to be angry with the right person, degree, reason, way, time and situation. rather than geting angry easily
2007-08-14 00:00:47 · 8 answers · asked by kau la poo 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
It seems like you're asking for the perfect amount of anger :)
That's really tough, but I'll try and help:
Always ask yourself "is this really worth getting angry about?" Control those feelings, inhale using deep breaths, and take in the situation. Try to choose your battles wisely.
Harboring bad feelings towards a particular person may permanently damage your relationship with them, so try and put yourself in their place before anything comes out of your mouth. At the very least, the empathy will strengthen your argument!
And if you have to get mad, it's a must to tell them WHY you're not happy with 'em. The easiest way to frustrate a person is to give them the silent treatment.
The whole, "treat others the way you want to be treated" thing is really something to think about.
Hope I helped!
2007-08-14 00:39:16 · answer #1 · answered by atomickitty210 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to think of the situation from the other person's viewpoint. Understand what they are thinking, put yourself in their shoes. If you can do this, then usually you can find a way to get what you want without getting so angry that you 'lose it'. Keep in mind that when you are angry, you have lost control of the situation. Angry people are very predictable. When you let your anger show, you have lost the battle.
2007-08-14 07:11:18 · answer #2 · answered by Bruce J 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My favorite answer is "Hating someone (or giving into anger) is like taking poison and thinking the other person will die.
Giving into your emotions is NEVER the right answer.
1st LOWER your voice- a low voice is actually more threatening than a ranting out of control person (it puts you in control of yourself and the situation) then You need to calmly explain to the person your view point, and what will be the consequences of their actions. (Anything from no longer having contact with that person to legal recourse, etc.)
Giving into your anger stops you from being effective, and often distracts you from other things that you SHOULD be focusing on.
It's not easy but it is possible and gets easier with practice.
2007-08-14 07:50:39 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is no one person in this world worth getting angry over.
2007-08-17 20:33:25 · answer #4 · answered by Lisa 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first you should get angry. You have to see this person is wo they are. You may not like what he or she does or did, but that's what and who they are...just ignore and walk away. You don;t have to deal with them.If they do something intentionally to to you make you angry, just walk away.
2007-08-14 07:48:38 · answer #5 · answered by Chocolate_Bunny 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The real answer to what you want is to learn NOT to be angry, not to determine when to be angry.
2007-08-14 07:42:20 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe a little time with a counselor or anger management class could help you discover why you can't control yourself. Whatever the reason it surely won't hurt to do one or the other or both.
2007-08-14 07:07:19 · answer #7 · answered by dawnb 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You have to care about poise and composure.
My life revolves around them and I am always rational. I never yell when angry [or in general] because no one takes you seriously when you yell.
2007-08-16 13:18:21 · answer #8 · answered by Liar. 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋