Im always scared that my girlfriend will leave me.........im scared because i love her more than life itself, and want to marry her very badly.......as soon as im old enough im gonna move out by her and just be with her if everything goes according to plan.
But i cant help but be scared, i mean i found THE one and only girl that i love with all my heart....
The one girl that ill love until the end, the only one who could ever understand me and all my problems
She literally is perfect, and i absolutely love that young woman........(well im young too but...whatever)
But i asked if anythings bothering her and she said: "not seeing me" was bothering her
That makes me worried, because what if she feels like this wont work out?
I mean she loves me very much, everyday when she sees me she lights up and all her troubles seem to vanish, and she tells me she loves me with all her heart but....i dunno.....im just always scared of loosing her and i try not to think about it but
2007-08-13 19:15:40 · 11 answers · asked by The Eternal Warrior? 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
...i cant help it when she says its bothering her.
By the way we are in a long distance relationship
2007-08-13 19:16:07 · update #1
I'm going to drop the penny for you.. she's in love with you and wants to see you.
That's it.
Your fears of losing her are a naturally conditioned response as a provider for her; you are simply fulfilling an evolutionary need. Paradoxically, the greatest risk you run is ultimately caring TOO MUCH about her wellbeing that you come across as insecure and CLINGY. It's cool to care about your girlfriend but don't turn into something that she will ultimately reject as a weak and spineless.
Take care
2007-08-13 19:29:21 · answer #1 · answered by SeparatistPUA 1 · 3⤊ 0⤋
How old are you guys? Anyway I canunderstand you being afraid but no matter what if you love her and she loves you, you must trust her. Im not gonna say o well u guys r too young cuz I had mant ppl say that 2 me you just have to realize that even though u r scared all u can do is love her and let her know that and that no matter what happens u will be there for her. Love is a beautiful thing but sometimes it can stress you jus know that in the end if you guys are meant to be together u will be together.
2007-08-13 21:35:06 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ok.. Take a deep breath!! wow.. its ok.. you have to let this go. Your fear could drive her away. Sometimes you just have to let life happen. I fell madly in love with a guy when I was in high school and spend 6 wonderful years with him. He left me last year. But if I would have spent all that time worrying about him leaving.. I would have missed the good times we spent together! You have to let the good times roll!!! Trust your heart!! Let it love her and let her love you back.. enjoy the dance.. I'm not saying it will end.. but what good does it do you to focus on the negative??
2007-08-13 21:34:50 · answer #3 · answered by Kristen M 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you love her you just have to have trust. If both of you are dedicated to making it work than it will. You can't force anything, but the important thing is that both of you have to want this to work. My boyfriend lives in LA and I live in Chicago and its so hard. However we both love each other and all we have is our word so if we're not honest even once our word is shattered and we know longer will have that bond.
2007-08-13 21:30:56 · answer #4 · answered by Heartbroken 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
hey... why are u so afraid tht ur gf will leave u?? have been played out b4 ?? (i mean in a previous r'ship)
chill out... ok u care for her and alot.... but i think if u keep thinking tt way u might jus lose her... i mean does she know .. wat u r thinking bout?? have u talked to her bout this??
she care for u as well bro.. but dun blow it... if u are to over sentive u will face a lot of prblms and the whole r'ship mite blow... since u are in a long distance r'ship... have faith in her like she does in you...
try to meet up as much as u can ... install a webcam.. than u both can talk to each other ....
try meeting up as much as possible ... mayb in tt way u ll feel more secure... have more confidence,... or u can seek help from a counsellor...
2007-08-13 21:40:31 · answer #5 · answered by SexyPrincess 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
dont be scared. you love her and she loves you. its normal to be scared tho, so no worries. we never want to lose what we love the most, so yeah.
be more confident tho. if she sees you like this she might think youre weak and unstable and might want to rethink things. just trust her and trust yourself. the strong love between you two should be enough to reassure you that everything is going to be alright. and they lived happily ever after
2007-08-13 21:31:41 · answer #6 · answered by JIGGLY 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Wow you're being very clingy. If you keep acting like this shes going to leave you. Tell her how you feel and show her that you love her and want to permanently commit without soundingn needy.
2007-08-13 21:27:17 · answer #7 · answered by Istis 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Separatist PUA has a very good answer, so I will just add a wee bit. You need to go see her. And that's gonna give you the answer.
2007-08-13 21:30:32 · answer #8 · answered by joulsey 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you're depressed honey. in case you do not it to worsen, % to a ingredient the place your not even gonna care if ur incredibly risky or not, you ought to consult somebody, such as you...believe. reason ive experienced this, it could get deadly.
2016-12-15 14:38:20 · answer #9 · answered by jowers 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Something sounds wrong with this picture. Are you much older than her?
2007-08-13 21:28:36 · answer #10 · answered by PEGGY S 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋