Bottomline is I caught a guy I was seeing cheating. We had physical fight in the parking lot of a bank at midnight. He kept grabbing me trying to shove me in the car, but he didnt leave himself. At one point he began to chuckle. ONLY after he got so pissed off at me by really shooving me hard to the ground which made him stop and stare. I then jumped up and sratched the hood, roof, and trunk of his SL500. Keep in my he his $$$$$. But then he took off, BUT he came back which I didnt get. I pressed charges against him first because of the physical assault (a lot bruising, scarring, etc). I LOVE him still and want to be with him. Is there a chance that he could forgive me and get back together? Why did he come back? Can he forgive me?
2007-08-13 18:08:09 · 17 answers · asked by ambitionceo 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I heard that he had completed a restaining order against me (this is what he told his homeboy), but he didnt complete any type of NO CONTACT order. Also, I left him a v-message today informing him that we should try to resolve this outside of the court system due to us not needing to have criminal charges.
Will he eventually call me back to iron this matter out?
Why did he lie to his best friend about being mean to me?
Does he love drama too?
Why did his dick get hard during the course of the argument?
2007-08-14 16:05:52 · update #1
I'm sure there is a very real chance of him coming back, couples can get into an abusive comfort zone with each other where they just get used to treating each other with little to no respect. He came back in the first place because of just this, so of course he could come back again. Forgiveness? Forgiveness comes from respect, without respect there is no such thing as forgiveness, just coming back and playing out the disrespectful roles all over again. The real question is why would you want him back?
2007-08-13 18:19:30 · answer #1 · answered by compassionatecouncil 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to leave that man alone and he needs to leave you alone. that man stopped and stared at you because he was going to kill your behind. how are you going to press charges against this man and than key his car. where is the logic than on top of that you want him to forgive you and come back to that madness. you need help with your mental faculties. now this man will have a domestic abuse charges against him for what over some non sense that could have gotten you killed, but you want him to come back. i pray that he keep on getting up. and you get some help. he deserves better. so what you caught him cheating he is his on man. you will NEVER be able to control a man actions. seek help sweetie. GodBless
2007-08-14 01:19:57 · answer #2 · answered by Crystal G 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well if it got to the point he made u press charges not a good relationship even if he is cheating. I f u really want him back u need to apolagize and he should definatly. Regain ur trust to him cause HE WAS CHEATING
Truthfully i wouldnt go back i mean he made u press charges.
2007-08-14 01:18:10 · answer #3 · answered by Not Hipster. 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Forgive you? First he cheated and now he has the balls to hit you? Trust me girl, it only gets worse. He sounds like this is a joke and he thinks ur pain is funny. He loves the drama. He'll not only come back, but he'll drive you insane. Get a grip or get his *** back by returning the favor. Remember to wear a condom!
2007-08-14 01:20:52 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If I was him I wouldnt come near you; just for my own saftey. When it comes to calling the police that is the ultimate red flag that means stop go no furthur. However for you, if your a gluteon for punishment, go ahead go back !! If you like being abused, cheated on, and disrespected by all means. Do your self a favor, forget his money and move on.
2007-08-14 01:17:42 · answer #5 · answered by Andrew 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girl get some counseling. This man cheated and physically abused you. He does not care about you. If he does come back it will be only to continue to use and abuse you. Have more respect for yourself and work on your self esteem. He should be begging for your forgiveness, you're worth more than that. I hope one day you wake up and realize it.
2007-08-14 01:14:00 · answer #6 · answered by ctelly22 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to learn to LOVE YOURSELF and RESPECT YOURSELF more then that. How do you think your parents would feel? Are you with him because of the money?????
You need to grow up and set a better examle for your future kids, unless you already have some. You don't need a man who
1-Cheats on you
and
2-Physically hits you
2007-08-14 01:14:21 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes love isn't enough. Real relationships that make you truly happy will be free of that kind of traumatic drama. For the sake of your future, you shouldn't go back. There is someone better for you out there.
2007-08-14 01:13:56 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Lady, are you crazy? First, this guy is in the wrong for his laying a bit of side pipe, & then kicking your asc?
And you want to be with him?
I think you two had better go your seperate ways, or we will be reading someone's obituary.
2007-08-14 01:21:29 · answer #9 · answered by LuckyJack 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I find it odd that after being cheated on and beaten you would want him back. Love has to have it's limits. Its sad to say, but cheaters and beaters tend to keep it up. It's in most of their natures. But disregarding this, if I scratched my boyfriends car (it's his dream car, mind you) he would consider it a personal blow, knowing how much it means to him. He wouldn't take me back.
2007-08-14 01:14:40 · answer #10 · answered by Haylsinator 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋