am i a SPOILED person, or is my aunt a RUDE person??

Question

my aunt told me i was spoiled out of the blue. we were driving in the car, and i mentioned something about my family's trip to nice, france in the summer. then she told me my parents spoiled me and i had no idea how some people lived and neither did i care. well, she's wrong! i am not spoiled, in my opinion, and i am very aware of the situation of the less fortunate people and how they live. i am also extremely grateful for my position in life and i pray my thanks to god every day. dont you think her comment was uncalled for? i told her all of the above, but she seemed unconvinced.
thanks for your opinions.

Answer 1

She is jealous of you. You dont sound spoiled to me. Spoiled is when you throw a fit everytime someone says no to you.
Lots of people go to France that doesnt make them spoiled. She is mean to say that to you.

Answer 2

Like you, I've experienced my fair share of good luck in this lifetime and being the only girl in my family (and the only niece of several well-to-do uncles) I have had my fair share of pampering. Like you, however, I feel as if I have an accurate grip on reality. I know that I am extremely fortunate and I am very grateful every day for the blessings I have been awarded.

With this in mind, I know how much I hate it when people decide to call me spoiled. I feel there are HUGE distinctions between being fortunate and being spoiled. The latter connotates someone who is selfish and undeserving while the former describes someone lucky in life.

So yes, to answer your question, I believe it was completely out of line for your aunt to say something like that. It was rude and childish and she was undoubtedly just jealous of your vacation.

I hope you had a lovely time in France!

Answer 3

maybe both. Being spoiled isn't necassarily a bad thing, parents tend to spoil their children everynow and then out of love. She may be jealous. Everywhere there are people who are more fortunate than others, and those that have to struggle, it isn't right for her to accuse you of that, you can't help that your family can afford those kinds of things, and you shouldn't have to feel guilty. You say you are grateful and you pray thanks, that should be enough. It is a bad attitude that some less fortunate people are guilty of, I myself have been guilty of that jealousy of my own sister, she can afford to spoil her daughter and does, I can barely support my own family. Try to forgive her, and move on. You can be the bigger person.

Answer 4

maybe you are just a bit spoiled, but your aunt was way out of line. Maybe she just feels bad because she isn't in your situation. Don't let this ruin your relationship with her.

Answer 5

i think she's jealous too..

if u think about ppl that are less fortunate than u and pray for that then u r not spoiled..

Answer 6

Maybe a little bit of both.
I mean so what if you are spoiled that doesn't give your aunt or anybody for that matter the right to say that.

Answer 7

just tell her you don't apologize for the lifestyle you were born into.

she is being jealous.

there is a big difference in being spoiled and being fortunate.

Answer 8

if your parents can afford all that...good for you! i bet most of us would do the same if we could afford it...i know i would! is your aunt childless? she sounds jealous...bad karma! she should be happy for you!!!
don't waste your time trying to convince her...her mind is made up.

Answer 9

She sounds like she's jealous.

Answer 10

sounds to me like she's the jealous type.