my mother in law has gone to far, NOW she has tracked all the emails from my computer to know that it isn't 'her son' emailing her.!! IF my hubby told me to email her, I email them in his name, in his account, what diff. does it make where the da*m computer is!! i am seriously upset and I told them since they track my emails, leave me, hubby and our son alone. NO other words were said. what type of 60 yr old woman would want to hurt her son, daughter in law and grandson this way? I truely believe she needs mental help, institutionalized for a bit. The worst thing is, that the rest of the family (his) says its my fault! MY fault for emailing when my husband, who is deployed couldn't do it! , he gets limited time on the pc, if ANY. we get 20 min phone calls and they are once a week!I have enough stress of running 'the show' here, and my husband deployed to deal with their games! so my question is, how do i get them out of our business. I get 'respect ur elders, but they need to respect
2007-08-13 21:31:11 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
me as well, i try and try for over 5yrs to be nice and offer all the help i could to them, and they tell everyone I have a porn site, which Lord, where is my money! lol. but it was a personal ad my sister set up, not even me!
Everytime my husband confronts his mother, she denys it, and he believes her!
i just want her to leave us alone and grow up!
2007-08-13 21:32:42 · update #1
hubby has less than 10 min a week on the pc, and doesn'thave the time to email them, he tells me to do it!!! he is fighting a war!!! i will do what he tells me!!! yes, he will stand up to her when he is on USA soil! if he asks me to email, i will, if he asks me to call i will, thats part of being married!, also, she wrote him a second letter, stating 'why do you hate me' to him in IRAQ!!!! WHAT THE FU CK !! HE IS FIGHTING a WAR! he doesn't need this, and she doesn't care about her child to continue to want the 'pity role'. I have said enough is enough, i am done. I cut them off from me and my son, at least i can protect use, my hubby will have to wait till he comes home to tell her to take a leap of faith!!!
2007-08-15 14:08:04 · update #2
Babe the best you can do is to ignore them!
You'll see, she can't stand you, but she won't be able to deal with your ignoring her either, trust me!
Mothers in law, gosh, they can be such a nightmare.
Just keep trying your best not to fall apart and be strong for your son and your husband who is fighting and doesn't need any of this.
What you need to focus on is to keep strong, and keep a life as normal as you possibly can considering the situation.
Don't waste your energy in sterile fights with your in laws. They don't deserve it.
At the end of the day, if they know what's good for them, they'll learn how to show you respect and support.
Good luck.xxxx
2007-08-13 21:47:09 · answer #1 · answered by Kc 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋
I think your husband needs to grow up too, because he wants you to waste your time writing to her but cannot spend his time trying to believe YOU!
He is very stressed right now, and shouldn't worry about her. Just tell him you are not going to write to her anymore. F*ck her. Let's see if she can handle her little baby not writng to her.
She is a sicko, what a crazy woman, how did she install a program to check what you were writing?? Don't allow her in your house anymore. Does she have the keys? Change the locks. Buy a phone with call ID and don't answer her calls. Limit your contact with her to once a month. That would do it.
His family thinks you are wrong? Forget them, you are better without them. Because "better alone than in bad company" and they aren't doing any good to you.
I respect the elders too, but that doesn't mean that I am going to let them spit in my face and say whatever the heck they want. Respect to be respected. They aren't doing that. You have too much class to waste time with his family.
Next time you are on the phone with him, talk about you, ask about him, forget about his family.
2007-08-15 20:46:23 · answer #2 · answered by helloy 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I'm kind of getting the impression that you're emailing her basically pretending to be hubby/or at least giving the impression that you are hubby ("I email them in his name, in his account" and "she has tracked all the emails from my computer to know that it isn't 'her son' emailing her"). IF that's the case...if were me and someone was 'pretending' to be someone else, I’d be leery of them too (just being honest here). There’s no need for you do that. Even if you use his account (and why not get your own?), you can easily word it so it's clear that it's you (not him) sending the email.
2007-08-14 05:27:47 · answer #3 · answered by kp 7 · 3⤊ 2⤋
If he believes her, then theres always gonna be problems with her. At least my hubby sides with me, whew! We stopped all contact with his mom for the last 8 months, she got the hint and is now not a nag at all.
Oh, I really wish you well. And hope you will get through this. Hang in there.
2007-08-14 04:51:23 · answer #4 · answered by ellen 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
KP is right. You accuse your mother-in-law of unethical doings but you are doing the same by falsely pretending to be her son. You were being dishonest. You could of easily said you spoke to her son last night and he wished me to relay this message to you.
You sound completely stressed out and are looking for someone to blame. As usual it 's the mother-in-law.
How easy do you think the situation is on HER having her son deployed. Imagine how you would feel if it where you son gone.
2007-08-14 10:49:56 · answer #5 · answered by proud grandma 5 · 4⤊ 2⤋
some people these days have issues and has nothing better to do then stick their nose in other people life! unfortunately it has to be your in laws! what i would do is talk to them nicely and tell them that you would appreciate it if they respect your privacy! if that does not work tell your husband that you are cutting them off your life and he should too, as harsh it sounds you but your his wife and you are his family now because this seems to be not healthy for your marriage!
2007-08-14 04:41:15 · answer #6 · answered by loveme 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
lindy lou and kp are exactly right. this has got to stop you cant keep this going on its not healthy nor is it fair to the rest of the family. you both need to grow up.and by the way the blame was not put all on you . both of you contributed to this disaster.
2007-08-14 11:55:55 · answer #7 · answered by sweet young thing 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I feel for you as my mother does this to my own husband and children
and lies boldface to me
She would get an altimatum as you are running the show
and not him right now so you have to controll as you see fit
this isn't parenting its just rude!
its your life your family and your computor
change your password and get new email
and tell her to go to h@#l!!
2007-08-14 05:06:28 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 2⤋
Tell your husband that you are tired of it, and if he wants to email her, he can, but leave you out of it!! Just avoid her calls, and tell him that if he wants you to have anything to do with her again, she had better apologize to you!!
2007-08-14 05:06:01 · answer #9 · answered by PEGGY S 7 · 2⤊ 3⤋