I'm going over to my boyfriends this afternoon and I think we're going to have sex for the 1st time, any help for the pain and what to do to keep his hard on? Everyone says relax but this is difficult!!! Many thanks xxx
2007-08-13 21:21:11 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I know you've probably heard this before, but take advice from another woman. Sex is serious and even if you don't get an STD or get pregnant, there are still very serious things that go along with it. Before I lost my virginity with my boyfriend we decided we wanted to be together forever, but I had no idea of how much it would affect our relationship. Not in a bad way, in a good way because it brought us much closer, we are now one. But when we fight now it hurts more because of this. My advice is to make sure this guy truly loves you and you both have a great commitment to each other that will last forever (even though I understand that things do happen and people break up). Because you only get this chance once and the person you do it with will be a part of you. Don't set yourself up for heartbreak. But, if you know you are committed and truly love each other, then just enjoy your first time boding this way and take your time.
2007-08-13 21:34:33 · answer #1 · answered by mango_kiwi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'll be in the same situation some day soon , and I know how you feel. You don't want to hear "Wait until marriage" and "use protection!" because you've heard all that before just like I have.
You feel like he's the one, and you don't want people giving you a hard time about that. You know that you're supposed to "Just relax!" but you want to know more, I do too. I talked to my doctor about it and she said
1) make sure there's plenty of foreplay, go slow and make sure you get excited.
2) use a condom, it'll make the first time less painful because it'll help keep you from drying up.
and
3) Consider buying some lube, to make things even more lubricated, which will lessen the pain.
Hope that might have helped, good luck :-P
2007-08-13 21:32:16 · answer #2 · answered by Temari 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Better wait till your boyfriend marries you as 'sex for the first time in life after marriage is much less painful, physically and mentally both than 'first time sex before marriage'.
2007-08-13 21:32:09 · answer #3 · answered by sv 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Do you really want to loose it.. A womans virginity is the BEST gift she gives her husband on her wedding night which money cannot buy. Don't loose it . Your husband will adore you for that . As for the pain and to keep his hard on, everything depends on your partners approach and how you respond...
2007-08-13 21:50:21 · answer #4 · answered by Shakera T 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
right this is my tip on each and every thing: do no longer try this. you're 13, and you do no longer additionally be attentive to his age, so he's not your boyfriend. you have no longer have been given a secure area to do it. you do no longer be attentive to what to assume and you do no longer even sound like it is something you elect. On actual of that, it would be seen rape as a results of fact of your age. None of this feels like a good thought. Wait till you're criminal. in case you do it now, I promise that it is not going to experience good.
2016-12-30 12:55:06 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he's into you, he'll stay hard, and for the pain, try to get as turned on as possible and really get into the sex, cuz if you don't you'll tense up, and the pain won't stop at all.
2007-08-13 21:24:53 · answer #6 · answered by find_your_nirvana 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Juz relax and don't think so much. Don't give pressure but to enjoy. U can put some slow music to ease the tension.
2007-08-13 21:26:47 · answer #7 · answered by Stars_122 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It's supposed to be difficult, wait until you are married, don't blow your virginity on some guy who might not be around long. Wait for someone who will cherish the gift.
2007-08-13 21:26:03 · answer #8 · answered by Average Joe 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Firstly, do lots of foreplay and get as turned on as possible, and USE LUBE!! even if you don't need it!
And he will stay hard, just make sure he keeps focused
2007-08-13 21:29:44 · answer #9 · answered by The Eternal Warrior? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just make sure that you are ready, and that he really cares for you. Then BE SURE TO USE PROTECTION. You do not want to be exposed to HIV or some other venereal disease, and you certainly don't want to get pregnant on your first experience!!! Everything else will fall into place..
2007-08-13 21:26:10 · answer #10 · answered by PEGGY S 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋