She was not happy with him and I was able to "sweep her off her feet". We talked about getting married and having a family and now she is telling her friend that she never really got over him. She continues to tell friend that she knows that it is me she wants to be with him but "has to find out 'what if' with that other guy". I fell for her very hard. She has been calling me alot and even wants me to spend the weekend with her family to meet family members I never got to meet before. She is currently still with him but he is out of town for two weeks. She told her friend that she is going to have a "long talk" with him when he gets back. I don't know if she is going to give him an ultimatum or end it with him. I kind of feel that I am her second choice now if things dont' work out with them but it seems as though she is coming back to me as well. VERY CONFUSED!!!
2007-08-14 01:44:32 · 9 answers · asked by Questionking 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You are her second choice, she is keeping you hanging just in case it doesn't work out with this other guy. Do you really want to be someones back up plan?
This has happened to me before, best thing you can do is make yourself unavailable to her, maybe you should go away for a week too. While she is with this other man you need to stop seeing her and her family, don't take her calls and don't call her. I know this is a very difficult thing to do as you are smitten with her, but it is in your own interest. If she sees that you aren't hanging around waiting for her to make her decision it will certainly hurry up whatever decision she does make.
2007-08-14 02:01:46 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dude, you were totally her rebound love, which 99% of the time means you are out. It is not likely going to work out between you, even if she DOES dump the ex. She doesn't need to have a long talk with him. YOU need to have a long talk with HER. Either she is with you, or she is not. If she is with you, then the ex needs to go, pronto. If not, then dump her sorry butt and stay away from her. Keep yourself busy. Hang out with friends. Exercise. Have some fun. DON'T talk or email or text her or answer her messages. Give it some time and you'll get over her, and then you'll be better able to get out there and find a girl that wants YOU. It is not worth waiting for someone who doesn't have you at the top of their list. Don't be her second choice. It will only result in you not being her choice at all when someone "better" comes along. Good luck!
2007-08-14 08:54:44 · answer #2 · answered by Mr. Taco 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She sounds like she is confused as much as you are.
If she is with him but only wants you around when they are apart for business or angry at each other then you are her seicrurity blanket and she need s to grow up and stop hurting you as well as the other guy.
Tell her no you wouldnt want to spend the weekend with her until she is with just you....PERIOD! You deserve someone that is IN LOVE with you and only you, everyone does.
Dont let her controll you and make you her weekend affair, its not fair to you or the other guy that she gets to have her cake and eat it too.
If she cant choose then you choose to make you happy and let her go so you can find the one true love that is out there looking for you.
Good luck.
2007-08-14 11:08:20 · answer #3 · answered by BLUE EYED ANGEL 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow! I think you should focus on yourself. Sounds like this girl you have feelings for can't identitfy what she really wants. She shouldn't be stringing 2 guys along like this. Many girls are afraid to be alone, is that her, too? You don't go back to someone for closure. Closure is a decision you live with, it's not a time for deliberation...
2007-08-14 08:57:03 · answer #4 · answered by loulouthefirst39 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she is playing you like a fiddle. you seem very desperate to me. i don't even think it's worth me giving you advice because after all this - i bet you will still be her doormat. you need to seriously grow some balls and realize this woman is freakin nuts. oh my gosh man, if a girl did this to me - she would be filed under 'bad experience' and i wouldn't even think twice about it. what does she have that no other girl has?
2007-08-14 09:11:51 · answer #5 · answered by Me 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she likes you dude alot and you know she probly had alot of memories with this guy thats hard to forget she holding on to it cause she scared but you have to give her time shell pick the thing that makes her happy and if you trule love her youll be happy with whatever choice she makes no matter if it hurts you cause if it hurts you it probly hurts her .
2007-08-14 08:51:59 · answer #6 · answered by shelly 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have every right to be confused. She should have stayed with you. It's up to you to decide if you want to be with someone who isn't sure of their feelings for you.
2007-08-14 08:52:13 · answer #7 · answered by comeundone4162 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ditch her...think about it man, its not mutual...or at least not equal or she would be WITH YOU, that is so insulting and rude...she doesnt care about your feelings...just another selfish female. sad but tru, good luck my friend, girls will be doing this crap to you for a long time
2007-08-14 09:01:58 · answer #8 · answered by boredatwork 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
nope time to find someone new... do you realy want to be a puppet............
2007-08-14 08:51:21 · answer #9 · answered by tinkerbell 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋