How young is to young?

Question

okay so what I am wondering is, when did YOU get engaged, like how old were you and how long after did you get married, Thanks in advance!

just curious I guess, just want to know everyones experience just to see, no reason always wishing for that special day I guess

Answer 1

I was 18 the first time I got engaged. I lived with the guy for 5 years...and I finally got out of the relationship. I changed SO MUCH between moving out of my parent's house and in with my fiance at 18, to age 23 and breaking up with him....and if we had married, we would have dealt with the ugliness of divorce, instead of just the pain of a breakup of a long term relationship.

Now I'm engaged again, to a different man...I'm 26 now, and I got engaged in January. I will be married at age 27. My whole world has changed a lot since age 18...I'm so glad I waited. I now own my own home, have a fenced in back yard for our two dogs to run in...my fiance and I take care of my two future stepdaughters every other weekend...and I'm much better equipped to handle a marriage than I was right out of Mom's house.

If you are not old enough to have completed college, you are too young to get married. Both partners need to go into a marriage with the ability to stand on their own two feet, before they try to combine their lives. Couples who marry at 17 and 18 years old are completely unprepared for the "real world" of rent/mortgages, bills, the stresses of living with another human being other than family. That is why 85% of marriages between people under 23 fail.

I always recommend to young people: If your relationship is built to last, it will survive college. Then, get engaged, get good jobs, and get married.

~Kat

Answer 2

I am 37 , and I am too young , Ever heard the saying " only fools rush in ? Make sure it is the one , no matter what happens , you have to have true love with this person , that means the ability to forgive anything , after all unconditional love is real true love , most divorces today are because of money problems even though you promised richer or poorer , you have to make the marriage #1 in your life , not wealth , or anything else, face all problems together work them out together , Think real hard , if this person has an accident , ( God forbid but it does happen ) if they become disabled , am I willing to take on the task of being a sole provider while taking care of the disabled partner this includes having to wipe them , you have to say yes to this this person you are to marry has to feel the same , no one knows what will happen tomorrow , it is not going to easy , happiness is achieved by facing all obstacles head on together , no matter what life has in store for the both of you , you have to consider both good ,and bad . There will be days of laughing together , and days of wanting to inflict bodily harm on each other , most people say marriage is 50 / 50 , they are not ready for marriage because they are only giving half of them selves to the marriage , it has to be 100/ 100 , if the two of you are are going to make it both will have to give 100% to the marriage. If you can do this you are ready , I actually have someone like this , we been together for 11 years , we still have not gotten married , we do not want to ruin our relationship with all of the legalities and BS that goes with it , we are debt free , and worry free , and even now 11 years later it is still like it was on day one , it has been the hardest road I have ever been on , but we are still happy , and do not wish to marry , why mess with what is perfect.

Answer 3

I got engaged when I was 32 and married at 33. I was happy I waited that long......I enjoyed my twenties and wanted to make absolutely sure I was with the right person. There were a bunch of girls I thought I might marry in my 20's, but looking back, I am glad I didn't. Look at the divorce rate in this country -- more reason to really spend some time thinking to yourself, is this the person I want to spend the rest of my life with? It's the most important question in life you will have to answer.

Answer 4

I just got engaged this summer (in July) and am 21 and finishing my last year of college. We will be getting married in July,( I will be 22) and will be engaged a little over a year...which I think will be PLENTY long =). We will both graduate in May and will be married 2 months afterward. I feel that it is the right time because I am committed and know my fiancee and know God brought us together. =)

Answer 5

It depends on the maturity of the people involved.

For me, I did not want to get engaged or become married until I was through with college, and had a steady job. I was twenty five years old when I married, having accomplished this. Getting married at eighteen was not what I wanted to do.

My mother was married at eighteen, had children quickly. For her generation, getting married at eighteen was common for men and women. For my generation, it was not.

For you, you must decide if being married is truly what you want. Think of the long term goals, not the short term. Marriage and raising children are big responsibilities, not to be entered into lightly. As I said, it depends on the maturity of the people involved, and whether or not they can handle those responsibilities.

So whether or not a person is "too young" to get married depends on how willing and able to handle the responsibilities of marriage and a family of his/her own.

Answer 6

I was engaged 2 wks after I turned 18 and we were married three months later. I think it depends on the level of maturity the person has. I love being married, but that's just the way I am! It depends on the person.

Answer 7

I was 20 when I got engaged and 21 when I was married.

Answer 8

I was first engaged at 15 then got married a month before my 19th birthday. Married for 3 years now.

Answer 9

Engaged at 22, married at 24.

btw, I never thought I would be married that young... I wanted to wait till I was closer to 30. But then I met my hubby and everything changed :)

Answer 10

I just got engaged and i am 23 Hes 27
we are getting married next year so we will both be...a year older ha ha
every ones different....i don't know if age is so much an issue...'alot of stuff you should do before you get married to help build a happy life. pre marriage councelling at your church or at any councellors office is good for people of any age who are getting married!!