if you dont belive why want a church wedding or baptisement or funeral at a church? like all girls want the traditional church wedding growns and cakes and people if you dont belive its just show.
2007-08-14 01:24:13 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
As for my wedding, yes I did feel a bit like a hypocrite having a church wedding. However, my parents are traditional and as such they were paying for the whole thing. So I didn't pull some bridezilla and tell them how it was going to be, but my husband and I both decided to compromise and do what our families preferred. We did discuss heavily with the preacher that I did not want religion overly referenced due to the fact that the bridal party was made up of pagan, atheist, catholic, and protestant--and numerous friends were Jewish as well. So I wanted to make sure he did not make our wedding out to a sermon. He did very well.
But technically all weddings the CAKE you mention is for show anyway. A reception is just a party The cake, the dress--even if you are Christian, thats just for show. It all started as a method to show how rich you are. Sharing it with the people you love doesn't limit them based on religion either. Nothing religious about that.
I want my child to be baptised b/c for hundreds of years my family has used that as the formal naming ceremony. (I'm sure it dates back to the time when you didn't think the child would live to the baptism). Prior to that date, the family just says "the baby". Again, it will be done by a non-denom preacher who will be informed that I am atheist.
As far as the funeral--no way no how. A bunch of people making themselves miserable because I'm no longer on earth, especially those that believe in heaven and that I am better off. If anything I want a party to remind you to live life, but I'm having my ashes (after any organ possible to donate has been taken) scattered. Right now I want it to be an excuse that makes my parents use their passport. I want them to fly to the Caribbean to scatter my ashes on St Thomas and Cozumel. I want it to be a vacation, since they don't ever take them.
I guess part of my ability to compromise is while I am atheist, I am not anti-Christianity. My husband does consider himself Christian, though he is more spiritual. I wanted to incorporate both of us into our wedding--it may have been different if I married another atheist. Also my child will be free to become pagan, Jewish, or Christian if he/she choses.
It's my feeling that all weddings and funerals--if public--are for show. You go to weddings that have 4 course meals, enormous centerpieces and spend thousands of dollars--you go to funerals of people you barely know, wearing all black and crying as if you are devastated by the loss, when you only spoke to the person annually. It almost always IS just for show.
2007-08-14 02:06:52 · answer #1 · answered by phantom_of_valkyrie 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I certainly would not want a church wedding thank you, I have never wanted a church wedding because I am not a hypocrite, on the same front I would never want a church funeral either, you can have civil funerals where I live with no religion involved at all.
2007-08-14 01:31:41 · answer #2 · answered by sparkleythings_4you 7 · 4⤊ 0⤋
I didn't get married in church. As for my funeral, I'd prefer if it wouldn't take place in church or any religious setting, but if it makes my family feel better (some of them are religious) or helps them deal with the sorrow, then it's not the end of the world if my funeral will be held in church. I'll be too dead to care anyway.
2007-08-14 02:24:59 · answer #3 · answered by undir 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I personally do not want either of them. I am a pagan and want a pagan funeral (I'm not a big believer in marriage, at least not for me, but if I were, I'd want a pagan handfasting and not a christian wedding). I don't follow the tenets of the christian church and would feel hypocritical to be married or buried by something to which I feel no allegiance.
2007-08-14 01:36:31 · answer #4 · answered by Kallan 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I have my own beliefs and it doesn't include a church. I was not married in a church and never wanted to be. I did not wear a "traditional" wedding gown. And I do not intend to have a church service and church blessing. You assume way too much.
2007-08-14 01:41:08 · answer #5 · answered by Keltasia 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't want a Church funeral. I want to be creamated, have my ashes put on a box, and then wet slightly and thrown in small amounts onto a specified list of people I don't like. Then you tell them what just happened to them, and they'll be creeped out for the rest of their days.
Vengence is MINE said the Skalite.
2007-08-14 01:29:29 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
I'd like any funeral for me to be attended only by coyotes and buzzards, with an occasional raven, maybe.
2007-08-14 01:38:15 · answer #7 · answered by Jack P 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Who said that's what we wanted? I thinking you're assuming here.
2007-08-14 01:29:20 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 6⤊ 0⤋
let's get this straight.
i don't need a church for ANYTHING.
2007-08-14 01:42:47 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋