I've been with my boyfriend for 2 months and i told him I loved him and he dumped me the next day... He texted me saying that i was beautiful and he could not do this right now and I will find someone special? Why did he do that?
2007-08-14 01:28:38 · 14 answers · asked by No way! 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It sounds like he was not ready for a serious relationship and hearing those words from you made him realise that it was getting serious... ???
2007-08-14 01:33:17 · answer #1 · answered by amber 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Either he wasn't ready to commit, or he didn't want to lead you on by letting you think he might be in love with you.
In any case, you are very fortunate that he handled it this way, most guys wouldn't have the guts to dump a beautiful lady, even if they didn't really love everything about them.
He was a gentleman and do forgive him.
Go on with your life, many times, the chemistry just isn't there, there is nothing you could say or do to change that and he knows it.
2007-08-14 08:36:25 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know what you mean, this has happened to me too. I realized he was just not ready for a serious relationship and there's nothing I could have done to make him change his mind. So don't torture yourself (I know I did) it's was what it was. In the end it's not about you, it's about his own crazy weird issues. You will find someone who deserves to be with you all the way. And one day he'll realize the great girl he had and threw away, but then it might be too late... too bad for him. It hurts and it's hard get over it, but eventually you will. Then you'll realize he was not as perfect as you thought, and you're better off. It's best that it happened now, than later. After you'd got used to being with him everyday and after you got more emotionally attached to him.
2007-08-14 08:49:10 · answer #3 · answered by RGirll 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He told you. "he could not do this right now" is the reason. If you are asking why he cannot do this right now, you're likely to be frustrated because even he may not be able to explain it. Too much pressure, too much complication, to much intimacy, who knows what. My point is that knowing the "why" often doesn't help yo heal. The basis of the question is probably that you are concerned that you are at fault and it you'd done SOMETHING different, you'd still be together and happy. That is fallacious thinking. It just didn't work and isn't your fault.
2007-08-14 09:00:50 · answer #4 · answered by DelK 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
some guys have this mindset of keeping it light and simple. if a girl says she's interested in more than just a good time, this is sometimes interepreted as a signal for them that the girl may be falling deeper and the guy needs to cut it off right away to be fair and not lead her to the wrong impression.
If your intent is to have a long term relationship, then this guy was definately not ready.
2007-08-14 08:35:30 · answer #5 · answered by rtulsiani 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you two are 15. Don't worry about boyfriends and especially ones that don't have the same feelings you do. Also sounded like he just wanted sex and was waiting for that to happen without any feelings getting involved.
2007-08-14 09:12:26 · answer #6 · answered by Axle 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's a guy. Saying I love you implies to a man that you want to go to another level. My advice is to always wait for the guy to say it first. Don't hide your feelings in your actions, just don't be the first to say it out loud. Men are not creatures of love, they are creatures of respect. And by that, I don't mean they aren't capable of loving, I just mean they thrive more on respect, women tend to thrive more on love and relationships and feelings and emotions. Give him a chance to feel it first, then he'll tell you when he's in love with you.
2007-08-14 08:46:10 · answer #7 · answered by Care 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Many guys are afraid of intimacy. All they can handle is physical passion with no mushy mush or emotional connection.
In the future don't say I love you too fast. (For many men even 6 or 12 months is too soon to say I love you.)
It's better to be lightweight and mysterious and keep him wondering.
2007-08-14 08:41:38 · answer #8 · answered by topink 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
fist off he dumped u move on u shouldnt be asking this question in the first place but i guess u moved to fast saying u loved him wen he wants to like lots of other girls
2007-08-14 08:33:05 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he wanted to be a friend with extras!!!
And not get all in a relationship, wanted sex not the commitment
2007-08-14 08:34:21 · answer #10 · answered by LadyinOz 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋