So my boyfriend is turning 21 in october (im only 20) and he wants to go with all his guy friends to vegas and "go crazy". Meaning..drinking, gambling, clubbing, and who knows what else. This worries me, and yes I trust him... but when alcohol & hot girls (& his friends are all bad influences and they dont like me) are combined.. I am pretty sure things will be going on that I dislike.. Now I cant tell him not to go because that wouldnt be right, after all its his 21st, but I asked him if it would be cool for me to go with my friends..& we wouldnt see eachother until he gets back from partying we'll sleeep in a room alone (ill get the room and be waiting for him there) he doesnt want to do that either because "he wants to be in the same room as his friends because thats where all the fun happens". Im already having an anxiety attack just thinking about it..we have been going out for 1.5 yrs and have never been apart for more than a day.. HELP!
I need to make a compromise somehow!!
2007-08-13 23:39:35 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Let him go and have his fun. You only turn 21 once.
It's a shame he doesn't want a family affair but that's his choice. You can always organise a dinner for two and give him his gift then (either just before he goes or just after he comes back). Don't turn it into a major issue but let him know you are a little disappointed that you won't be there to share with him..
2007-08-13 23:46:33 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your boyfriend is politely telling you that he needs some space. Most guys do not want to see the same person everyday for 1.5 years. He is not going to cheat on you there, because he could just as easy cheat on you in his home town. He's having guys week out. You don't want to go to Vegas because you are too young, and there is nothing fun for you there. Trust him, and try to manage by yourself for a week. I think you will be able to handle it.
2007-08-13 23:47:24 · answer #2 · answered by Kirby 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
This is really tough, it seems he doesnt want girls there, the best you can do is make him promise to behave etc. then just sit back and trust him. Boys do crazy stuff, but if he loves you - he wont. I somehow got my BF to not go to Vegas, but I dont think he was happy about it. Maybe you guys can get a room next door to his, and you share it withyour girls, - that way he will know your near by but he doesnt have to see you.
2007-08-13 23:46:13 · answer #3 · answered by HazeLL 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Stop being like that you'll loose this guy. You trust him right so relax and let him have some fun, for goodness sake you only 20 and you guys are not married. Being too clingy will push him away. Just plan something for him before he goes away so you'll spend some time together.
2007-08-13 23:52:54 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
You say you trust him, so trust him.
If it were me, I'd celebrate his birthday with him before he leaves for Vegas. Do something nice & romantic for him to think about while he's away from you.
When he gets back, treat it as no big deal. If he asks you how you feel about it, let him know that you really wanted to spend such an important day with him but understand that he "needed" to hang out with his other friends.
2007-08-13 23:51:08 · answer #5 · answered by Babs 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
What happens in Vegas Stays in vegas had same issue with my woman i won't ever tell because what happens stays there but if it makes you feel any better we are married now and been together 7 years ! ( But damn that vegas)
2007-08-14 04:21:04 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
No.. believe me..I am speaking based on personal experience. Don't make a compromise or unless you want to make that compromise for the rest of your life. Your bf doesn't love you. He is very immature and it may take time for him to grow up or worse he may never will.
So make up your mind now...
2007-08-13 23:52:06 · answer #7 · answered by Leonie A 3 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Quit being so insecure. Just take a vacation with your friends to some other place. That way he can worry about what you are doing too!!
2007-08-13 23:46:30 · answer #8 · answered by PEGGY S 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I dunno, he's asking alot. Sex is every where, and hookers are legel. If you trust him, it shouldn't be a problem, if not, go with him or dump him, but don't have anxiety over it. You're young, and there are plenty of guys anyway, who won't ask you to worry like this. Sounds like he's a bit of an ***.
2007-08-13 23:48:57 · answer #9 · answered by Bridget S 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
He's going to Vegas for his 21st, you shouldn't be there. Relax and DO NOT piss him off before he leaves.
2007-08-13 23:57:25 · answer #10 · answered by Will W 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋