 · answer #2 · answered by Citicop 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Assuming this has never happened before, it should never happen again. He needs anger management and your marriage needs therapy. Adults do not work this way to resolve conflicts. The courts will deal with him, being DV, you will have little to say about that. You can make a statement in his behalf, but it will probably have little to no bearing on his case, as most women who are battered defend their husbands. I'm not saying you are battered, just saying that's the way it will look to the courts, and they are blind. Good luck with this and take care!
2007-08-14 11:03:06 · answer #3 · answered by .. .this can't be good 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's in big trouble..
because there will be a restraining order to keep him from the house..it's automatic for domestic violence cases.
And he wont be let out anytime soon if he can't afford the bail...it ensures there is a cooling off period and the safety of the victim.
2007-08-14 10:26:33 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
After Amanda was smart enough to check out your other questions I also looked at them. Your husband is an all around ********. Stop covering for him, start taking care of yourself and your kids and dump this loser. He is never going to respect you unless you have respect for yourself. Get off the computer, start packing while he is in jail and start a new life. Good luck.
2007-08-14 12:12:15 · answer #5 · answered by Mary N 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Whatever happens, do consider anger management for him. It's just going to depend what the courts feel like "finding" with the case and such. Just learn from this that your husband obviously needs help to change, because he can't figure out how to handle things like an adult apparently...
2007-08-14 10:32:28 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
C'mon, now. Stop making excuses for the guy. He committed serious domestic violence this time, and will definitely do it again. Please don't ask anyone to believe this is the first time. Believe me, it will happen again and again with him begging forgiveness and promising never to do it again after every happening. You deserve better treatment and a better man. Think of yourself for once and stop blaming yourself and coming up with excuses for him. You are worth more than that. Good luck.
2007-08-15 01:50:13 · answer #7 · answered by Penguin_Bob 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leave him in Jail, and the next time he gets stupid remind him about boys camp, if i were you i would learn the difference between living with some one and playing war hero. if you like to fight join the Army they would give you and your so called man a fight you may both wish you never asked for ,
grow up. its 2007 not 1940.
2007-08-14 10:23:54 · answer #8 · answered by t-bone 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I know a few guys who would like to have you.
2007-08-14 10:21:56 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
call
2007-08-14 10:36:07 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋