then we got into an argument and now he is saying that he dosent know if he can put a ring on anybodies finger. he is 5 years older than me and this is the first real serious realationship i have been in. plus i will be the third mother to one of his three children. what should i do!!!!
2007-08-14 03:15:22 · 13 answers · asked by amanda b 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Honey, you def. dont want to be anybody's baby moma. If you and him are truly in love then yes get married, preganant or not. If you are just doing it for the child then think seriously about it. He doesn't seem to be that responsible to havetwo OTHER babys by two other women. Think about the environment you'll be raising your baby in and what you'll be put through as well.
2007-08-14 09:43:12 · answer #1 · answered by LOVE BEING A MOMMY 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow. I'm sorry. That sucks. First of all...it sounds like he has MAJOR commitment issues. 3 different kids from 3 different women?? A little argument shouldn't throw your marriage plans off track. Every couple that's planning a wedding is bound to argue over something sooner or later. Is he just looking for an excuse to back out?? How does he treat you? Does he deserve you? Are you ready to marry this man? I do believe you should get married for the baby's sake, but if it's not going to work in the long run...why even bother? You need to have a serious talk with this guy and tell him how you really feel. Good luck!
2007-08-14 10:29:53 · answer #2 · answered by geminiqtpie22 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get a lawyer for child support now. Don't have the child stressed about financial obligations, as well as emotional family love. Let your family help you, don't do this alone.
It is a very vulnerable and emotional time, and you may say and agree to things you wish you'd been more sensible about. It's a mother's condition.
If this is the third time he's backed out of a wedding, I would get the lawyer, and then let him consider the options.
Sit back, and plan for a healthy, nonstressed baby. Don't let his arguments take up this time. Plan for the baby's school, the nursery, do the normal things you would as if you did have a decent partner. Get one, even if it is a lawyer.
Don't let the father be the only visitor at the hospital at delivery. Get your family with you.
2007-08-14 11:28:18 · answer #3 · answered by Marissa Di 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well you made the mistake when you first started in the relationship. HELLO! he has two baby mommas, what would have made any difference that you were there? This guy is obviously a player and he is in no means to be committed. Make sure he gives that baby his last name and go after his *** for child support. Be a single happy mom, you don't need to be in that relationship with so much negativity and Drama!
2007-08-14 10:51:39 · answer #4 · answered by Mari 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He did you a favor by putting a stop to it. He has major commitment issues my dear. Run the other way and don't look back. There are much better guys out there, believe me, I know. I was about to settle on a guy similar to yours and then I met my fiance of 4 years... trust me, its worth the wait.
2007-08-14 11:00:49 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should have used more sense, before you got involved with him. If he has 2 other women with children, he is a player. You should have not had sex with anyone, until they were committed to you in marriage. Sorry, but that is one of the reasons that sex is for married people only.
As soon as the child is born, go to court and get legal custody. Have DNA tests done to prove the child is his and have the court order him to pay support.
2007-08-14 10:22:25 · answer #6 · answered by Sweet Suzy 777! 7 · 4⤊ 2⤋
Get married NOW before the baby comes.
2007-08-14 17:27:47 · answer #7 · answered by Lydia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's and irresponsible player with a record of repeating the same pattern. He will give you the same excuse as he told the others. I'm sorry.
2007-08-14 10:29:57 · answer #8 · answered by Blunt 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey, talk to him. Communication in a relationship is so important, that without it, the entire relationship can fail.
You guys both need to talk to each other to figure out what you both want and move on from there.
2007-08-14 10:21:26 · answer #9 · answered by quiet_hands 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Sorry, but it doesn't look good for you.
Seams to me he got cold feet and used your pregnancy as an excuse to get out.
2007-08-14 10:21:51 · answer #10 · answered by Attitude 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋