hi everyone i have a problem im in love with someone who is 19 and the problem is i'm 40 it that really really wrong of me to have these feelings for him... yes i could be with someone my own age but i truely do have feelings for him please give me some advice
thanks
2007-08-14 00:57:43 · 20 answers · asked by arierose 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I'm sure the sex will be great and he is probably nice to look at and at that age he can be manipulated BUT what could you possibly have in common with a boy 20 years younger than you? he can't even drink so bars and clubs are out of the question - it will be too awkward and it will not last
2007-08-21 20:20:20 · answer #1 · answered by Big Buddy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My brother 20 years old and he has with a woman 47 years old for 4 years i am 18 and my boyfriend is 15 years and he is the best thing in my life it feels like a flower that's hasn't Bloom yet and when i am with him i open into a beautiful flower each time i see him i feel i am reborn again and full of life there is nothing wrong with loving a young man how about the men who are 40 and up they have girlfriends 25 and even younger is it OK for man only do this since many people are not use to seeing older women with younger men i say if you both want each stay together and whoever doesn't like it let them drink a glass of vinegar
2007-08-22 03:11:39 · answer #2 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Its not really wrong for you to have those feelings. Theres plenty of 70 yr old men that get it up over a centerfold picture. You have hormones and fantasies.....its normal. However to actually act on this, will only prove you have no morals, no ethics, no decency, no respect and absolutely no regard for societies standards. I know it harsh and not quite the same thing.. but paedophile always springs to my mind. You are nearly middle aged, he is a teenager. Theres something not quite right there. And basically unless you are Eva Longoria, or he's really ugly....youve got no chance anyway.. so get over it. And let him ' discover' normally. Do you want the whole town sniggering everytime you walk past? Or the bible bashers turning away in disgust? Everyone judging you.... 'Oh but I love him' ,and he loves me!..were gonna get married when he finishes high school..... that doesnt rate in the world of character judging. Get some morals. He could be your best friends son!
2007-08-22 07:05:46 · answer #3 · answered by blerchus4incapet 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Just go for it. If he has feelings for you also then age does not matter. This subject will come up again some time down the road when you are 60 and he is 39. Enjoy what you have now and deal with the consequences when they arrive. As long as this does not affect any other parties of course.
2007-08-14 08:11:57 · answer #4 · answered by AussiePete 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are a big girl so I'm not going to lie to you and tell you that it is going to last. We both know that in time he will find someone near his own age and it will end.
However, if you have the right attitude, it will be really good for you. He is more exciting and the sex will be ten times better than some old fart in his mid forties. Have fun and enjoy what you have and you will cherish in memory the experiences for as long as you live.
2007-08-22 07:15:02 · answer #5 · answered by ? 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is a big age gap, but not big enough for you to squash your feelings for the guy. The tricky part would be to assess how compatible you are with him on a mental level. Let's face it, you can't expect someone who is only 19 years to act or behave like someone who is 25. But do have a go.
2007-08-22 04:11:51 · answer #6 · answered by Dreamyraj 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What can u possibly have in common with someone that young? - don't take it the wrong way - but seriously, the maturity level of a 19 year old BOY is so far behind.
And think about the mentality of a 19 year old - what can he possibly be able to provide for you???
2007-08-22 02:13:32 · answer #7 · answered by gabster 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A woman and a man come to pinnacles of sexuality at different points in time.
Right.
You have got it just right.
But you will get older as he lives his 20's so expect an ending.
2007-08-22 04:34:28 · answer #8 · answered by Tyson 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow you dont look 40 in your picture
anyway, the thing is that a 19 yr. old is pretty inexperienced. He is still pretty much a boy/ kid at heart. you should gauge how mature he is before you do anything. if its okay then go for it
2007-08-22 04:42:29 · answer #9 · answered by trustmeiknoweverythingever! 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't state how he feels and what you want out of the relationship. What you want and what he may want are two different things. You may also want to consider if it's not just a deep like and lust for the man.
Good luck.
2007-08-21 02:20:23 · answer #10 · answered by brilliantyetconfused 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋