My sister slept with my boyfriend almost 4 years ago. He was the one to tell me. We were very close and it hurt very bad. She didnt apologize or seem to care. She said she was mad cause she never had a boyfriend and I always had one. She said she thought I would cheat on him anyway. I dont know what to do.
2007-08-13 14:31:27 · 18 answers · asked by mom of two happy kids 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
He told me 2 weeks after it happened she didnt tell me and yes I left him.
2007-08-15 07:54:42 · update #1
Well, forgiveness is a virtue. Forgiveness can also make your life easier. It would be much easier for you to forgive and forget what happened, and live your life. And that is something for you to decide. I don't know if I could forgive, or forget, what either one of them did. If you do forgive them though, you should be proud of yourself.
2007-08-13 14:39:00 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I have to admit that there is no excuse for somebody hurting you in that way however my sister passed away when I was 18. It has been almost 7 years in October. I wish everyday that I would have gotten to say goodbye. I was upset with her at the time for choices that she was making that took her life. I wish now that I wouldn't have been upset to the point where I wouldn't talk to her. I give anything to turn back the hands of time but I can't. Just like Eminem says "Life is not a nintendo game, you don't get second chances" I say you only live life once. Let her know how much it hurt you and that you won't stand for it to happen again. I wish I would have never did the tough love thing because now all I do is live with regret. I'll never see her again. I know that even with me talking to her she would have passed but at least I wouldn't have that hanging over my head. Be sisters, love one another and help each other. Nothing more important in this life then family. I tell you this to help you because in the end, it's something really not worth living with regret over.
2016-05-17 06:52:45 · answer #2 · answered by lorinda 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have every right to be upset. Your sister didn't show you any respect in what she did. Her reasoning may make sense to her, but it certainly doesn't make it right. But she is your sister, and (speaking from experience) a sisterly bond is too dear to break. Forgive her, but do it when you're ready, and when you forgive her, let it go.
As for your boyfriend...what is his deal? I say, leave him in the dust. You don't need anyone that can disregard your feelings and you so easily and then wait 4 years to tell you!? What a jerk. Dump him.
2007-08-13 14:40:59 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
How can you still be mad at your sister, but not your boyfriend? It takes two. If you can forgive your boyfriend then forgive your sister.
She is your flesh and blood and she will be there for a long time past any relationship. If something were to happen to her and she died and you were still mad at her you would never forgive yourself.
2007-08-13 14:39:27 · answer #4 · answered by mommymystic 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Forgive your sister, even if she doesn't ask forgiveness.
YES, she could have been jealous, or envious or wanted attention, so she was in competition with you. Despite, the motive, keep your head up high forgive her, and be good. You are going to lead the way, and she'll look up to you, girl!
You will remain sisters forever til the end of time, so be kind to her even if it hurts.
DUMP your boyfriend, pronto, period. ( this jo-jo is not a family member and will sleep with someone else in your family if you keep him in your life.)
2007-08-13 14:43:08 · answer #5 · answered by Born Valentine's Day 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Look at it this way , he slept with her also, You going to forgive him?? She is your sister and it was 4 years ago. an awful lot of water has gone over the dam since then.
2007-08-13 14:37:33 · answer #6 · answered by fuzzykitty 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
She did you a favor. Men who will cheat will cheat. It's that simple. She determined for you whether your boyfriend was a cheater. He was.
Women who cheat will cheat as well, so that means your sis is one too - might want to keep her away from your guys but forgive her anyway.
You only get one family.
2007-08-13 15:11:12 · answer #7 · answered by CoachT 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You can forgive her, but your trust is something she should have to earn back. Make her prove to you that she's really sorry, and try to get a man who's not that desperate that he'd sleep with your sister.
2007-08-13 14:44:09 · answer #8 · answered by Mrs. Wall 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Bible says we are to forgive anyone that hurts us, no matter what the situation. Just be careful next time you bring your boyfriend around her.
2007-08-13 14:37:22 · answer #9 · answered by ? 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
After 4 years you and your sister should sit down and really talk about this.....and why she didn't respect you enough to leave him alone.
I hope you're not still with him....he's a jerk too.
2007-08-13 14:38:15 · answer #10 · answered by daljack -a girl 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋