FOR GUYS - What would you do if this happened to you?

Question

You met a girl when you were in your late teens. You fell completely in-love with her, thought she was your soul mate, however she moved abruptly with her parents and you never told her how you felt. You keep in touch through email and eventually she moves back to go to school (not because of you).

You make a mistake and assume that by now she must realize that you love her but then she does something unthinkable. She starts dating someone she meets at school. You end up being mean to her and resenting her. One day you realize that she might really not know how you feel, you ask her and she says that she had no idea. Now she is with someone and doesn't know what to do. I have waited for years to get with her and it just seems like it will never happen. Does it sound like she's doing this to hurt me? What should I do? Should I wait for her?

im using my sisters yahoo account....i didn't want her to see my post.

Answer 1

It doesn't sound like she's doing it to get mad at you. It looks like she genuinely didn't know and hooked up with some other dude. Now that you told her, you sort of left her in an awkward position. However, it's not your fault.

The cat's out of the bag. Ask her how she likes her boyfriend. Don't try to break them up because that just looks bad on your part and doesn't reflect too well on you or your character. Just be there for her and eventually, she'll be your girlfriend.

Answer 2

You've just gotta move on, man... Now she feels guilty when she shouldn't. She's not dating someone else to hurt you. She's doing it because she wants to date someone. You said she didn't know you liked her... So how could she possibly have done it to intentionally hurt you? Tell her it's okay, and that you're over it. And find someone else...

It's not fair for you to wait, and it's not fair for her to feel guilty.

Answer 3

i'm confused.