I know for a fact that the two families would kill each other and I would rather not have to through all the planning etc. knowing that there would be drama. We are both fairly young (19&20) and can't really afford a extravagant wedding bc we are both in college. Is it wrong to just go to the courthouse and get everything done?
Opinions please
2007-08-13 18:51:16 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
if that is what you want, so be it. if you want to be free from drama and family fighting, that is the way to go. nothing is wrong with wanting that unless you really want a "traditional" wedding and other people are making you think this is the only way you can do it.
2007-08-13 18:56:38 · answer #1 · answered by Christina V 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is not wrong...but why not compromise...I would have a small church wedding and then a small reception in a restaurant that has a catering room. Another idea would be is to have that small wedding reception but have the ceremony right on site. Buy a pretty white dress, order a small bouquet of flowers, white dressy shoes, your man should have a nice suit and tie on with a boutineer. Ask a friend to take photos at the wedding, and use a boom box with favorite CD's for music. Invite immediate family and close friends. Order an all inclusive dinner or do a buffet table. Only have beer and wine...and a cash bar. Soda for non drinkers. Order a large wedding cake, and you my dear will have a lovely wedding day that you can remember always. Keep the guest list under 50 people.
2007-08-17 17:07:03 · answer #2 · answered by cardgirl2 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I TOTALLY understand where you're coming from!!!!
I am 21 and my fiance is 23.... almost 24.... Our families are the same way.. They'd just fight and cause drama.. Plus half of our families don't even talk to us.. And being new home owners and me being in college, we really can't afford to drop a bunch of money on a big wedding either.. Another thing is that we've been together for over 7 years now and some of our family members still say we shouldn't get married.. I know my side is just waiting for us to break up!!
We are really considering eloping.. I am just a little hesitant because I don't know if I want to give up having that special "day".. If we elope, I don't even think we'll tell anyone that we did....
Anyhow, if you can honestly say that you don't care about having a wedding, then I say go for the court house!!
Or you can even do it like my fiance's brother and his wife did.. They eloped and then had a wedding some odd months later.. They didn't tell anyone they eloped though.. But it came out later!! Just remember, it always does!!
Good luck and congratulations with whatever you decide to do!!
2007-08-13 19:01:24 · answer #3 · answered by idgaf 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There's nothing wrong with wanting to have a simple courthouse wedding. If you don't like fuss or want a private moment, or think the money spent on a larger wedding is a waste, then those are great reasons to marry quietly.
If you really want a bigger wedding, though, and are doing it quietly purely to avoid family fallout, you might want to consider waiting and seeing if the situation becomes slightly less volitile in a while. Perhaps there will be less problems if you agree to wait until you've finished your education.
But if you just want to get it done quickly and quietly and won't miss the bigger wedding later on, go right ahead and do it this way.
Best of luck to you both. I hope you have a long and happy marriage.
2007-08-13 19:04:05 · answer #4 · answered by gileswench 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No, there is nothing wrong with it at all. Just make sure you don't regret not having a "regular" wedding. Sounds like something small and simple would be the best way to go for you two since you mentioned drama with your families. It's so much easier, less stressful, and cheaper. You can always go away somewhere and marry there. It's different and less expensive than a normal wedding. Don't rush into anything though =)
2007-08-13 19:05:04 · answer #5 · answered by Mekana 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Nothing wrong with a courthouse wedding...however it might be better to wait until you are both older and have the finances to plan a nice simple wedding.
2007-08-16 01:46:43 · answer #6 · answered by Mom of 2 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go to the courthouse, and then out to dinner. Save up, and later have an extravagant anniversary party. Maybe your relatives will have calmed down by then. Then again, why the rush? Maybe you could wait until after you graduate college.
2007-08-13 20:37:39 · answer #7 · answered by Daya81 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just run off and elope so your families can't spoil your special day. A courthouse is ok but how but getting married in a park with a marriage celebrant?
2007-08-13 19:49:49 · answer #8 · answered by blueswan 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The decision is really yours. I got married the first time in a court house but this time around I want it to be a little more romantic but not real open, just a few people or maybe just get really pretty then run off and get married in some crazy place.
2007-08-13 19:01:29 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If it's what you want, and makes you both happy, then go for it! My fiance' and I are doing a small wedding Friday (yay!) because we want to get married before he goes to Iraq :(, then we're doing the big ceremony next year when he returns with our families. It's all what you want, and whatever makes you happy. How the ceremony takes place doesn't make you any less married. Whatever you do, make sure you have fun with it
2007-08-13 19:00:17 · answer #10 · answered by Phlebotomist 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋