My ex boyfriend and I broke up 5 months ago. Before we dated, we were best friends for about 6 months, then dated for 9 months. During that time I was the happiest I have ever been. I broke up with him after about a month of him working all the time, never talking to me, and me basically having a relationship with his voice mail. After I broke up with him, I realized how much he meant to me and tried to get back together with him, but he completely disappeared with no phone for almost 3 months. Since he reappeared, we've only talked a little bit because he was working 2 jobs, one during the day, one at night, and was taking a couple classes. But now he's in rehab for drinking and gamboling.
I don't know if I should give up and forget about my best friend, or if I should keep trying to work things out and be friends. I've been trying really hard and he doesn't seem to have any intentions of being agreeable. I don't know how to move on, I just miss him so much. Any thoughts?
2007-08-13 14:31:03 · 11 answers · asked by WanderingGnome 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
By the way, I'm 17 and he's 23.
2007-08-13 19:03:37 · update #1
Since he has PROVEN already to be unreliable, you would be a fool to keep chasing him - if you DID ever catch up to him, things would be the same as the are now and you would just get frustrated all over again, like a dog chasing it's tail.
2007-08-13 14:38:35 · answer #1 · answered by BikerChick 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well you must firt put your feelings first if he is making you feel sad you need to take control and find other things to do rather than call him b/c it only makes you depressed when he doesn't answer. let it go until you can call him and it not affect you by making you feel sad. once you get all the sadness/crying out of your system you may realize you don't even want him in your life. try it. it can't hurt to not keep him around, but it is hurting you to try and make something work so my advice is to put your feelings first and remember you only get ONE life so live it happy
2007-08-13 14:38:30 · answer #2 · answered by Divine_10 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
what do you really have to work out?
you do not see him
he disappers for 3 months..drinking/gambling
he has no intentions of being agreeable
he wants no relationship with you and seems to be telling you that...time to move on
2007-08-13 14:36:53 · answer #3 · answered by fretochose 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
attempt coming up a romantic 2d so your female chum will experience the spark and perchance she'll slowly attempt to make her pass kissing you. via the way do in no way ask a woman for a kiss otherwise it purely kills the 2d and it regularly feels specific whilst issues purely take place needless to say. in any case stable success!
2016-10-02 06:51:07 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You cannot help who your heart loves... Maybe you need to reach out just so you know you did. It might work out; it might not. But at least in 10 years you won't wonder "what would've been."
2007-08-13 14:37:58 · answer #5 · answered by THE QUEEN B 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think god put you back in his life for a reason. to me it sounds like hes going thro a whole lot right now. nad he might need an old time friend to help him thro it. and thats what you are here for. so shine!!!! hahaha
2007-08-13 14:35:05 · answer #6 · answered by Grace W 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry to say you should just move on and save yourself further headache and pain.
2007-08-13 14:34:43 · answer #7 · answered by JG 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm seeing red flags at every turn here.
2007-08-13 14:33:50 · answer #8 · answered by Penelope Smith 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
souunds like he is not ready for a relationship move on
2007-08-13 14:37:13 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
move on...drinking and gambling is a bad combo to get involved with.
2007-08-13 14:38:55 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋