So I knew about my old fashioned step-grandfather not liking it, but my mom said I would've been better off in public school and I told my dad and he said my grandmother said the same thing! Mostly I'm angry, resentful, defensive,... I'm a little upset though. Shouldn't they have talked this through earlier? I mean, I've had nightmares about going back to public school! I'll be 17 in January, by the way.
Admittedly, I am anti-social, but I havn't really had a chance to be social seeing as how I have no car and no job, and everybody my age are... Unagreeable. But I don't think that's any reason to rethink my education over the past 6 years!
I'll be starting college next fall probably, so I'll be too busy to think about all this and I just want to ask some objective people before breaching the subject once more with closer observers. Sooo.... Any thoughts internet people?
2007-08-14 03:06:53 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Hopefully you won't dwell on it too much since there's not a damn thing you can do about it.
You can't turn back time. My mother said similar things about the restrictive religion she raised me in, which is why I still have trouble getting to know people.
2007-08-14 03:11:40 · answer #1 · answered by airjarrod 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that people that are home schooled miss out on a lot of experiences and typically have far below average social skills. Most 16 year olds seem to have the social skills of a 12 year old in my opinion. I think if you can still get into public school this year, it may be worth a shot. It will be weird and an adjustment (especially going into your senior year), but you can view it as college prep. In college there will be more people, you'll live with a stranger and share a public bathroom with the 20 or so other people on your dorm floor. Will you be ready for that if you aren't used to ever seeing anyone your age aside from tv? It will be tough though if you are going into your senior year as everybody pretty much has their set group of friends and is looking ahead to college. You make the call though, and do whatever you want to do.
2007-08-14 10:49:27 · answer #2 · answered by thedude 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think you are probably smarter than the classmates you will meet soon. Youll see. I dont know why that discussion came up but if it had to do with being social, then its not relevant since as soon as you are in college you will be able to select worthwhile friends of a superior level ( which one cannot do easily in high school) and become yourself. This is an awkward time for you living with them but when you get out on your own you will sparkle and be fine. Its always stressful when school begins . Get some exercise and eat and sleep well. It doesnt do any good to be angry since it eats at you. And dont let people tell you you are anti social. You are just particular about with whom you spend your time.
2007-08-14 11:49:27 · answer #3 · answered by barthebear 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would venture to guess that your anti-social tendencies could be a result of home-schooling. This is the major problem, you can't teach the social lessons learned in a normal school in the home setting. But, not to worry-- you can still learn these lessons now, it's just a bit harder at this point.
I went through elementary school in an advanced classroom with the same classmates from 2nd to 6th grade. I didn't learn how to interact with new people, or people that were much different than me. So, I came out pretty socially retarded. But now, at 25, I feel someone normal in that respect. I still find myself unable to relate to many people, but the anxiety of meeting and interacting with people is mostly gone (this didn't take me until 25 btw).
Now, a lot of people start drinking when they get to college. That's fine, in moderation. But please, don't drink to avoid social anxiety, you'll only end up with poor social skills and possibly a substance abuse problem. That's the best advise I can give you.
2007-08-14 10:29:10 · answer #4 · answered by potsy 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My thought is that it's a great thing that you've been homeschooled. It's saved you from having to go through some of the things kids in public schools go through. I wish I was homeschooled. My children are homeschooled and they love it. Private schools are good, but you wouldn't have the relationship with your parents that you have now if you were schooled any other way. Besides, relax, chances ae your parents are just concerned about weather or not they made the right choice in your life. I'm sure they did talk about it before. These are just some of the things parents do. Kids may not understand parents all the time, but parents don't always understand kids either. Don't sweat it. It'll all pass.
2007-08-14 10:17:33 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Others can't tell you how to feel, hon.
Homeschooling probably has its advantages, but i never opted to homeschool my own children... these days kids homeschooled kids seem to have the option to participate in sports and other activities at their public schools, as well, so they can take part in social events which they might otherwise miss.
The only thing i have noticed about three homeschooled families of children I knew, was that they weren't very outgoing -- some actually clung to their mothers. These things showed me they didn't get the socialization which other children do.
YOU seem to be mature thinking about your future... College might be a big shock to you, considering all of the people, and you might have to make adjustments.
If you dont' want to go to public schools this year, discuss it with your parents... but you might consider the exposure to a lot of others your age might give you some practical experience and preparation for college life, as well.
take care.. i know you'll make the best decision for YOU.
i wish you all the best in your future, hon!
2007-08-14 10:29:13 · answer #6 · answered by letterstoheather 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There's not a whole lot you can do about it. Since you are going back to public school, do your best to make friends. Not everyone your age is disagreeable. As for those who are saying something negative, don't listen. People have very strong opinions on home schooling and are probably being more vocal now that you are going back to public school.
2007-08-14 10:19:54 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You dont have to talk to people, people will talk to you, and you can reply back. Just dont try too hard. Your relatives are probably saying this because they are worried about you going to college, and think it would be best to prepare you for it by sending you to a public school so you become accustomed to what its like.
2007-08-14 10:11:32 · answer #8 · answered by babsa_90 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Forget what they are saying, it's too late now anyway. Why they want to start saying stuff like that now is beyond me. Hopefully you will be staying on campus when you start college. You will make friends and have a blast.
2007-08-14 10:11:01 · answer #9 · answered by comeundone4162 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like they are making THEIR problem into YOUR problem. Are YOU okay with having been homeschooled? If so, tell them to argue among themselves and email you with the final consensus--and you'll take it under advisement.
It isn't as though it can be changed now, anyway...
2007-08-14 10:40:09 · answer #10 · answered by lfh1213 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋