Both my partner and I want a small wedding, just immediate family and maybe a few friends. The only problem is that I come from a HUGE extended family who expect to be invited to the wedding the majority of whome live interstate. From cousins past experience they don't fly over for the engagement but do come to the wedding. Would it be an acceptable substitute to invite them to the engagement party stating in invitation that if they want to celebrate this union they should come to the engagement as we only plan on a small wedding? Is this rude? Would you be offended if you got an invitation saying that? Can you think of a better way to word it?
2007-08-14 01:33:41 · 11 answers · asked by Stiffler 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
There is absolutely nothing wrong with that at all, this is your day not theirs.....if they arent willing to turn up, because they think it is an engagement.....then dont worry about it.
2007-08-14 01:47:11 · answer #1 · answered by Mintjulip 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Etiquette says that's in undesirable style to ask somebody to a pre-wedding ceremony occasion and not invite that concentrated visitor to the marriage. even however visitors are actually not meant to take a present day to an engagement occasion many do. in case you seem at it from the view of the concentrated visitor who grew to become into invited to a pre-wedding ceremony occasion yet not the rite it would desire to look such as you're the two being snobbish or 'searching for presents'. those human beings your mom needs to ask - are they those that she knows yet you do not?... if that's the case then, according to risk not so blah. unquestionably invite them to the reception - with a marriage assertion - saying while and the place you have been married and all those good mannered issues. Congratulations.
2016-10-15 07:03:43 · answer #2 · answered by giardina 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talking to them about your plan of having a small wedding celebration mentioning the factors would let them understand. Inviting them on your engagement party would be okay. It is a part of the wedding if it is celebrated on the same month. Besides if mostly are working they need to plan their vacation.
2007-08-14 01:50:18 · answer #3 · answered by Buggy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What I plan to do is skip the engagement party and have a reception/wedding celebration after the wedding date since mine too will be small.
2007-08-14 01:41:46 · answer #4 · answered by Renn 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Ummm. Kind of like the shower, people who will not be invited to the wedding shouldn't be invited to the engagement party. That really looks like a gift-grabbing ploy, even if that's not your intent. If you choose to have a small wedding, then it's a small wedding you'll have. You really can't have both.
2007-08-14 02:31:29 · answer #5 · answered by Trivial One 7 · 0⤊ 2⤋
I'd axe the engagement party and have a small wedding and throw a huge reception.
2007-08-14 03:24:14 · answer #6 · answered by Terri 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You could have a post-wedding reception, & have everyone come to that. Otherwise, I'd put it right on the invite---something like "please help us celebrate our upcoming ceremony as we prepare for our life together..." Why not? It's your wedding, it should be what you want. I know all about pleasing family, and in the long run, you have to please yourself first!
2007-08-14 01:44:50 · answer #7 · answered by loulouthefirst39 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'd maybe talk to them first and tell them in person so they are aware, then they won't be offended/shocked when you send the invites out.
2007-08-14 01:38:28 · answer #8 · answered by sparkleythings_4you 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, it's rude and there is no way to word it.
2007-08-14 10:33:52 · answer #9 · answered by Lydia 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
JUST THROW YOUR ENGAGEMENT PARTY IF THEY DON'T COME ITS THERE LOSS..... DON'T STRESS OR TRY TO PLEASE EVERYONE!
2007-08-14 01:44:25 · answer #10 · answered by magiczippy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋