I was looking through some files on my computer, and found some recently saved photos. They were collages made with a photo of my dad and some other woman. I thought "okay, I know he has friends online, she was bored and starting messing with pictures". I passed 3 photos like that, thinking nothing out of the ordinary. But I reached the 4th pic, not a collage, impossible to be computerized, a man and woman locking lips. (my father was never really all that bright, {obviously}) Now, the photo is a bit blurry, but I think I can recognize my own father's glasses, haircut, & earring. But Im trying to give him the benefit of the doubt at the moment.
I hacked into his aol account and checked out his emails and (3)friends- 2 out of the three didnt have pictures or info to ensure which one was the one of the photo.
Of course I have to tell my mom but how and when?
She is completely stressed out over bills, what not to pay to have money to move this saturday, and
2007-08-13 17:48:43 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
all her other financial problems; she really doesnt need this right now. (Plus she needs his paycheck to move, lol) I know she wont cry over him- in their marriage as I know, there was no true love (another long story) but I'd like to see what some of you think, please. I just dont want my mom to over stress herself out any more than she already is.
2007-08-13 17:52:05 · update #1
It doesnt surprise me, about my dad. But I talk with my mom (unlike with my dad, i have a good communication with her) trust me, she's told me of times she's thought about it, but I KNOW she hasnt cheated. She would have no time- trust me, i know. More than 100% sure she's not, but my dad- I dont doubt it.
2007-08-13 18:07:59 · update #2
Sorry, I should proofread my writting before hitting submit.... If I just said I have no doubt- there's no benefit to anything-
2007-08-13 18:50:56 · update #3
I would go to your dad first. It is HIS place to fess up and tell her. Give him the option to tell her first.
2007-08-13 18:05:18 · answer #1 · answered by justme 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Girl, you busted your dad but before you jump the gun on it, you should seriously evaluate your mother as well. They might be swingers. I'd hate to say things like this but you don't know. Before you go telling your mom about things that your dad might be doing, see for yourself the flip side as well. All people want to believe that their parents aren't like this. I had a hard time dealing with it too. My parents cheated on each other and it was about the rudest awakening ever. I especially had a harder time dealing with the fact that my mom had been with a few woman during all of this. It is not your fault but it is a way of life. Don't call the kettle black if you don't know it is black. I'm sorry for the feelings you may have from this but I tell it like it is. You should ask your father about the pictures first. You may get a response that may surprise you.
2007-08-13 18:02:55 · answer #2 · answered by Steph W 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am so sorry that you are stuck in the middle of this. :( I had a situation like that. I was borrowing my dad's laptop and I looked at the history and there were some nasty sites (luckily he was out of town when they were hit so I'm assuming my brothers or a friend). You need to just quietly talk to your mom about this. It'll rip you up inside and you're young so you shouldn't have to go through that. Your mom will know what to do and then you'll have done your part. Wishing you the best of luck in this hard time. ;)
2007-08-13 17:58:56 · answer #3 · answered by Carrots and bunnies 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You are giving him the benefit of the doubt and yet you hacked onto his accounts? You really should not hacked into other people's accounts. Most people would consider that betrayal also. If you really have proof, maybe you should talk to your dad about it. See how he will explain it to you, hear his side of the story before thinking of going to your mom.
2007-08-13 18:08:03 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I was accused of breaking up a marriage, of which I was not guilt. Now remember if you accuse him and it turns out be wrong you will have damaged your relations with your father. He is the only father you will have, so be very sure.
2007-08-13 18:45:59 · answer #5 · answered by Coop 366 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
welll that si really sad but she need to know!!i say wait for his paycheck and tell her i dont know how long they have been together but if he is cheating on her then its good she KNOWS NOW then 10 years down the line if it was my mom i would tell her a.s.a.p...sorry
2007-08-13 17:56:29 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋