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My friend and I trust each other really well. She and I love animals and we both talked about how basically everything; including our facebook pass word, is our pets name. I won't do or touch anything, I just wanna be snoopy and just log onto her facebook and look around, for fun. She doesn't know I'm doing this, like the old saying goes, what they don't know, won't hurt them. But do you think it's wrong?..I just want to log on and take a look around, just to read some of her messages and stuff-(messages that she has send or received-and no one else can see)?...* I won't do anything but look-thats it-just because I'm curious to know anything juicy..heehee.
2007-08-13 17:18:14 · 22 answers · asked by Cherryberry 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
Definition of "Integrity": Integrity is not what you show the world; it's how you behave when you think no one is watching.
2007-08-13 17:29:52 · answer #1 · answered by Starscape 6 · 5⤊ 1⤋
My brother and I share a password to a site where we look at collectables like coins and such, and I sometimes see his notes to people and their notes back. It's right there as soon as I log in, and I've never really discussed it with him because it's only the coins that interest me. My bro would never give me the password to his Facebook, though, because that is a lot more personal. How do you know your friend isn't making sure there's things written that she actually wants you to see? Isn't this a lot like leaving a diary where someone can read it?
2007-08-14 00:32:54 · answer #2 · answered by . 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
yeah, it's wrong. Now is as good a time as any to get away from that need-to-know-all about everyone attitude. You are betraying her trust, if she knew you were doing this you wouldn't "trust each other really well" anymore. Those messages are probably personal for a reason. It just isn't any of your business. What if she was doing that to you?
2007-08-14 00:41:00 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Let's put it this way ... have you told your friend you are doing this?
If you have not. then why not?
Because you already know whether it is right or wrong, don't you?
The only real question is, are you going to stop your stalker-like behaviour and respect the privacy of this person you call your friend?
You have broken trust, and if your friend knew this, she would no longer trust you. That is a LOT more to lose than the chance to read someone's personal mail.
Do the right thing now, before you are found out and humiliated ~ and lose your friend.
Good luck! :-)
2007-08-14 00:36:44 · answer #4 · answered by thing55000 6 · 3⤊ 1⤋
And you're her FRIEND????? I think your conscience is already bothering you...that's why you wanted someone else to tell you it's ok. You know it's not. Would it be ok for her to do that to you? It's called DECEIT. I think if you did this...your conscience would bother you so bad...eventually, you'd tell her. (That's what a conscience does to you). Think about it this way: Imagine in your mind that you've already done this and see how you "feel". I don't know you...but I don't think you'd feel good. Why don't you just ask her to let you see it? You said you trust each other. You shouldn't break that trust. And...it would probably destroy your friendship. Take control of yourself..and tell that part of you that wants to do it to "Shutup!" Tell it that your honesty and trustworthiness is much more important than your desire to spy on your friends personal space.
2007-08-14 00:33:34 · answer #5 · answered by Deenie 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Think of it like this...Your mom knows where you keep your diary. She doesn't read it for a long time..Then one day after you two had a real fun time shopping. While you were showing your friends your new clothes. She thinks what the heck, and reads your diary, just for fun..
Would you feel betrayed? Or is it ok with you?
Luka
2007-08-14 00:40:09 · answer #6 · answered by lukabehindu 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
No matter the intentions, the facts is that you know is not correct, you're abusing of the friendship, if is not wrong then why to hide the Truth from her?
If you really appreciate her then stop doing it or at least tell her and ask for her approval.
2007-08-14 00:35:18 · answer #7 · answered by California 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Have you ever heard the saying " Curiosity killed the cat "
It works two ways , one it will kill the urge to look OR , it could back fire and kill the trust between you and your friend ,
I have passwords to my friends things to include bank account ,e-mails ,and credit card accounts on line , he gave them to me just in case of an emergency such as him getting hurt ,I can get in to his accounts to fly his family to be with him , It would take the stress from his wife of having to do this . I have never had an interest to spy on his personal "goings on " I just can not stoop that low just to be nosy. Sorry I could help you justify your quest to know anything juicy .
2007-08-14 00:36:05 · answer #8 · answered by Insensitively Honest 5 · 2⤊ 2⤋
Yeah it's sneaky. I would never do that to my best friend. But it's not like you're going to stop on account of what we say. But when (yes not if, when, they always find out) she finds out, she might be pretty pissed, and not want anything to do with you. Are you willing to compromise your friendship because you are such a brown-noser you cannot respect her privacy? If so, carry on!
2007-08-14 02:08:06 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Your questing your self, so you have better judgment than that. Beside your first line so what is important not just in friendship but basic life as well...Trust in each other
2007-08-14 00:30:27 · answer #10 · answered by Chief Whachusa 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋
It IS wrong. you are betraying the trust of your friend...if she finds out you could lose that trust and the friendship...I know its tempting, but don't do it
2007-08-14 23:23:59 · answer #11 · answered by sweetjadedtears 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋