i used to have a normal relationship with my boyfriend, but i dont know what happened couple of days back....he is now saying that he cant stay with me, though he says he still loves me. if i have to be with him, then we have to be just "as friends". its killing me.......i am not able to lead a normal life anymore. i want to die. i am feeling like committing suicide. help me guys. tell me a way to convince him so that he doesnt leave me. i love him a lot.
2007-08-13 14:23:33 · 7 answers · asked by jenenia 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
First of all, NO one is worth killing yourself over. NO ONE!!!
As much as it hurts, you will need to let this guy go. For whatever reason, he feels the need to move on. If he truly loves you, then he will come back. It really has nothing to do with you, and everything to do with him. You just be who you are. If he wants to leave, then he is not right for you just now. You will be able to move on, it will take some time. And it will hurt. Do alot of crying to cleanse your spirit, do alot of praying for strength during this time. He just better hope that when he does come crawling back, that you are still weak for him. My guess is that during your time apart, you will realize what a good catch you are and how he messed it up, and how many guy would be lucky to have someone like you, and that you will not allow him to do this to you a second time. You will find someone that can remain committed. This is definitely a learning experience for you. He is actually doing you a favor by telling you. What if he didn't, then you would really be miserable, for you would know something is wrong, but not sure what it is.
Remember: It is not you. It is HIM!!!!!!
Please think things thoroughly through, before you do something that would further hurt you. He has already caused you enough pain. Enough is Enough!!!!!
2007-08-13 14:35:13 · answer #1 · answered by DONNA W 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First of all, let me say that I can understand your pain; however, wanting to die will solve nothing .Pain is temporary while death is final.Your piece did not mention a reason for ex-boyfriend's apparent of mind or feelings.Human feelings is not something you can turn on or off like you do a light bulb so this is something he has been thinking about for a while.So I suggest you sit him down and ask him to honestly tell you what is going on.Listen to all he has to say, ask questions, and then make a decision.After all is said and done, if he still elects to go his separate way, there is nothing you can do about it but to let him go .As painful as that might be for you to do ,at least you can still maintain your dignity and self-respect. Maybe, you can even make him miss you and realize that you are a special person and woman.I hope things work out real good for you.
2007-08-13 21:49:39 · answer #2 · answered by abbeycoolit 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you really love him, then you should respect his wishes of wanting to be friends. But you guys should talk and if you're brave enough, you shoud ask what the reason is for him not being able to stay with you. After he gives his reasonings, use your judgement on whether or not moving on with your life (it'll be hard at first, but I'm sure that you can do it) or waiting for him, but still continuing your life (In this way, it doesn't seem like you're desperate. When he comes to his senses, he'll appreciate you more).
As for convincing him...you can't really make him stay when he wants to be released. It'll put a strain on your guy's relationship. Again, talk with him.
2007-08-13 21:34:21 · answer #3 · answered by tipsy36999 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Calm down....find out what went wrong and be sad for a little while (yeah I said be sad because being sad is normal when something like this happens) think about whether his reasons are truly valid and work on yourself once your somewhat back to who you used to be. Otherwise if you go into the next relationship (yes there will be a next one) you will commit the same mistakes that did you in the last relationship (if it was your fault).
2007-08-13 21:33:02 · answer #4 · answered by stickitywit 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You wouldn't want to force someone not to leave you when you know very well that he really wants to. Believe me, it feels a lot better when a person really loves you and stays with you because he wants to and not because he's forced to knowing that his girl might kill herself. Let go if you really love him a lot. I know this hurts but I gotta say it anyway... Threatening to kill yourself to make him stay when he wants to go is selfish. I know you hurt right now. Go on and cry, be sad... after that, start trying to move on. There's so much to your life than a guy who doesn't want you for a girlfriend anymore. Remember, it's his loss and not yours. Prove him that by loving yourself more.
2007-08-13 21:38:37 · answer #5 · answered by rogue 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh get over it. NO guy is worth dying over at your age, or any age.
He's likely changed his mind, decided he wants space. Be mature and just let him go. You're not going to force him to not leave you whether you love him or not. Clearly the feeling is not mutual. Time to move on.
2007-08-13 21:28:35 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
oh my god this is pathetic you are going to kill you self over a guy...grow some balls or something and tell him to get lost my god women
2007-08-13 21:28:36 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋