is 13 years a huge age difference?

Question

he's 13 years older than me. and he has a child.

what do you think? i mean it's not like he's old enough to be my dad or anything.

Answer 1

nope...as long you love him and get along...there are couples with a 40 year differences so theres no age limit for love

Answer 2

If you're 16 and he's 29, yeah, it's a problem! But seriously, age shouldn't matter if there is enough in common to keep the interest going. A warning signal would be if stuff keeps coming up that constantly reminds both of you of the generation gap. If the relationship is serious, then sit down and have a good talk about the age difference and how it might affect both of you in the future. As for the child, the only problem is if you find yourself incapable of being fond of him or her. It would be unfair to the father to feel torn between his girlfriend and child, but as long as you remember that the child always SHOULD be his first priority, things should be fine.

Answer 3

If you don't have a problem with the age difference, then don't worry about it.

The only thing I would tell you to really think about and consider, is the issue of him having a child. I don't know how old the child is, I'm assuming the two of you are quite distant in age. Just really consider the pros and cons of the possibility of being looked at as a parent to this child. Being a parent to your own children is difficult enough, let alone helping someone raise their child that they had with someone else.

Good Luck

Answer 4

Think really long and hard about this. Why does a man 13 years older than you not want to be with someone more in his own age range.

I'm not saying it wouldn't work, but it could be an indication that he's immature and unable to maintain a relationship with a mature woman.

It's quite possible you will outgrow him.

Look at his life, his past relationships and DO talk to his EX. He won't want you too, and she may well be bias, but that doesn't mean there isn't much to be learned from a chat with her. Explain your misgivings about the age difference and ask if she'd be willing to share her insights into what went wrong with their relationship.

You may find the chat removes your fears. Or you may run screaming for the hills. One thing is for sure, 13 years is SIGNIFICANT and you shouldn't rush into such a complicated life without looking carefully at what you're in for.

Answer 5

You fail to mention many factors. The obvious is how old is he and how old are you? I would say that if you are 18 and he is 31 then I wouldn't jump into anything. If you are out of school and college and lived enough to think about the possibility of marriage then I would say go for it. My husband is older than me. In fact there is more than 13 years difference and we have a great relationship. I couldn't picture myself with anyone else.

Answer 6

13 years isn't really that much as long as you are old enough and mature enough to handle a relationship like this and with a child as well.
Good Luck!

Answer 7

not much difference depending upon your age at the time . the older you get the less the difference but if you are so young as to not be fully mature that is what matters not the difference in relation to another . the teen brain is physically not developed till around twenty and then oft times the intellect doesn't fully mature for another four or five years.

Answer 8

um if you are 18 then yea 13 years would be a big deal, but if you are like 26 or older than it doesnt matter... my parents are 12 years apart

Answer 9

Depends on your age doesnt it. And who cares if he has a child a child isnt a problem its a bonus!

Answer 10

it depends how old you are. if your old enough to be the kids mm then no it doesn't matter. but if your old enough to be like a friend of the kid (like if your 16 & the kids 13) then YES!!! that's bad