What's On His Mind?
i'm married and became embroiled in a three year on-off again affair with a guy I knew from a previous job. We had an on-off physical affair, but mostly communicated all day long via email. Just the other day, he said he can't email as much, because of his job, but I wonder if he is just trying to distance himself from me.....he claims he's not and that I shouldn't take this personally. That he needs to focus on work and secondly, that he can't be with me in the way he wants to be. I asked if he's just seeing someone else and he claims not to be....that he would tell me. Is he really seeing someone else, or does he just want to be friends with me? He claims to still love and care about me....
2007-08-14 01:59:54 · 7 answers · asked by kittygirlwhoilove 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It's moot because YOUR married and shouldn't be F#@KIN around anyway!
2007-08-14 02:04:26 · answer #1 · answered by DialM4Speed 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hello! You are married! Get out of this relationship! Maybe this guy is starting to feel guilty that you are a married women and are still having this affair. He is probably getting a guilty conscious and you should too. I can't believe you would just go out and openly tell everyone that you are cheating on your husband and are upset that they man you are cheating with doesnt' want to talk to you as much. Please be honest with your husband and let him know that you dont' love him anymore or leave this other guy. This is not fair to your husband at all or the other guy. You can't have both men so choose one of them and be happy.
What is the world coming to?
2007-08-14 09:08:08 · answer #2 · answered by Sarah 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I can see a couple possibilitites. He may be telling the truth about the job. Emails can take a long time and attract attention.
The other side of it is that he may be outgrowing the relationship, needing either more or less of a relationship in his life now.
The third is that he has found someone who is demanding more of his time, and he sees that relationship as developing to be more important than his relationship with you.
I'd say that he still wants to be your friend, and that the relationship will still sizzle from time to time, but in the end he is going to move on to something or someone else for his emotional needs.
2007-08-14 09:07:45 · answer #3 · answered by drslowpoke 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What's on his mind? He already said that he can't be with you the way he wants to be. He realized how wrong the whole situation is and he doesn't want to do it anymore. You are a married woman and you must not love your husband if you are cheating on him. If you care so much about this guy then you should leave your husband and then get with him. He probably started seeing someone who isn't married that he knows he can settle down with.
Adultery isn't cool.
2007-08-14 09:36:10 · answer #4 · answered by JamaicanGirl 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
What's on his mind? What is on yours?
You are married. What about your husband? You obviously are more concerned about what this guy is feeling than your own husband.
What you are doing is not fair to the man you took your vows with. You cannot possibly love your husband unconditionally if you are having an affiar with another man.
So what if this man is seeing somebody else. You are cheating your husband.
Maybe this other man is developing a guilty conscious for sleeping with a married woman, or maybe he does not want to be involved with a woman who goes home to another man every night.
You are not being fair to either one of these men. You are being very selfish. Sorry, but you asked.
I feel you need to fess up to your husband, and let him decide if your marriage is even worth saving. He deserves to be with a woman who wants to be with only him. Maybe he will surprise you and want to salvage your marriage, but that will take work on your part. No more men on the side.
What happened to "for better, for worse, til death do us part?"
Good luck!
2007-08-14 09:17:36 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your married so why do you care?? Unless you plan on divorcing your hubby and making him number 1 he owes you nothing.
2007-08-14 09:10:14 · answer #6 · answered by ~ ♥ ~ 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Maybe this guy is married now and doesn't want you to find out.
2007-08-14 09:04:29 · answer #7 · answered by Sorry deleted 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋