My ex and I got into a bit of a fight today over the phone about us getting back together. He said some pretty cold things to me and hung up on me when I was crying. He sent me a text message tonight saying "sorry I was so cold. I was just trying to make a point. I really hope you feel better". Now mind you, he NEVER texts anyone EVER and never says he is sorry about anything. I was just wondering if I should text him back or let him feel bad for a while for the way he treated me. I was also wondering if it would be a bad idea to drop of the notes and necklace he gave me in his car tonight? It's not to be dramatic, but I can't stand looking at it.
2007-08-13 16:43:55 · 37 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I am the one who wants to get back together... he doesn't want me back.
2007-08-13 16:58:57 · update #1
Give the stuff to someone else or throw them away...The best thing to do is walk away from this for a little while...Maybe later you two can talk, if that's what you want...There's to much anger here right now to talk, or to do what you want to do with the stuff...
2007-08-13 16:50:14 · answer #1 · answered by ABBYsMom 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No do not text him back if you all were talking about getting back together and got into a fight you should not get back with him. There is no reason he should have been mean to you. The fact that you all were trying to get back together is even more reason why he should have been nice. If there was something he had an issue with he should have acted like an adult and not like an 8 year old trying to win a fight. If he is willing and able to do that when you all are just talking about getting back together he will be much worse once you all are. If you do not like looking at what he gave you then yeah I would get rid of them. I also recommend not getting back with him at all. He sound like he is a little controlling and is more interested in winning a fight with you, than showing you he loves you and cares about you. You can do a lot better there are way to many good men out there that are far better than he is and will treat you good. The kind that if they have a problem with something will talk to you about it in a nice way and try to find a way to resolve the issue. I would just forget about him altogether. You deserve much better than that.
2007-08-13 16:55:34 · answer #2 · answered by Prof. Dave 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As hard as it will be... make no contact for a couple of days and see what happens. Let him sit for a while wondering what is going on. Don't let it go beyond 2 days or who knows what will happen. Take it easy from there and go on a sweet date or something to rekindle all those feelings that got you 2 together in the first place. As for the notes and necklace, hide them underneath your bed- then you don't have to look at them - it IS dramatic to drop those things off in his car - very weak move
2007-08-13 16:49:46 · answer #3 · answered by hawk 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Once you show him you will forgive him right away every time he says he's sorry then he will think all he has to do it mess up and say sorry. Plus why say sorry in a text message, he could have said it to your face the same way he upset you. I wouldn't drop anything in his car though because then you will be stooping to his level. Answer the next time he calls but be very short with him. Give him one word answers for a few days and teach him a lesson. But if you still like him don't be too mean because you don't want to hurt him, you want to just make him appreciate you.. Good luck!
2007-08-13 16:54:33 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I dont know how sincere of any apology it was if he said it through a text message. If he was truly sorry he would of said it over the phone or in person. Neither an argument or an apology should be given via text. I would call him or ask him to meet with you so you guys can talk about like adults and come to a conclusion about if you guys really belong together.
2007-08-13 16:52:03 · answer #5 · answered by skinneechica311 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Who says that you have to play nice?? Throw the note and necklace away if those emotions are connected to it. And of course let him stew in his "regrets". Don't be so easy to get him off the hook b/c that's what you'll be doing if you call him. Don't run behind this guy. You're better than that and can achieve better than him. Remember that you are a future queen so until that time, allow yourself to be treated as the princess that you are. Not like the toad and definitely don't you be the jesture/fool; let him dance to your tune for a minute or two...best of luck...
2007-08-13 16:50:43 · answer #6 · answered by 65sweety 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You would be so much happier if you would quit worrying about a stupid man and concentrate on doing something great for yourself. And do it everyday, even if its just something as small as a bubble bath. You must be young, otherwise you would know it takes a special man to work out problems together. This kind of bs is childish and stupid, and the pity of it is that it takes most of us a lifetime to realize it. Find the right kind of MAN, not idiotic boys that act like that twerp...god they're always sooo sorry lmao! Keep the crap, sell it, burn the notes...have a party.,.. you've probably earned it.
2007-08-13 16:53:12 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well text and say how u feel about the situation. I fhe gets mad then stay breaking up. Throw away a few notes not all. My mom got devorrice and she kept the jewlrey and my dad is ok with it. So if he asks for the necklace back give it.
2007-08-13 16:49:01 · answer #8 · answered by Not Hipster. 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you can't stand looking at it, throw it away or stick it in the closet. There's no need for the drama. And if you guys can't find a more constructive way to work through your problems, then the two of you would be better off moving on before things get more complicated.
2007-08-13 16:48:04 · answer #9 · answered by juliewantstoknow 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
just go give it back to him...if he made you feel so bad while you guys were "trying to get back together" hes not going to treat you any better when your together. Trust me i knwo i've been in the same situation....i talked to an ex about getting back and he did the same thing. These people arnt men they're boys and you want a man....
2007-08-13 16:49:56 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋