My boyfriend is 31, I'm 21, we never had sex yet, he wants to marry me, i love him a lot, but some people say that told he is too old for me, next thing they never met him- they don't even know what a sweetheart he is- he looks much younger than his age
what do u think?.
2007-08-13 17:32:17 · 90 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
i knew him since i was 18, no he is not married- no kids, my parents like him, he has a stable job, we did not do sex yet because of he's culture so we plan to do sex on wedding night, i don't care to test him for sex before marriage, i'm not marrying him for sex.
he is not rushing me into marriage, he wants to wait for atleast two years for me to finish school.
2007-08-13 18:05:40 · update #1
age is just a number....my most amazing relationship ever was a guy younger than me...doesnt matter in the logn run as long as u two love each other!!!
2007-08-13 17:34:33 · answer #1 · answered by kera 2 · 4⤊ 0⤋
age is not as important as the love, understanding, trust and respect that you have for each other. it is very important to have all the above mentioned feelings in ones heart for the person he/she marries. He seems to love and respect you a lot and so do you hence i dont see any reason why you 2 should not marry. He seems settled in his career and life and then your parents also like him. What else would a girl want... you have the best of all worlds - a settled guy who loves and respects you, and you too love him a lot and then your parents support your feelings and decision of marrying him. Dont think about the people who talk otherwise. Since your parents are with you in this, htere is no reason for you to think or worry about anything. Just go ahead and get married to this guy and have a happy life full of love.
2007-08-13 18:58:08 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
10 years isn't much of an age difference, I wouldn't worry about that at all.
The only thing that might be an issue is that at 21 you've got a lot of things to do! Study, working, travel, whatever. Don't give up everything to get married and have children right away. The relationship can continue on as strong as ever, but it wouldn't hurt to wait a few years before getting married to be sure.
Good luck, sounds like you've found a wonderful man!
2007-08-13 17:38:18 · answer #3 · answered by Janey 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So long as both of u luv each other, age is no barrier. But r u mature enough to really know whether he loves u or not. One thing positive that I have liked that he has not used u so far and he seems to respect values. Observe him in little day-today habits as u want to wait for marriage for 2 more years. If u think both of u r able to adjust to ur routine habits then u must get married to this man. In marriage luv and understanding, personal space matter the most.
2007-08-14 00:29:41 · answer #4 · answered by sudershan Guddy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You will be the luckiest girl in my opinion to have such a life partner who remained with you for so long and haven't taken advantage of you being a girl.
Just wait for two years and get married to the same individual , you need not to think for anyother option in life, he is made for you and you are made for her, this is the truth in your life and accept the truth.
No need to load your life with such thinking of thinking of anyone else , just hold him for your whole life time and be a good wife as he was a good boy friend to you. He will keep you happy always as he is mattured and down to earth.
31 is not a age when a person start looking old how can you say this, age difference doesn't matter's sometimes , the two hearts should love and respect each other , that should be the funda of life.
BEST OF LUCK , KEEP HIM TIED UP FOR YOU FOR EVER AND EVER.
2007-08-13 18:39:23 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
OK well...that is so controversial, and NO ONEcan decide only you. No one knows him like you...you just have to trust yourself. Write down what you're looking for in a man, but mainly write down the priorities in life! What you want to come firstt and when. Don't rush into anything, especially marrige...you didn't state how long you guys know each other. Anyway, my sister is 21 and she's dating a 36 yr. old man. and as if it couldn't get worse, he is divorced and has two children, and guess what, he's a musician, although my sister tells me he has a suitable job on the side. At the begining i was hostile, trying to protect my sister, and whenever i see him i still take any opportunity to sabotage him...but 'm getting used to the fact, that i trust my sister and more importantly she trusts HERSELF. She is happy, and as long as that persists...i will be happy with the match also. He said he wanted to marry her too..but she's going to wait AT LEAST three more yrs. just because she wants to finish college. If he truly loves you and if your sweet-heart loves you..he won't mind waiting around until you're ready. a man a his age should have learned patience by now anyway. (and if u're scared he'll leave you because you make him wait, he's not the one)
oh and just because you didn't have sex yet doesn't mean he's not interested in that...he could just be playing a game...always go for what YOU want...look out for number one..but don't step on number two. ;)
2007-08-13 17:52:12 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I believe age is just a number once your over 21. However with him being 10 yrs older then you should you marry imgaine your future. When you go through your sex drive at say 41 he will be 51 and might not be wanting it. But in the end its how he treats you, the amount of love and respect he gives you and how happy he makes you.
2007-08-13 17:37:35 · answer #7 · answered by texas_angel_wattitude 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Who cares what other people or even the people here think? You shouldn't because those people aren't going to be involved in the day to day of your married life. I say if you love him and he loves you then you found something special. Pat yourself on the back and then flip off anyone who can't see how happy you are with him. Marry the sweetheart elderly gentleman and live happily every after, not to spite the people who don't agree, but because you deserve the fairy tale. Good luck!
2007-08-13 17:41:59 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow - sounds to me that you've got a great guy! A man that is actually willing to wait till marriage to have sex!
Age should never be an issue - 10 years is not a huge difference and if what people are saying is bothering you, don't let it. If you have love, that's all you need!
2007-08-21 17:02:55 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ten years difference is not so big as you make out. Age is just number. If you love him and he equally love you and you are compatible to each other, go for it. Do not hear what people says. Everybody has their own agenda and perspective. To find a sweet heart in this big bad world is not an easy thing and if you find one consider yourself lucky. It is far better to have an older partner in a rocking relationship than a same age person in a bad relationship.
So I advise you to don't leave your b/f who is your sweetheart just because of a frivolous issue of age difference, which is not so wide. As I said earlier 10 years gap is negligible.
2007-08-13 21:26:30 · answer #10 · answered by Jumping Sun 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think you are an adult and at least of legal drinking age and if you love him and want to marry him (not for Money, but for love) then you should consider doing just that make sure you have all your bases covered as far as having a family etc first. Just so you know for sure you are on the same level with him. Doesn't matter what he looks like it matters how you feel and there is an age difference but it's not like you're 17
2007-08-13 17:38:59 · answer #11 · answered by kella l 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋